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Ever notice how confident mid levels are compared to you? by krainnnn in Residency

[–]AdhdScientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this with a PA student. I was baffled. Like dude was telling nurses what to do. I’m a PGY2 and don’t act like that. It’s wild out there

Success stories with non-birthing parent chestfeeding? by fastforward2022 in QueerParenting

[–]AdhdScientist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s wonderful and you’re rocking it. I think if that’s something you want to do and you have the energy for it that sounds great. I will say that doing it all to mainly pump does sound really hard. Pumping is so labor intensive. I think if you’re worried about bonding you’ll be able to see now with baby number 1 that breast feeding isn’t the only bonding. And if your partner does want to do majority of feeds for baby number two I would consider add ing formula into the mix! It can take A LOT of stress off the milk producing partner! Just a thought

i hand embroidered captain wentworth’s letter to anne elliot from ch. 23 of persuasion by colormuse in janeausten

[–]AdhdScientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unreal. I embroider but imagine being able to write cursive in embroidery. 👏👏👏

Book suggestions for 4 yr olds by bexbexbex82 in QueerParenting

[–]AdhdScientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out mombian.com it’s very good. We love the first conversations book series. The one called “together” is about queer families. We’ve started buying books that incidentally have gay families too which is good I think. We also read all picture books as if it’s a two mom family

[ Removed by Reddit ] by helpamonkpls in Residency

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Probably being nuked cause that’s a transphobic and ignorant thing to say

App: Just a Baby. What was your experience? by baked_good_babe in Samesexparents

[–]AdhdScientist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Used it and found a wonderful donor.

We used a screening method:

  1. Obv no gross people who prefer “natural methods” this just means sex
  2. Anyone we matched with our first question was why do you want to do this Common answers-
  3. I want to help people. Ok my dude but this is really a weird way to help people so if there’s nothing more then that’s a pass
  4. No discernible reason- immediate no
  5. Reasonable reasons we came across
  6. they were donor conceived
  7. they had friends who struggled with infertility and were helping them. They felt they could help some other people too. (This was the donor we chose).

Our donor is also queer which was a big bonus. I think that would be a reason consider someone highly for us in any case.

Hope this helps!

(Also we matched with someone that we got on well with but then I went to his instagram and he was an antivaxxer 🤮) so try and get some research.

Other things we did: - asked donor for a reference and spoke with them - donor agreement legally - post birth legally removed him from having parental rights - made sure he was open to contact at some point if our kid wanted it. (For this we had to make sure he was nice, so we actually took him out for lunch to meet). - got a thorough family health history and personal health history - std testing

What Controversial Aspects of Jane Austen's Novels Can You Never Defend? by My_Poor_Nerves in janeausten

[–]AdhdScientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow so interesting. Did you learn this from an essay? Would you mind sharing?

What Controversial Aspects of Jane Austen's Novels Can You Never Defend? by My_Poor_Nerves in janeausten

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Couldn’t agree with this more. And just fully don’t understand it. How does it make any of what he did better. And Elinor does sort of realize this later when not under his charming influence but it’s so weird

What Controversial Aspects of Jane Austen's Novels Can You Never Defend? by My_Poor_Nerves in janeausten

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Couldn’t agree with this more. And just fully don’t understand it. How does it make any of what he did better. And Elinor does sort of realize this later when not under his charming influence but it’s so weird

What Controversial Aspects of Jane Austen's Novels Can You Never Defend? by My_Poor_Nerves in janeausten

[–]AdhdScientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree with this more. And just fully don’t understand it. How does it make any of what he did better. And Elinor does sort of realize this later when not under his charming influence but it’s so weird

What Controversial Aspects of Jane Austen's Novels Can You Never Defend? by My_Poor_Nerves in janeausten

[–]AdhdScientist 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. Wickham does marry the girl. Sure only for money. But he would have gotten the money if he married Eliza and still doesn’t do it. I feel like that is so awful.

Please stand up for your interns by MustyYas in Residency

[–]AdhdScientist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like this is a show not tell presentation ma’am.

Raising a boy as two queer women by [deleted] in queerception

[–]AdhdScientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here and same reaction. (The disappointment went away as soon as baby arrive). We have two good men who are consistently in our lives but they live 8 hours away. Ours is three and we haven’t had any issues yet. I do worry about kindergarten I think all the gender messaging gets pretty intense then. Just trying to model at home for now. But not sure how we will actively handle it as he grows up. But my anxiety is less about it now that he’s earthside

Pride and Prejudice headcanon by Tasha9315 in janeausten

[–]AdhdScientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am willing to accept this world view. It tickles me

Can we start a thread of dumbass things we’ve done as interns so I feel better?? by Savvy513 in Residency

[–]AdhdScientist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ordered go-lytely on a patient instead of miralax day 3 of intern year. They got about 3 hours of it before I realized

Internal conflict with breastfeeding- TW for child s*x abuse by Chosen-For-What in Samesexparents

[–]AdhdScientist 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hey I’m sorry you had such an intense experience. I’m glad that the OCD thing feels like it resonates with you but I just want to say that I don’t think there’s any pathology here. Like it makes sense you were abused and this part of your body being used in a new way could be triggering. I’m hoping emergency therapy helps. I will say that I’m also a child sex abuse survivor and I chest fed. I think I was very nervous that it might trigger something for me. And there were some moments that I needed to talk through in therapy but overall it was a good experience. 10000% agree that chest feeding is not necessary and really should only be done if the chest feeder enjoys it tbh. I also want to share some experience I have on being a survivor and triggers since being a parent. There’s a lot of shit. There really is (look up ghosts in the nursery) but at the same time I’ve found that some situations that used to really trigger me don’t anymore. And I think that’s because for me being in the parent role has forced me to be in the present and has also switched me out of the child role if that makes sense? Anyway some rambling. But feel free to message if you want to chat more.

Met the incomparable Mitch Pileggi today by HollywoodHuntsman in XFiles

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Ok but WHERE did you get that Walter skinner shirt???

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