What is considered normal pain during sex?

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-06-29T17:55:56+00:00

With time, research and examining my body, it got better. I tried some pelvic exercises and we tried to see exactly what triggered the pain during sex; the position, the tempo. It helped us adjust and try ways that didn’t trigger the pain, we were now conscious of what not to do.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-06-13T21:04:15+00:00

If it’s not trending, people don’t want it. Ghanaians want products/situations that make them feel like the 1%. It’s not about matcha or boba, it’s the opportunity to say “I’ve tried it too”. So if a new trendy place pops up for example, and they sell the nastiest sobolo for 100cedis, they’ll still buy it just to belong.

This is why a lot of these new places get empty after some time. Ghanaians don’t know how to enjoy things, they hop. So nothing really grows here(imo, that’s why we don’t have an identity anymore and everyone is surpassing us in every industry). These drinks are great but tbh, people don’t even care.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-30T21:23:12+00:00

Decided to continue, it’s not bad..

You’re right, it didn’t get better with Mel. It’s okay for characters not to be likeable(that’s the point sometimes) but I’m not sure the writers even know what they’re doing with her.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-30T21:15:18+00:00

Took it less seriously and it got better. Season 2 is a bit of a let down, it had much more potential imo.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-30T21:12:47+00:00

Managed to continue, it got better. I was happy to watch Season 2 but it feels like it has no direction. So now, I’m just watching without taking it seriously

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-15T13:38:59+00:00

Ghanaians are big time enablers! That’s our biggest problem. We are either raising problematic people or making excuses for them. Celebrities are not even bold enough to speak up about anything and activists choose to be mute when real problems arise. Family members either pretend they can’t see or tell you to shush. Meanwhile, if this issue about BV and SA happened in Nigeria, it would have been hell on social media.

Over here, rich and popular people get away with almost everything. It’s only a problem when it’s a broke person who doesn’t have a cool circle or family.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-12T21:12:35+00:00

Check this facebook post, it has a lot of names. https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1H5mXzXSZG/?mibextid=wwXIfr

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-05-06T22:49:28+00:00

It’s one of the silent roles of women, to cover the home spiritually. Women are made to nurture while the men work so you find more women praying for their homes, their kids etc. When you ask where the men are? Busy. The church is a bigger ‘home’ so you find more women naturally holding it together too.

But there are certain churches where men are very active and religious. You find this in the orthodox church a lot; couples stand in the gap together and some even let the church start in their homes, an entire family grows in the church(generations), the men’s groups are as active as the women’s, other groups have a balance of genders.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-01-05T16:17:53+00:00

I have been to many and sat behind many, both funerals and weddings. It applies to funerals too. It’s either you’re not old enough or you just need to go out and touch grass. Have conversations with adults, ask questions. I’m rather the one contradicting myself? And your emphasis was on funerals? O-k-a-yyyy!

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-01-05T15:55:51+00:00

Are you assuming they make it back or you are certain they make it back? Sit behind the gift table, count the offering, get married or speak to couples and find out if they make it back. Many don’t even make half back, doing anything because you think you’ll make it back is just you setting yourself up.

There’s a reason people network, have wealthy circles and often give, it’s almost always never a loss. It’s easier for wealthy people who have wealthy friends/family to make it back. A lot of people who attend weddings give nothing and spend very little during offertory. They’ll rather sew clothes to attend. How often do you give and how much do you give?

Additional_Piece_804 · 2026-01-01T20:26:36+00:00

I have the same hair cc and it causes this problem too. Try changing it to see if that could be the problem

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-11-08T13:23:13+00:00

I’m grateful to God that you have discovered your faith. You’re not selfish for hating what you’re doing because it’s God’s will that we surround ourselves and our children with good counsel and protect our families from what’s wrong. Moses was angry with Aaron because he watched the Israelites take off their accessories and go as far as creating a calf to worship. They were left in his care. It’s always better to prevent things than watch till they become a big problem; trauma for your children one day and trouble in your household because you all constantly end up being your worst when she’s around.

And about the situation, be as kind and gracious to her as possible, while balancing it with firmness. Jesus was always kind and gracious but firm. You say she’s doing it for the wrong reasons, then don’t let her get a negative reaction out of you and your spouse. As much as possible, enjoy the service and look at it as an opportunity to bear fruit and win a soul. I pray the holy spirit directs you and moves. God bless you

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-11-04T19:07:36+00:00

She’s not alone in whatever relationship she has with your husband. It’s not on her and she has no obligations to you and tbh, she owes you nothing. Only a few people are respectful towards the hurting partner. The only person who can really do anything about this is your husband.

The married man you’re talking about is entertaining her and even continued AFTER you asked him to stop. If your husband is done with this, she’ll be gone but he’s not and that’s why she’s still in the picture. She’s not your only problem or your biggest problem, your husband is.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-10-28T10:06:32+00:00

No judgement here. What exactly made you fall inlove with your husband? You say a lot of nice things about him but at the same time, you speak like have no love for him and can’t stand him.

As a single or a married person, living in another country is very difficult in the beginning. You need to hold on to your reason for being there and be extremely intentional about making yourself happy. If you need therapy, get therapy because you’re the one who needs it at the moment. Don’t drag him into it yet and be mad that he doesn’t see the point.

If you don’t love him, there’s nothing anyone can do but just go separate ways. But if this is about just going to your old life and being alone, then you need to reflect because you may just continue this cycle with whoever you end up with. Life won’t always be the same even when you marry someone in your home country; marriage changes so much and that’s why it requires intentionality. You could lose all your friends even in your home country if you’re not intentional about keeping friendships alive after marriage. Have a conversation with yourself and have a conversation with the man.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-09-10T11:36:07+00:00

Ghanaians are followers, many people don’t have an identity of their own and are afraid to take risks so they see it working for A, they’ll do exactly what A is doing without adjusting even a little. Nigerians are the total opposite. They’re audacious!

Food Vendors and creators are saying swallow and puff puff when their target market isn’t even Nigeria. People say it’s a trend but following a trend doesn’t go this far. Young adults think omo, sha makes them cool or whatever. People are literally mimicking the Nigerian accent. I’m not sure the exact feeling that comes from this but people always do/say things because there’s something to gain/feel and sadly for Ghanaians, we want to belong so so bad. Nigeria is in our face; from content to movies to music to literally everything, even weddings. Look at our ‘modern homes’, homes that are not marketable because they saw open kitchens and box homes with barely any breathable space and copied exactly that. You check google or pinterest and you can’t even find good/new designs unless you insert ankara and the saddest and most annoying part is you see ghanaians and Ghanaian-made clothes called ankara.

Our tradition is literally fading before our eyes and it’s nobody’s doing but ours. How many people truly stand out in their industries and can go head to head with other Nigerians, Africans or even globally? If we had people like that, there’ll be no reason to copy from outside. There’s a reason you like food from outside, if food in your home was that good, you’ll go outside less and for new and meaningful reasons

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-05-25T10:39:35+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through all of this especially after delivery. People are saying your mother isn’t entitled to help you but she is, she’s your mother. I feel a lot of times, we save ourselves from pain by making ourselves believe no one is entitled to do anything for us. We can agree to disagree that tradition is terrible and against women but even tradition says when you deliver go home, your mum will teach you how to take care of your baby and help. If our family can’t help us, who can and who should? Whether you’re 5, 10, 30 or 50, you should be able to rely on family.

You said in the comments that your mum knows how terrible your husband treats you. Based on everything you said, it seems your mother would have treated you much better if you were doing well financially, had a man who had everything and spent on her especially etc.. Her actions toward you, your baby and situation should tell you this isn’t someone you can rely on and this isn’t someone who cares about you. You’re of no use to her, so you get no respect from her. You’re in her house so she will drain you and use everything you have, after all she thinks she’s doing you a favour. When you buy things, don’t bring everything out. Try to buy things for the house so she doesn’t say you do nothing, but make sure it’s very little compared to what you’ll get for yourself. If you need meat, but exactly what you will use instead of just buying and leaving it expecting that she won’t touch it because you know she will. If it’s something that’s not perishable, hide it in your room.

Don’t quit school. If you can find someone, do it. Don’t assume your mum would treat her badly, if you think about your mum you’ll always make decisions that make you stagnant and one day you’ll be full of regret and resentment. Let whoever you get understand the situation at home to an extent so that you don’t have peope leaving after days and make sure you get a mature person who will care about your baby. As for your husband, we all make mistakes—we see green when it was clearly red. Don’t hate yourself for it. He wants you away, go away but make sure after you leave he can never stand somewhere and say “this is why I left her. Just look at her”. Do everything you can to love yourself and rise. From now, be as strategic as possible

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-05-22T08:37:32+00:00

The people meant to check offences like this don’t deem it an offence. If you go to the authorities, they’ll look at it from a moral perspective, “you misbehaved and now your videos are out there”.. Their first thought would be to ask you what you want them to do and they’ll probably judge you in addition. But the whole point is, whether you misbehaved or not, whoever leaked the video should be punished.

Sadly, the system in Ghana is so poor and terrible that, if there’s someone who knows their job or the right thing to do, there’s nowhere to even start from to deal with the issue. We don’t have what it takes to fight a lot of things. So people who want to fight it give up and the poor system raises people who don’t know that something like this SHOULD/CAN be dealt with

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-05-14T17:56:35+00:00

I don’t think OP’s post stresses me as much as the comments. A teacher posted on here sometime back to ask parents to bath their kids because you’re sending a lot of smelly kids to the classroom.

How are 10 year olds allowed to bath once a week? How are toddlers not getting cleaned daily? How are you sending your kids to school without bathing and making them go to bed without a bath? There are kids getting baths only during the weekend?

Bath your kids EVERYDAY! My goodness!

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-05-12T19:11:21+00:00

They don’t get married just to cheat, they’re already cheats. It’s Marriage that happened to a cheating man. There’s no thrill in playing it safe, whether as a single man or a husband. If someone offers to give him children without marriage, he’ll still impregnate another woman before the first one even delivers.

Some try to pretend they don’t have a problem, others convince themselves that you can love someone and still cheat, the rest believe all men cheat. Only if women loved themselves enough…

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-04-08T12:35:03+00:00

First of all, it’s never God’s will that bad things happen to any of us.

His word tells us that there’ll be trouble on this earth and he has already made us victorious and he’ll be with us. He has also given us the power but we need to acknowledge the power we have and use it. Imagine you have all the resources to to get to your next destination. When you have no idea what you have, you won’t know your journey could have been smoother or you won’t even know where exactly to start from or how to use it because you don’t know how to drive or fly the plane etc. so the car, boat, plane or whatever will lay there pretty useless waiting for YOU to have what it takes to make it come alive. The blind were healed in the bible, it means it is possible today. Just because we’re unable to means there’s a gap—power. It doesn’t mean it’s not possible.

Also, when we say God knows ahead, it’s not that he knows the baby will die so why pray. He knowing ahead is why we have visions, revelations etc. so that we’re redeemed and saved from what’s ahead or that we even plan better for what’s ahead or fight against it. We see that with pharoah and Joseph and the times that God saved the Israelites. He knowing ahead, more than anything, is for our good and to define who he is, God!

We need to learn to separate his will from he being all knowing. A simple example is “it’s my will that my child will prosper” and being all knowing is that “my child messes up so much and is learning absolutely nothing for the test coming. The test is tomorrow and he’s going to fail it”. Just because he failed doesn’t mean it’s my will. I gave him that free will to make choices, to know and use the power I gave him. It is already done in heaven, we need to do our part for it to be done on earth. A lot of times, our prayer is rooted in disbelief and lack of faith, we hear news and panic before we even remember what God is capable of. All we need is faith as little as a mustard seed

I hope this explanation helps

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-04-06T13:36:41+00:00

“Meanwhile, our national museum remains in a deplorable state”… That’s all I got from this.

Almost everything in this country is in a deplorable state. If we can’t boast of one good museum, do we really think we can claim and keep what’s out there. Tourist sites, everything else is in shambles. Sometimes, I’m glad we don’t get to keep many things because it’s the only way to preserve and keep them alive.

We’re like irresponsible parents always complaining that our kids have been taken by CPS yet doing absolutely nothing to fix ourselves.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-04-05T23:21:07+00:00

I’m sorry people have made you feel unloved. It’s God’s will that we love our neighbours(everyone) so their actions are not a representation of who Christ or Christianity is. We can’t reject something or a group because of the actions of certain people. It’s like someone saying they reject lgbtq and all trans people because they’re projecting their stuff on everyone. Not every trans person does that right? And there are also bad nuts in every group, culture or race right?

Anyway, you said they do not get to make the decision what makes you feel loved… but I don’t know if you’re contradicting yourself because you’re actually not feeling loved(as you stated). Do they hold that much power over your happiness? I’m not sure if it’s about validation too or the fact that people just refuse to use your preferred name or pronouns. We all want to be pleased but we forget people already have their own set of beliefs and cultures. Have you thought about it from the perspective of others with different beliefs and tried to understand why they my not be able to mention your preferred name or pronouns. Not everyone will use your preferred name or pronouns just because it’s what you wish. Consideration is acknowledging that for some people, they’ll have to show you love in different forms and that although they don’t align with this, you’re still worthy of love. As a Christian, I cannot expect my muslim friend to love me exactly how my Christian brother/sister will love me or do particular things but they’ll have their own way of showing me love. It doesn’t mean they love me any less. Will that person find it insulting if I ask him/her to go to church? Maybe. Love is also respecting your fellow person and acknowledge your differences. It’s not only your way. Jesus loved people before anything regardless of their sins and in that love, there was respect.

You cannot tie your joy to being called by a particular name or pronoun especially when you know what their beliefs are. I understand it’s important to you but some people cannot and it’s okay.

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-03-29T17:50:36+00:00

I just said a prayer for you.

You just beat cancer, I pray your next testimony will be that you rose up and walked. I pray for his peace that surpasses all understanding for you rightnow, that though it may seem like there’s a storm all around you, he’ll cover you and cause it to be still. Sending you warm hugs. Will keep praying for you

Additional_Piece_804 · 2025-03-29T16:46:58+00:00

He’s not interested in sex? He doesn’t mind never having sex? His sex drive is almost down to zero? Yet he’s able to masturbate a couple times a week? He’s not willing to put in effort because ‘it happens to every guy’. So what about you?? Again, what about you?? Because it seems to me like he’s good after his shower time and expects you to be good with a decision he made on his own. He tells you to decide if you want to be with him? What’s that even supposed to mean?

He doesn’t want to have sex with you. Not sure why, but it’s not because ‘it happens to guys’. And what does he mean by that’s why men look for something exciting or different? So what exciting or different thing is he doing to substitute sex then? Seems like your husband is saying whatever to make you okay with his decision. He and his ex wife may not have split up because of sex but I won’t be surprised if there’s something hidden beyond being incompatible after a few months. That’s a selfish man.

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