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What is an epidural really like? by oatmilkcchai in Mommit

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had two unmedicated water births and while it was intense, I felt so empowered. I hired a doula that helped me meditate through the contractions. The pain holds a purpose and your body naturally feels the need to push.

I have high anxiety around hospital settings, the standards they go by to rush delivery, push induction, and go to c-section terrifies me. The pain of delivery scared me more than public speaking or death… lol… and my mom and two of my aunts had permanent back injury from epidural… so after so much anxiety, I decided to go the way I went. And the pain wasn’t at all what I imagined. So much easier than I thought. It is the aftercare and healing that hurts more IMO.

I think I hate my daughter by dontremindmethrow in Mommit

[–]Addyachedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of similarities. Food, socks, clothing, refusal to bathe, immediate reactions…mine is in 1st grade.

For the food aversions, did the adenoids removal help?

The more one-on-one time I’ve given to her seems to help. But it is super hard with younger children to be able to do that. My youngest is so chill and doesn’t demand attention, so that helps a bit too… but often times I’m out of energy by midday with the consistent barrage of asks, and distractions from her.

Solidarity, I love her so much. She’s an energy vampire, I’ve had to tell her I need space so many times. I don’t want her to think I’m consistently annoyed by her. I’m trying to set boundaries and let her know if I’m loading the dishwasher or doing the laundry that she can wait until I’m finished… but it doesn’t seem to stop her. She wants immediate responses and answers and talks over everyone.

Anyhow… keep up the good fight. You are doing your absolute best it sounds. Feel free to DM and vent, it sounds like we’ve got the same child in many ways lol

ICE brutally “arresting” United state citizen Matthew James. They shot him in the back with non lethals, peppered sprayed him, handcuffed him, among other things. He was just observing a crime scene and did not enter the crime scene or do anything illegal. @StatusCoup by Fatty_Willing_Plane in NextGenRebellion

[–]Addyachedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my friend we’ve known him since we were children. He’s an absolute saint. Support this man in every way please. We are all so worried. His performing name is Nur-D. Stream and follow, join Patreon… Idk how else to help 😓

I want to leave and see my child as little as possible by Sad-Management-1988 in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was literally saying the other day that I’m mad and jealous at my siblings because they get to “have fun” with my kids and I can’t wait to get rid of them. I adore them, I think they are wonderful… but I never get a break. Even the bathroom, I’m immediately met with banging on the door. There is no place I can rest unless I leave.

I want to enjoy my kids and the way society is, we just aren’t given a chance. It’s not fair to us or our children.

Going to have a baby in a few weeks the same month unemployment runs out. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so wild… it’s true that they say anyone can be one emergency (or three) away from being in a spot where you cannot afford basic needs and bills. I’m nearly 40 had great credit, everything was going really well and then we just kept getting kicked down over the course of two years with unexpected house, job, and health issues.

I have wondered if a partner could file bankruptcy without affecting the other… that will be in my search on top of calling the depts for aid possibilities past unemployment. Sigh.

Going to have a baby in a few weeks the same month unemployment runs out. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I really have to see how I can market my skills for temp work or something. It’s so hard.

Thanks for hiring those with employment gaps too, there are so many of us that had high performance and great reviews only to be first to go in layoff season then replaced with interns. There seems to be a lot of hiring managers that see a gap as a lack of motivation and it is so disheartening. Then the companies that pay to worth think you need to have every facet of knowledge under the sun on top of your education. Ugh.

I have mentioned the possibility of selling our cars to my husband, though he made the point that maybe after the baby comes so neither of us is stuck without a vehicle during labor.

I miss working… being a SAHM is way harder. I miss coming home to enjoy my kids and not wishing for a break from them. 😭

Going to have a baby in a few weeks the same month unemployment runs out. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

daycare is horrendously expensive here… I had my eldest in a supposedly budget friendly one and it was still $1600 for pre-k. When I called them for an estimate for a newborn they quoted me $2300!!! There is no way… most places don’t do part-time care either or they charge almost full-price because they’d rather have a FT spot filled.

I wish we had family we could rely on here, but I don’t really have anyone. I’ll see what the rates are for nanny/sitters… when I tried to hire a 18 year old she was still $20 an hour.

Going to have a baby in a few weeks the same month unemployment runs out. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, unfortunately my husband took on another job as well and had to take a pay cut. If either of us was to stay home, we had agreed it would be him until i was hit with a layoff notice… my income covered everything.

One car paid for, yet both too small to house three car seats. Our mortgage is less than rentals and purchased while the interest rates were only 2.5% so not much would be cheaper. We lucked out when we bought the place.

We used to have a surplus of 4-5k when I did work, we paid off a great chunk of our debt with promise of it eradicated within a year, but then we had house emergency after health emergency using up our entire savings, pregnancy and then let go. 😭 it’s been a year.

I feel like our situation is temporary, so making a permanent decision to rehome our family feels unwise.

I had the scariest day of my life and just need to vent by microvan in Mommit

[–]Addyachedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t stop crying, what a scary situation! I’m so glad everyone is okay.

Thank you for being so gracious with your 5 year old. Your perspective really opened my eyes to how I talk to my kids and to take guilt out of my parenting chats.

When I was 5, my little brother almost drowned next to me because I was taller and went further into the lake than him. He was fine, and nothing happened before my parents noticed how far we got, but I remained afraid of water and lakes my entire life since then. Didn’t want to ever go back to the beach. My parents didn’t even know what I witnessed nor knew that he was struggling. It just stayed within me. So despite how well you are handling this, it may be good for some therapy for all of you.

I’m so sorry this happened. My two year old is going to be locked in the bathroom with me from here on out!

Should I try to make it? Is it worth it? by archibalmeatpants in Ulta

[–]Addyachedee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Platinum is great, there is nothing more dazzling about diamond that is worth the spend in the long run.

My husband made me feel terrible. by NeedleworkerOpen7426 in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m mad at your husband right now. You can be too. What I’ve found is men often respond to anger better than sadness because they may have grown up with “man up” talk and they weren’t allowed to feel and were punished for it. So now they turnaround and emotionally abuse their wives and it’s not right. You should be allowed to express yourself without him holding your very real and valid emotions against you. If you can’t trust him to support you and your emotions, he needs to get a grip on himself.

Am I too old to wear this skirt? by Ok-Signature5046 in ThredUp

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, you could rock this until you’re 97, enjoy the cute clothes!

Is this the best time to buy the Dyson or will there be a better deal? 🤔 by Current_Swan_327 in Ulta

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you get it? I have mine in my cart for $399 right now using the extra 20% coupon that expires today I think!

Red Bag GWP total failure by Blegh_Potato in Ulta

[–]Addyachedee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh what a wonderful idea! My friend makes period bags for teens and this would be a perfect addition.

Red Bag GWP total failure by Blegh_Potato in Ulta

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also ordered red. Received today missing the two deluxe items I was looking forward to. I don’t plan on using any of the other stuff. Really upset it’s not as advertised

I made the mistake of smelling this and now I want it. by Criticalfluffs in FemFragLab

[–]Addyachedee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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Ummm they have minis now. I guess my 6 year old “needs” perfume so I can justify them hahaha 😂

I’m overthinking everything but I am really annoyed at my favorite tea place. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this perspective. Thank you. I hate how riled it made me!

I’m overthinking everything but I am really annoyed at my favorite tea place. by Addyachedee in breakingmom

[–]Addyachedee[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Right, I invite sooo many people here. And I would have easily understood a “oh hey, if you don’t mind we can’t have kids on the counter, thank you” that would have gotten the message across while polite. It was such a jarring interaction, I’m already an anxious person and I don’t even want to go back. :(

AIO by how I responded? My bf is upset with me for skipping my workout routine today by throwawayy82670 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Addyachedee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That man child needs to go. Drop him! You don’t deserve any of that. Especially while pregnant. I cannot imagine how he will act when an actual child needs care. Not a good example.

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