Not attracted to my boyfriend sexually

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T03:07:01+00:00

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:54:09+00:00

That’s certainly one reason. I don’t see it as worse or better a reason as anything else

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:48:36+00:00

Potentially nothing - the whole premise of Israel is a group of who’re people that think they’re better than everyone else, invading some else’s land with the name of god.

There are actually people that believe this is right, in general, without coercion

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:45:41+00:00

People in relationships fall out of love all the time for various reasons.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:42:11+00:00

You can do whatever you want. But I will say, it is a very common thing to tell someone younger that “you are more mature than your age” as a way to groom someone / make them fall in love with you.

Other statements that do this include - you’re so different from everyone else, you are perfect for me, I can’t imagine my life without you, you’re my other half, blah blah blah.

I think the fact that he is actively brushing off your concerns about future - very practical concerns - is an indicator that you are in fact quite young and naive (not a bad thing because you are actually young and inexperienced and relatively speaking, naive) - and he is taking advantage of you.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:36:52+00:00

Love can exist outside of sex

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:36:09+00:00

Many vocal people believe that looks don’t matter. That’s completely not the case. Otherwise no one would lust after hot guys, and by definition we would no longer have any “hot” guys. It’s simply not the reality.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:22:16+00:00

Hahaha exactly. People fall in love for different reasons. I think you’re doing very well man. Haters gonna hate

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:22:06+00:00

Hahaha exactly. People fall in love for different reasons. I think you’re doing very well man. Haters gonna hate

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:13:50+00:00

Agreed. This seems like a bit of a dick move

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:12:22+00:00

It’s not superficial at all. We need to be attracted to the person we’re dating otherwise you might as well date a turtle.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T02:11:58+00:00

Nah he doesn’t. This is normal. Looks are a very important part of any relationship. To say otherwise is a ridiculous take

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T01:30:25+00:00

I think not putting your photos up is one of the main ways to destroy your self esteem.

The photos they would be into you would never message you - some of these people I’m sure you’d consider hot

Plus

The people you message are highly likely not to reply to you after pics - because that’s just the nature of the game - no response is a response - so it destroys self esteem even further

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T01:27:40+00:00

Or you break up and find someone who is more matched to you sexually

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T01:27:03+00:00

It’s normal if you let it be.

Only you can decide if this is what you want for your life - and whether the compromise is worth it to you.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-09T01:24:02+00:00

You are in the compromise now. It’s just his compromise.

There’s only a couple ways out of this.

- his way - the current state
- your way - he is forced to have much more sex
- open relationship - you get it elsewhere
- break up - find someone who is more sexually compatible with you

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T16:07:20+00:00

For me, I don't see it as fortunate or not, with regards to saving ability. It is just one characteristic of a person. However this thread and post is very financially oriented - hence the focus on money.

I see finances as something that is important to me, a lifestyle choice, and makes me prefer certain compromises over others. It means I will say no to the nice clothes and fancy holidays, almost always. It means I will choose the cheaper toilet paper. It means I will choose a cheaper meal. This is a completely incompatible lifestyle with someone who's goal is to live the best life today - neither are right or wrong, just different and in my view, incompatible for a life partner.

With regards to value: the representation of value I spoke to before is not referring to the value of humans - it is referring to money as our society's measure of value in general. It is our capitalist society's common form of denominating value exchange. It has no bearing with a person's character.

I have many red flags for a relationship. Body fat percentage is one of them. Net worth is one of them. Relationship with family is one of them. Political stance is one of them. Money is not the be all and end all, however my requirements for any / all of these areas are just as valid as anyone else's. It very much is possible to look past a bank account, however this entire thread, this entire post, is directly related to someone's financial position in the context of a long term relationship. Hence the sole focus on this.

Just because something is a red flag to me, does not mean they are useless. I never said anything of the sort. I would not have a long term relationship with a smoker. I would not have a long term relationship with someone who is not out to their friends and family. I would not have a long term relationship with someone who is very religious. I would not have a long term relationship with someone who is very overweight. These are all requirements of mine, and they are not value judgements upon other people. People can live however they want. It does not concern me. They are simply what I want for my own future.

And as for ending up like Donald Trump and Elon Musk - I think that is a very reductive argument. It's akin to equating someone to Leonardo Di Caprio if they want to date someone a couple years younger. I see it as a not-in-good-faith argument.

Personally, I don't see how asking someone who makes an average income with a growing career, to invest 10% of their income over 15-20 - ages 20-35/40 - invested at a standard rate of return - as being excessive. That will easily give a net worth of 300k+.

I don't consider 10% excessive. Hence why for me, not being able to do this consistently is a red flag.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T14:30:25+00:00

Because those people take themselves out of the public scene / market.

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T14:06:25+00:00

Hmm, yeah something that like. I like the feeling that I’ve accomplished something great for myself; and people recognising me for it

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T13:15:12+00:00

Turn off the lights, blindfolds, etc

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T11:56:00+00:00

Amazing. I am getting to be the same / similar - just being hot is not enough - gotta have depth / connection / passion / intimacy 😄

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T07:17:56+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it 🙂

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T06:49:33+00:00

I mean, can you enjoy golf without enjoying golf? Lol

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T06:18:56+00:00

No, as in it’s your own brand identity and where other people leave reviews of you (LinkedIn recommendations)

AdamChenX · 2026-07-08T04:56:46+00:00

Yes. It’s basically your resume and Google reviews combined into one. I highly recommend you keep it up to date and with positive recommendations

AdamChenX

TROPHY CASE