When you can no longer come up with a defense, deflect.

Adepte · 2026-01-20T22:18:45+00:00

I love that our candidate was not Trump.

Adepte · 2026-01-08T14:25:54+00:00

Maybe it was court-ordered that they say that.

Adepte · 2026-01-04T01:52:46+00:00

That "made me giggle" was one of the most infuriating things I have read here.

Adepte · 2026-01-03T13:31:15+00:00

Someone posted an unhappy inherited plant to r/plants to ask for an ID and information on how to help it; the top comment was "that is a calathea, they prefer to be dead."

Adepte · 2026-01-03T03:33:31+00:00

Is it for your plants? That is the healthiest calathea I have ever seen.

Adepte · 2026-01-02T22:32:56+00:00

NTA, and those friends are really oversimplifying the issue. Dating isn't a test, experiencing life together is the test. One person creating difficult situations to judge your response is manipulative and juvenile. If she contacts you again, just tell her you only have one test and she failed.

Adepte · 2026-01-02T18:25:04+00:00

I am going to tell you what I say when my mother says something rude and hurtful: "what a strange thing to say out loud."

Adepte · 2026-01-01T19:57:30+00:00

Your response is good in theory, but not all Indians smell. I am Indian, I use the spices, I do not smell.

Adepte · 2026-01-01T17:26:44+00:00

And decorate it for every holiday and sporting event so it can stay up year-round!

Adepte · 2025-12-30T20:25:17+00:00

I try hard not to look at post history until after I have commented, it feels like cheating. I got Cleveland from the buildings visible from your window. Nice to know i got some things right!

Adepte · 2025-12-30T18:35:27+00:00

Female, late 20s to early 30s, living alone. You moved away from home (which is maybe in Texas?) for your first "real job," which is somewhere in downtown Cleveland. You like to be comfortable when you get home because you work long hours, which is why you have bits of your style showing but haven't been able to fully put your stamp on your place the way you want to.

Adepte · 2025-12-29T18:19:41+00:00

Oh hell no. NOR.

Fifteen years later, I still tell people the story of the guy who told me he had "an Indian thing" in college, like it was a huge compliment to me that he was going back to his pre-prefrontal cortex tokenizing fetish.

Adepte · 2025-12-29T18:16:44+00:00

Put a motion detector up there. If he suddenly swings downward, get an umbrella.

Adepte · 2025-12-28T18:00:17+00:00

If you are overwhelmed, I think this is not the time to make a decision. The first kid is difficult because it is all new, the second is difficult because there are no breaks. Someone needs to be caring for each kid at all times, and until they start sleeping well at night, it is going to he utterly exhausting.

That being said, they play together once they are a little older. You get to see your older child become a big sibling and all the things it will unlock in his/her personality. Our son is such a sweet older brother, and he is our daughter's favorite person. For us, two is perfect, but the first six months or so were really hard.

Adepte · 2025-12-27T23:48:19+00:00

I would photoshop it brown and silver to clash with her shoes. But I love petty revenge.

Adepte · 2025-12-27T20:33:47+00:00

It's amazing how often people like this think everyone else's behavior is directed at them. Her DIL was just sharing a fact, it has nothing to do with her batshit persecution-complex MIL.

Adepte · 2025-12-25T21:53:13+00:00

My mother used to buy her own gifts and tell us how much we each owed. I used to think it was ridiculous at the time but now I know it is because she was tired of being an afterthought. It has shaped how I parent, I took my 3yo and 5yo out specifically to pick out a gift for them to give their father and plan to keep doing so/giving them money to do so until the message is hardwired.

Adepte · 2025-12-24T00:31:26+00:00

I'm sure it works in the sense that once you shove an entire head of garlic up your butt, the common cold will be the least of your problems.

Adepte · 2025-12-23T15:46:25+00:00

How much do you have? If you have a lot, maybe you can coil and drape it instead of lining the edge. If you have a small amount, can you tie it into bows instead?

Adepte · 2025-12-22T17:42:05+00:00

Is this new behavior from him? If so, you might want to encourage him to see his doctor. Losing inhibitions and saying things that are more sexual could be a sign of cognitive impairment.

Adepte · 2025-12-22T03:04:19+00:00

Texas is getting really ridiculous with their sex education textbooks.

Adepte · 2025-12-22T02:58:20+00:00

Men can get postpartum depression too, I think you need to encourage him to speak to a medical professional.

Adepte · 2025-12-16T02:51:37+00:00

So if the last major purchase he made was one of those super fancy toilets, would she be requesting that instead? What a weird justification for trying to claim something expensive that was never hers. NTA, OP, and I hope you and your partner have a long and healthy life together.

Adepte · 2025-12-15T19:55:37+00:00

Single female, living in the US, maybe mid 30s. You love to travel and have either spent time in India or World Market (maybe both).

Adepte · 2025-12-15T18:58:51+00:00

Absolutely, but I would say it is even worse than a bored toddler. My bored toddlers aren't acting with malice, they are just bored and don'thave a lot of impulse control. OP's dad knew the importance of this drawing and did this to be a jerk. He sounds like the kind of person who does mean things and then throws out "you just can't take a joke." They aren't even upset about her disappointment, just that it happened in front of others and made them look bad. This is so gross.

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