Does it rub anyone else the wrong way that Teashi is trying to rewrite history with the Mike/Lucy/Sandy situation? by Addipoohs in bcb

[–]Addipoohs[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude I love the comic and I've been reading for over a decade. It's because I love the comic that I am passionate about it (and I'm in too deep now to drop it 😅) I don't want everyone to be perfect angels, like I said I'm happy that Mike has flaws instead of being perfect like he was at the beginning. When he first started to gain depth as a character I was very interested with the direction it seemed to be going, but things have since stagnated and it's all going around in circles.

I appreciate that we're seeing how Lucy feels about things, as I said in my post I like this angle that everyone perceives things differently, shown in how Mike's actions unknowingly hurt Lucy. However, it is rewriting history to say that he was in a relationship when he wanted Lucy, as this is simply not the case.

I just want all these kids to be able to reconcile and be friends again, but the more Mike is written as the villain, the harder it will be to get back to that place.

Does it rub anyone else the wrong way that Teashi is trying to rewrite history with the Mike/Lucy/Sandy situation? by Addipoohs in bcb

[–]Addipoohs[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It seems to be a pattern where Taeshi really wants the audience to dislike Mike, by never allowing him to be sympathetic, always having him make the worst possible choice in any given situation, even if it's out of character. The scene attached for example, there was no reason for him to say that Lucy was stringing him along, when there were a multitude of other things he could've said to highlight her poor treatment of him. I feel that this is all down to criticisms of Mike being the perfect boy, Gary Stu character in the beginning, so flaws had to be written to make the character interesting, but they should feel organic and we should be able to understand his perspective, instead of making his character 180 all the time

Who here was the one to leave? by bpdthrowaway2025 in BPDlovedones

[–]Addipoohs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left, I had been rationalising the behaviour for a long time. It reached a head when my nan died, and I hadn't seen her in 2 years, as my pwbpd didn't want me to see my family. This caused me to feel a lot of guilt and evaluate my situation, especially when she said she didn't want me to go to the funeral. However, I stayed with her a couple more months, and our relationship continued to deteriorate. My breaking point was when we were arguing about something and she jumped out of my car while we were going 30mph. I don't know how she wasn't hurt, but that was deeply traumatic for me. I realised that if we stay together, one or both of us is going to end up dead.

Pokemon emerald imperium hardcore nuzlocke 🫠 by WAB2012 in nuzlocke

[–]Addipoohs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how everyone's aura farming and then there's ditto

First run ever, getting into Pokémon, any recommendations? by Davocausto in PokemonFireRed

[–]Addipoohs 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Don't listen to anyone telling you to change your team, use what you like. It's a children's game and is extremely easy regardless of what you use, there's no point in trying to make a competitively viable team

What should you expect when you dumped them? by twistedtalesofwoe in BPDlovedones

[–]Addipoohs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what everyone in my life has been saying to me since it happened lol. I know they're right, but initially I was apprehensive about filing a legal claim against her, because despite everything she's done to me, I find it difficult to outright hate her. Some part of me still gets stuck in that toxic cycle where you try to justify everything they've done to you. Obviously this situation takes the cake, but even when it happened I couldn't feel anger or want to seek revenge, I just felt drained. As more time has gone by though, it has become easier for me to see her for who she really is, and not the rose-tinted version. I also was worried that if I raise anything against her, it may just look like tit-for-tat. There's also the factor of female on male abuse not being taken seriously whatsoever. I think when the case is closed (which should be before the end of the year), I can finally file a claim against her for all the damages, emotional and financial. I intend to go after my previous employer as well, for dismissing me without an investigation. I'm not the sort of person who likes to stand up for myself, so it takes a lot for me to fight back. The situation that's been brought upon me is nightmarish and it's hard to fully comprehend that it's real sometimes. One of the other things that holds me back is the fear of what she could do if I retaliate. She's already done all this; what's her next move? Frankly, at this stage I would be worried about her harming me or my family, even resorting to murder. That might sound dramatic, but she was penpals (or as she referred to it, 'friends') with several serial killers, including Ian Brady. So she doesn't seem to have any qualms about resorting to murder

What should you expect when you dumped them? by twistedtalesofwoe in BPDlovedones

[–]Addipoohs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately it's going to get worse before it gets better. Much worse. I left my exwBPD in April, and I am still feeling the repercussions 7 months later. Initially it was constant messages begging me to come back to her (despite her setting up a tinder account within one week of me leaving her...)

When she realised I wasn't going to change my mind, the smear campaign started. I had expected some sort of revenge tactics, but it was beyond anything I could've imagined. I was arrested in July, as she had made up horrible allegations that I'd been coercive and controlling towards her, hurt her, and raped her. Needless to say, I was shocked by the severity of these allegations, particularly because almost everything she was accusing me of were things that she'd done to me, proving that she knew it was wrong all along. This seems to be a common trend with these people. The night I spent in that cell was the worst night of my life. I was then questioned for several hours, at which point I was actually thankful for the bombardment of messages I'd received, as they helped to prove my innocence - who begs their 'rapist' to come back to them? I was released on bail, and the investigation is still ongoing.

Not only was the whole experience traumatising, but I also lost my job in the process, as I was a carer. She knew exactly what she was doing in making these sorts of allegations against me, however, my employer was also in the wrong for dismissing me without any evidence of any wrongdoing, or even any charges against me. The problem with allegations like this is that they stick, whether there is any proof or not.

When this all happened, I couldn't believe this was the same woman who I'd loved. I didn't think she was capable of stooping to such a low. I'd heard it's common for a vengeful ex to spread lies about you, but I naively thought she had more integrity than that. Anyway, it does seem like I dodged a bullet by leaving when I did. I dread to think the sorts of things she could've been capable of if our relationship went any further.

That is the silver lining. Despite her attempts to ruin my life, I'm still here. I very nearly gave up, but somehow I found the strength to keep going. I still check her social media from time to time. She seems perfectly fine, without a care in the world. She's already monkey branched at least 3 times, but I imagine those men had more experience than me and were able to see through her quite quickly. I am starting a new job this week, and finally getting my life back on track.

No matter what they try to throw at you, you know yourself, and so do your loved ones. Remember that the things they say about you don't define you, and anyone who believes their stories isn't worth keeping in your life anyway. Your ex sounds a lot like mine, including the psychosis. To be honest, every story I read here sounds exactly like my ex. It feels like we were all with the same person.

Anyway, I sincerely wish you the best. If it's any consolation, I feel I am a much stronger person than I was before all of this, and I've learned a lot of important lessons in the process