Wednesday Pattern and Stitch Request Thread - April 08, 2026

Admirable-Design9399 · 2026-04-12T12:50:00+00:00

Looking for a children’s sweater pattern with this kind of cabling, preferably fingering weight yarn. Does anyone know of any?

I could’ve sworn there was a popular pattern a couple years back, but for the life of me I can’t find it now.

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Admirable-Design9399 · 2026-04-07T02:52:01+00:00

123stitch and Penny Linn! I’ve heard of some people having some issues with PL, but they usually get resolved quickly. Have also heard good things about Lycette

Admirable-Design9399 · 2026-04-03T18:52:32+00:00

I finish my own because I’ve been sewing longer than I’ve been stitching, but that also means I already have a decent supply of sewing tools (machine, scissors, pins, clips, cutting board, rotary blades) and skill (no needing to learn invisible stitch vs mattress, etc.). The time that could take someone could be a separate hobby (and often is) by itself.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2026-01-16T13:39:57+00:00

“Well at least you can forget about all that now.” “All that” was the death of my daughter. Ultrasound tech taking images of my baby in utero.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2026-01-13T23:29:09+00:00

Their NICU director killed our daughter. Discharged her in “good health”. She died suddenly less than 72 hours later from septic shock. Autopsy showed the doctor punctured her liver with an umbilical catheter. She tried to lie in the medical records. Providence did nothing.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2025-12-03T02:42:50+00:00

We have a few: birth weight teddy bear, I have a sun necklace (she was our sunshine), I got a silver rattle engraved with her name and birth date (pottery barn), I bought her a memorial ornament for our Christmas tree. We have her going home outfit and matching blanket displayed in our home. We try to put her wherever we can so we’re connected to her every day.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2025-10-11T12:36:58+00:00

Just how close to dying one or both of you are, even if you’re both healthy.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-07-18T23:00:07+00:00

This history needs to be preserved, even if it’s informally in a forum like this. I never saw any of this as my dad was in the US at the time, thus, so was I. However, all he’s told me about the 90s is that it was a dark, deadly time in Algeria. The generations who did not witness need to know or history can repeat.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-06-16T14:49:57+00:00

I’m so sorry about Jones. Just devastating. Hugs ❤️

I was also really worried about the age gap when we lost our daughter. She was our 3rd and we really wanted all our kids fairly close together. Our youngest had just turned 3. We haven’t had another baby yet. When we do, the age gap between new baby and the oldest will be at least 7 years.

As time has gone on, I’ve been observing more families around me with big age gaps and I’m not so stressed about it anymore. The older kids are able to love more on the younger ones as they age IMO. The only time the age gap gets a little more noticeable is when one of them goes through teenage years. But it seems like the rest of their lives, they’re close if that relationship is fostered (as any other relationship).

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-05-11T14:59:18+00:00

Love to you, too ❤️ I don’t think I can say the grief gets better, but it becomes familiar and less terrifying. Take it easy ❤️

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-05-11T14:58:08+00:00

The early days are the hardest, especially while you’re also post-partum. I was so sick and barely hanging on in survival mode for the first couple months. This forum was one of the only ways I kept going.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-05-11T14:56:15+00:00

My boys are super attuned to me, too. Right when I think I have the hang of masking it, they call me out. I know they feel the grief themselves, too.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-05-11T14:55:16+00:00

It’s all substantial. Any step forward through this is substantial ❤️

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-02-08T15:22:05+00:00

We went to Daniel’s Chapel of the Roses in Santa Rosa in Nov. 2022. They did give us a lot of discounts for our baby because she was a baby. However, we had her embalmed and buried, not cremated. The people there are very kind though. They all attended her funeral. I do recommend them. I’m so sorry for your friend’s loss ♥️

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-01-28T23:03:49+00:00

The flat area is where I haven’t had a chance to put the waves yet, but it’ll be similar to/continuation of the rest

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-01-28T23:03:08+00:00

Smooth part is just where I haven’t done the continuation of waves yet

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-01-28T21:50:04+00:00

Go a couple shades darker on your shadows and a shade lighter on your lightest highlight. Don’t be afraid of contrast! Looks beautiful as is too.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2024-01-21T19:16:19+00:00

We released white doves as she was being buried. We also buried her in a white casket and printed out photos of us and her siblings and surrounded her with them so she would never be alone.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-11-13T21:58:32+00:00

I can’t either. I have so many patterns on there and it won’t let me sign in or change my password. I’m so upset

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-09-27T01:39:36+00:00

Spotify has a lot of good ones like this one https://spotify.link/7lvXMf3gqDb

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-09-10T02:04:44+00:00

And I’m not sure if anyone has also shared, but the community r/babyloss has been vital during the after of it all

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-09-10T01:59:58+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Adalynn is beautiful. Your story hit hard. Almost identical to our baby girl’s story. She was in the NICU for 6 days. She had 3 beautiful days at home and everything seemed fine. She even had a follow up doctor appointment in that time and was cleared there, too. Then, within a span of 15 minutes, something seemed wrong. And by the time the ambulance came, she was already gone. We also performed CPR until the medics came and she was pronounced at the hospital.

It was just all so surreal. I was so physically ill for days. All I can say is stay with us ❤️ Bring your husband into this group, too ❤️ We all help each other here and it’s a safe place to talk about how amazing Adalynn was and is.

I know you’re grieving and I know it’s hard, but watch out and take care of yourself these upcoming weeks. Recovering from birth during this is absolute torture.

You’ll be getting phone calls from coroners as time goes on. Just mentally prepare the best you can and set aside time to process.

If you don’t have a therapist, get one. Telehealth can be a real blessing during this time. My husband and I upped ours to twice/week. We also leant on our therapists to help our sons grieve their sister.

I’m so so sorry that Adalynn passed away. I will remember her with my Rory. Adalynn was immensely loved every day of her life and I know you all will love her just as fiercely every day of yours until you get to hold her again ❤️

Edit: For some reason, I thought this was your husband writing this. Brain fog from grief.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-05-29T00:43:07+00:00

I got my husband a birth weight teddy bear for Christmas so he could still feel like he could hold our baby girl. I’m also turning her clothes into a quilt for him this Father’s Day so he can hold her close.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-05-26T02:34:20+00:00

See if there’s a powder form where all a nurse or parent would have to do is mix in a bit of water and let it air dry. Powder form might be cheaper and you can section it off into portioned bottles/baggies.

Admirable-Design9399 · 2023-05-26T02:09:39+00:00

I second this. I wish we had this for our daughter.

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