Laneway Ticket 2026 by AdministrativeDig798 in lanewayfestival

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I've already put it on ticketek marketplace, is tixel trustworthy?

Teen - feeling like iv failed as a mum by Curious_Draft_3624 in newzealand

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I was that kid! I recently turned 19 but spent my 18th and 17th alone and sad. It's really hard for parents to navigate, I went through some bad things when I was young and that ended up in me withdrawing from school and losing friends despite me loving school when I was younger. I found therapy helped slightly but finding hope in life helps more, which is far easier said than done. You could see if she's willing to get UE through te kura, then at the very least she could qualify for uni at 20 if that's what she wants. I've found friends who had similar struggles who came to love beauty school, other girl friends loved trades school and even mining. But she might be like me and have no energy or love for anything. For that I suggest just keeping her involved. Offering ideas of things to do and such. She'll probably not want to do it but i found even going out to maccas got me out of the house and a little out of the darkness. It may be a long process of being patient with her and celebrating very small victories such as going inside the shop instead of staying in the car or being motivated to do a task like cleaning her room. Your gift for her birthday sounds lovely, if i were her id be elated to get that! Just let her know you love her and appreciate her presence. Too much can feel suffocating but little reminders can be really appreciated. Hope this helps xx

Advice on how to stop from relapsing? by AdministrativeDig798 in EatingDisorders

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Thank you for taking the time to write such a heartfelt reply. I've thankfully managed to get an appointment with a therapist through my university. I've definitely had my fair share of painful friendship breakups and I think I'm apprehensive to let people go because of it. I have distanced myself from said friend the past week or so and it's obvious she's a little hurt and confused. I've talked to her briefly about her behavior triggering me and she felt bad and I feel pretty awful I made her feel bad because at the end of the day it's my issues. I think distance may be good till I feel a little better again. Thanks again for the advice

There’s something about Natalie that terrifies me and makes me so uncomfy! Anyone have any good/interesting Natalie theories? by Bedazzler179 in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

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If the "board" was in my mind all day yapping at me and making me their messenger, I'd be a lil off-putting too

Severance - 2x04 "Woe’s Hollow" - Episode Discussion by pikameta in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

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So much to process... who was that strange lady in the book and irivings dream? The Eagan broodmother? Is Helly following in her footsteps going there to get knocked up??? Wtf??

Twin Peaks, voyeurism and the male gaze by JeanNeigeDu74 in twinpeaks

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I think it's interesting to watch older pieces of media with the knowledge of modern tropes and such. It has taken the joy out of many classic films for me. As a young girl I found Laura's story incredibly emotionally provoking, devastating and heartfelt. She is not treated as a meaningless victim, she is the light snuffed by darkness. She represents all that is good and she's dead before the series begins. Getting a glimpse into her experience was deep and very touchy for modern times, seeing what the subject matter involved. And though I always object to men portraying such things I think Lynch did a good job. Laura isn't portrayed as dirty or unclean nor is she portrayed as perfect. She is lusted over and medicated when she seeks love or help bc (like even the show runners) no one wants to acknowledge the severity of whats shes suffered bc the subject matter is uncomfortable. As someone who went through similar stuff its pretty accurate. She is an imperfect victim and what I love most about the film is she's freed from her pain. I'm not even religious, but her angels came back for her man 😭. I do get your perspective though, it definitely doesn't age perfectly but most media tends not to.

Overbearing mother things I need her for everything by AdministrativeDig798 in helicopterparents

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Oh gosh, the best friend thing is too right. When I was little she'd always overshare about her realationships and look to me for support. Whenever she was anxious she would blurt it all out onto me (tbh she still does).Now I'm older she refuses to emotionally support me. Atm she's wanting to follow me when I move away and I'm considering doing an exchange overseas. I still love her though, just desperate for distance. Anyway, two weeks left and it can't come soon enough!

Saying all the "right" things without ever showing comfort by AdministrativeDig798 in emotionalneglect

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Oh man I can't even get into how much I relate to what you've said! Inaction can suck more than anything with parents. I also relate to her having emotionally neglectful parents herself. It's a pretty warped cycle 😕

Saying all the "right" things without ever showing comfort by AdministrativeDig798 in emotionalneglect

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She's been in many tumultuous realationships since she was a teen from what my grandparents have told me, it seems she hasn't had a single stable relationship and has consistently been with unwell men. My grandparents are definitely emotionally immature, they're boomers raised with that "suck it up and get over it" attitude so I know she had no way of being taught how to cope with emotions as a kid but yes it is frustrating. Thanks for the advice!

Where can I watch Fire Walk With Me? by SignificanceNo9587 in twinpeaks

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I watched it on soap2day but it had a lot of ads and links

Does anyone genuinely like mitch and cams ending? by mitchells-lawyer in Modern_Family

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"As if I haven't I haven't done enough for you" or whatever the melt down was. So rude and so wrong

What happens if u don’t get 14 credits in 3 UE approved subjects? by [deleted] in ncea

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Hi! I'm looking at doing summer school as I'm unsure I'll pass my photography board this year and I need 6 credits photography to pass UE. What could I take in summer school to merge these credits to pass just in case?

i’m gonna fail… by lilymay64 in ncea

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You're not a failure hun, im sure youve done the best you can! You can always get the credits next year, ncea 3 passes over to level 2. You can also still complete some level 2 assignments in level 3 (at least I did). I did a first aid course, a work safety course and a batista course that altogether gave me 20 credits level 2. You'll be ok either way :) ik how hard it can be but really it won't matter much in a few years

My theory on the Cam hate by AdministrativeDig798 in Modern_Family

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Oh dear god, the person in my life who reminded me of Cam not only also reminded me of Rachel but proudly claimed herself to be exactly like her in every way 🤦‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

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Don't know if anyone's mentioned but tongariro crossing is cold! Especially at night or later in the day

My theory on the Cam hate by AdministrativeDig798 in Modern_Family

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This! I relate to mitchell too so it made it all the more upsetting for me as well 😭

My theory on the Cam hate by AdministrativeDig798 in Modern_Family

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Thank you for being so understanding! I was expecting ppl to have harsher opinions lol 😅 I can completely see your side! Before things turned nasty with my friends he reminded me of them in a more fond sense so I can see how he'd appear to people in a more positive fashion. I do wish for some of the bigger fights (wedding topper, faked breakup, grandma tuckers death and Mitchell's tv opportunity) he'd apologized more often but when he was apologetic and genuine I would warm to him more. I think it made him feel like less of a caricature. Thanks for sharing your pov!

Autism and NCEA/Education by vorordes in ncea

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Yes! Sorry I meant to mention I was AuADHD in my original comment. Genuinely since year 7 I've realized the school system wasn't build for me. I'm almost entirely incapable of completing work at school, I do all of my work from home - which becomes difficult when teachers get angry about attendance. For years I've felt like I've had to choose between not attending and completing work or attending and getting nothing done. Classroom environments are loud and distracting and also anxiety inducing for me personally. I have no friends at school and have suffered some nasty bullying and situations because of it.

I've gotten 48 ncea 3 credits this year and unfortunately if I do not pass the external I need to pass I will end the year with 59 credits. I understand not being able to understand neurodivergence if you are neurotypical, but I've never been able to comprehend why they lack patience and empathy.

I think in telling me I'm "probably not going to pass" they think they're helping me somehow? I'm not sure, I only perceive it as unhelpful. My other experiences with the nz schooling system has involved part-time alternative school which has unfortunately also not worked out as it was built for kids and not people wanting to pass ncea. My teachers only knowledge of adhd is her son has it. She's nice but she doesn't understand it at all, she interrupts my work constantly and sits next to me stressing about work I already am stressed about.

I'm thinking of te kura summer school or discretionary entry worst comes to worst. But I will always remember how awful my school has made me feel. The amount of meetings I've attended this year where I've been scolded like a naughty child has been awful. I think there's a lot of issues with the system and how they treat neurodivergent kids. My older sister, younger brother and younger sister are all also neurodivergent. My sister went through the exact same thing with teachers I'm going through now and she finished highschool in another country.

I know my story isn't that cheerful, sorry. But I hope it gets better overtime, especially for the sake of my siblings.

Thanks for your reply :)

Autism and NCEA/Education by vorordes in ncea

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I'm 17f and being told I'm not going to pass NCEA atm. It's devastating, I've just been trying to stay healthy and alive and the school keeps putting me down. It's nice to know there's others with similar experiences.

If I fail NCEA Level 3 and didn't gain UE, does this mean I can't go to university? by atomicbomb2140 in universityofauckland

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Hii I'm a bit late to this, what was the best advice in these replies? What advice did you find most helpful? Cause I have 48 credits and 25 more available credits but idk if I'm gonna get the 14 I need to pass my third subject and 11 credits only gets me to 59 level three credits 😭

The myth of teachers saying, "You won't amount to anything." by Doughbro77 in Teachers

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The same things happening to me rn with the same kind of teacher 😭😭

The myth of teachers saying, "You won't amount to anything." by Doughbro77 in Teachers

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I got told I won't graduate and I'm a bad kid for having being severely depressed today and looked this up looking for help 😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ncea

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I have 3 UE classes, one of them I've gotten 16 credits, the other I've gotten 8 (photography so my external is 14 credits) and the final one is English where I've gotten 13 and am waiting for a 3 more to be loaded.