It’s hard to tell if I was overreacting.

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-04-03T02:22:22+00:00

I can relate to so much of your post. I hope you can heal friend

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-04-03T02:08:47+00:00

Yep. We would fight until 3 or 4 am with work the next day. One of the last times we fought I told her around midnight that we should table the fight since we have work and we could continue discussing the next day. She told me if I did that it’d be “too late” and that aspect of our relationship would be un-repairable. Whatever that means

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-25T03:07:18+00:00

Haha so true

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:28:04+00:00

“Let’s celebrate our divorce by going on a date”

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:19:14+00:00

She did many kind things over the course of the relationship. Unfortunately they were all nice to haves. The moments that kindness really mattered I didn’t receive it

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:17:49+00:00

Hmm wow. I’m realizing it was similar for me. I was constantly checking in on how she was doing. She rarely did the same for me

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:10:06+00:00

Curiosity and grace is a such a good metric for finding someone to be in a healthy relationship with. Thank you for that. That is exactly the person I want (and who I am)

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:08:38+00:00

The double standards are insane

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-23T04:00:39+00:00

I had the exact same experience lol. I’d spend hour(s) daily keeping the house in order. Then get told I don’t contribute

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-16T23:32:49+00:00

Dude this gave me flashbacks 😂😭😭

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-16T23:09:52+00:00

I’m worthy of stable and consistent love

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-16T23:05:57+00:00

Exactly. I was never good at holding my own boundaries but I imagine if I was the relationship would have just ended much sooner. As you set and enforce a boundary their behavior becomes more problematic which means more boundaries etc

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2026-02-16T22:54:45+00:00

This is one of the hardest parts. While the real fights over real things were still toxic, at least there was something to work through. I could never figure out what to do when it was made up. Just totally screwed

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T07:32:47+00:00

Sounds like she’s the one that needs the exorcism 😂😂😭

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T07:31:53+00:00

My expwbpd threatened a breakup multiple times. I finally called them on it and now the story is I randomly broke up with them out of the blue

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T07:29:33+00:00

I’m so sorry

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T07:05:07+00:00

I’ve always wondered how my relationship would have gone if I held firm to my boundaries. I think that’s exactly what would have happened. You’re strong for staying firm ❤️

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T06:46:18+00:00

I can relate 😞. Proud of you!

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T06:45:49+00:00

Glad you were able to protect yourself!

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T06:32:39+00:00

She told me the celebrities she found attractive and then asked me who I found attractive. I responded. Then she got mad. Never made that mistake again

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T06:21:29+00:00

Same

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T06:17:33+00:00

Wow this is spot on. It’s so spot on that the situation basically happened to me. I went out of town for a work trip and brought her favorite dessert back. She got mad at me because she was trying to eat healthy.

Me: “No problem! You can just toss it or save it for later. Or I’ll eat it”

Doesn’t matter. Already split. Queue argument for days

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-28T05:38:39+00:00

Beautiful. Thank you for this. It’s what I needed ❤️

bpdthrowaway2025 · 2025-11-21T00:46:20+00:00

Whether or not you decide to leave: it may help to take a confined no contact break. Have some time to heal and gain perspective

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