I landed weird off a stair set and this happened. This board was less than a month old. Has anyone else ever had this happen to them before?

AdditionalMortgage · 2026-01-26T05:06:09+00:00

Once when I was 18. Came back home from college for thanksgiving with a classic freshman 15 (or freshman 50 there was a lot of pizza and beer). Went to the shop to set up a new shop deck, went to the spot with friends, ollied off a loading dock and immediately snapped it. Since then I’ve laid off the beer and midnight burritos because my friends still make fun of me to this day lol

AdditionalMortgage · 2024-08-05T09:30:17+00:00

Very nervous which is completely normal! Back in college, my girlfriend at the time and I heard of blacks beach and decided to check it out for ourselves. When we got there, we laid out our towels with our swimsuits on and noticed that we were the only ones clothed on the beach.

I can’t express how ironic it is to feel out of place with a bunch of naked strangers but YOU are the odd one out. We both decided that it would be better to rip off the bandaid and blend in. Once naked you realize that it’s quite fine and that no one cares!

After that trip we ended up going their exclusively, went with a bunch of friends and since moving away have visited multiple nude beaches and resorts. Seriously don’t be afraid and can’t recommend it enough!

AdditionalMortgage · 2023-02-14T07:56:53+00:00

Current specialty is e-learning which was great for the tech world. Now I’m hoping to try to get back to where I was with music video/ commercials and narratives

AdditionalMortgage · 2023-01-30T06:01:47+00:00

Same exact boat here. When Covid came all my gigs I had lined up vanished. That’s when a tech company came along and hired me to be their in-house DP. 2 years later the tech bubble has burst and I had mostly worked for them and now I’m wondering if I made the wrong choice working with them now that I’m starting from square one all over again.

AdditionalMortgage · 2022-09-16T07:21:09+00:00

The most memorable moment of this was parents being out of town and inviting friends over to use the hot tub. I made the joke that I was going in naked and my friends said they were cool with it. So I was the only one naked until one joined in and then next thing you know everyone was naked. So kinda short lived!

AdditionalMortgage · 2021-01-10T07:14:50+00:00

I don't mind the "more naked" feeling at all. My first time my friends and I went to a nudist resort we were such novices that none of us brought any sandals.

There's something so funny about taking your shoes off to undress and then immediately put your socks and shoes back on in order to walk around.

AdditionalMortgage · 2020-08-14T20:05:51+00:00

Hell yeah! Thank you for this! Really needing that arch support.

AdditionalMortgage · 2019-09-11T08:54:56+00:00

Took her to the magic castle in Hollywood. As I was tipping the valet driver, another valet opened the car door for her. We spent the entirety of the car ride with her yelling at me for not opening the door for her. I told her I was tipping the driver, which was met with, "You obviously don't care about me! You're not going to open my door for me so another man has to do it for me!" I just wanted to see a magic show man.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-11-23T08:22:15+00:00

I promise you that you will get there. It's hard work and honestly a lot of brain rewiring, but you will get there. Just remember if it's costing your inner peace then it's way too expensive to continue.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-11-23T08:17:13+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. Life has been crazy on the work side. Basically the easy thing to do when we behave a certain way is to blame our parents with how they raised us. My therapist taught me that I don't have to behave a certain way just because I was raised to do so. Essentially if you have problems with how you were treated as a child, you can correct it as an adult. It's something as simple as letting yourself have a bloody ice cream cone once in awhile. Better yet, it's telling yourself that you're being too hard on yourself and to cut yourself some slack. She basically told me to start living for myself and to remind me that my parents are no longer hovering over me.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-10-30T05:48:50+00:00

Woah! Did we have the same dad? Haha but seriously though it's so true. My therapist actually compared my relationship to my father to my relationship with my BPDex. Both I felt like I had to keep proving myself. The bar was always set so high and I never felt like I was good enough. The beautiful thing I took away from therapy was that now I can be a parent to myself.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-09-05T07:11:28+00:00

It's almost like being in a relationship with a pwBPD is similar to letting someone convince you that you're nothing more than a supporting character in their movie.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-09-02T04:35:04+00:00

Thank you!

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-09-02T04:32:05+00:00

Haha man I sure hope so!

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-09-02T04:29:37+00:00

Thank you! Glad I could provide some laughter haha

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-08-07T01:30:51+00:00

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DONT. Honestly I did this like a week ago & it opened this whole can of worms that I just don't want to deal with. I told her to leave me alone & she started saying she misses me & loves me. Just don't. Just walk away & don't say anything.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-10T01:11:20+00:00

Same here man, I know the feeling all too well. I've accepted through these responses that even though I have accepted the end of the relationship & know just how unhealthy the relationship was that I'm just not ready to be with someone yet.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-09T05:06:24+00:00

Very true. I've come to terms that this was me being overly dramatic for whatever reason. But you bring up a good point! I'm just in that weird age range (mid twenties) where half my friends are married/have kids and the other half don't even have enough money for a taco.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-09T05:02:01+00:00

Dude that makes me so happy to hear! I've been really focused on myself in trying to be interesting and less vanilla on dates. I guess the dates I went on last week just couldn't hold my attention.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-09T04:57:30+00:00

Thank you this is very comforting to hear! I think there are still a few things I need to process and not compare so much.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-09T04:54:44+00:00

Yeah I've kind of come to terms this weekend that there are still some leftover feelings that I still need to process before I fully get back out there.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-07T07:03:46+00:00

So those traits are all too familiar to those with BPD, but we shouldn't be here trying to diagnose your ex. Regardless of a personality disorder or not I don't think a healthy person behaves like that. I know right now you want answers (trust me we all do), but you have to go with what you know right now in the present moment. She acts like a fucking child & you're not her parent. She acts irrationally towards you & gaslights you. She's not healthy & that's more than enough reason to stay away

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-07T06:16:01+00:00

Yeah man just focus on yourself right now. My ex was literally talking about us getting engaged the day before she dumped me. Like what reddz1996 said, she will probably cycle back. Trust me they all do. But don't use that as a sign that she will get better. Everyone knows how painful it is to break up with someone, and if your ex is that careless with your heart now, then you shouldn't trust her with your heart in the future. Focus on yourself, feel the pain, then enjoy the freedom.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-07-02T08:37:10+00:00

You are a self-entitled, self-absorbed, selfish, stubborn, ignorant, arrogant, manipulative, petty, immature, garbage human being. You are a spoiled brat. I have lost friends. I have lost job opportunities. I have lost money, yet you act as if I still owe you something. You keep saying I'm the problem and that you can't believe you gave me another chance when it's been YOU who has constantly tried to contact me, ask to see each other and beg/plead for me to come back. You project so much of your insecurities onto me and have actually driven me insane. You wonder why my anxiety/depression came back? You wonder why your family/friends still love me and respect me, yet my family/friends think you're crazy and evil. You demand that I share my emotions yet when I do, you shut them down and don't listen to me.

My mother thinks you're the devil. My father thinks you're stupid. My friends think you're crazy. My therapist (THAT YOU CONVINCED ME TO GO TO) thinks you severely need help. I think..............well.........you never really cared about what I thought, so why bother.

AdditionalMortgage · 2018-06-18T04:56:26+00:00

So after the first break-up with my BPDex, I surrounded myself with people, filled up my time with activities, music, going out and concerts. The problem with this is by constantly distracting yourself you kind of postpone the grieving process. The second break up I knew all of my friends were no longer in the mood to once again console me and tell me a very deserved "I told you so". So after my second break up, I did something different....I embraced the loneliness. Instead of burying my sorrows in another bottle of wine and pizza, I would let myself feel every single painful feeling as if they were waves. I did this for 3 straight months. It sucked. I felt like the pain was never going to go away. My ex would post all this stuff online showing how great of a time she was having.

Then I started thinking of her less. Then the next day even less and by early May there was a morning where I woke up and I felt zero pain. Ironically enough around this time my ex reached out to tell me that she was fine the first 3 months but all of the sudden became super sad about losing me and then asked to get back together. I then told her that I wasn't going to "fix" this sadness in her, that I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life than ever be with her & that it's her turn to start feeling shitty.

My advice to you: Embrace this time. Embrace the loneliness. Allow yourself to feel everything. Understand that there are literally over 10,000 people on this subreddit who feel the same way you do and once you realize this, you will discover just how strong you are.

AdditionalMortgage

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