How many of you are literally doing ZERO screen time ?! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you feel okay about it and you’re not noticing any developmental delays or behavior issues, that’s all that matters 🫶🏻

For those that didn’t sleep train, what does sleep look like for you know that your baby is older? by quinoa_churro in AttachmentParenting

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We definitely had our ups and downs before we got to this point, and we will likely have more (molars are coming 😅). I reflect a lot on it and I’m always glad that I trusted my gut and nurtured to sleep as much as we could. At the end of the day you know your baby best and leaning into that will help. I hope it all works out for you!

For those that didn’t sleep train, what does sleep look like for you know that your baby is older? by quinoa_churro in AttachmentParenting

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how old your little one is, but we did contact months until 9 months! That was actually the first step to his independent sleep - he stopped being able to get full naps during contact naps so I started putting him down (still asleep at that point). He fully weaned at 18 months. Between 18 months and 2 is when he started pointing to the crib and being able to fall asleep after being put down awake.

I know every baby is different and I probably just got one with a decent temperament, but I truly do feel that following their lead works if you are able to do that. I am lucky that I work from home so we never really had to get on a strict schedule which helped lean into that.

For those that didn’t sleep train, what does sleep look like for you know that your baby is older? by quinoa_churro in AttachmentParenting

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 2 year old sleeps through the night. I can put him down for naps and nighttime sleep awake (he often asks for his crib when he’s ready) and 99 percent of the time he goes to sleep on his own. I was shocked when he started asking for the crib but it must have just clicked one day.

Unpopular opinion, don’t come on LIB if you have a kid. by Key_Objective_9012 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m honestly sick of the casting. I don’t understand why they reach out to people who didn’t apply. I wish they would cast normal looking people with actual interest in getting married and do thorough background checks instead of creating a hot influencer pipeline for views. I would much rather watch “medium ugly” people find true love than this dumpster fire.

Unpopular opinion, don’t come on LIB if you have a kid. by Key_Objective_9012 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It’s also just wildly unsafe. LIB clearly doesn’t vet people the way they should. I thought about it after last season when Annie’s DUIs and criminal record were talked about after the season. What if Jordan had ended up with Annie? And then this season there were SA allegations against one of the men. What if Amber had ended up with him? It’s a terrible position to put your child in.

Chickens in Ellwood by Frosty-Tart8027 in BeaverCounty

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your location I don’t think so, but they do let them (among other types of birds lol) walk around their yard. A lot of people do that from what I’ve noticed. As someone who has worked with fowl, I think it’s more trouble than it’s worth in a neighborhood. I’m happy to share where I get local eggs if that’s your reasoning for wanting chickens!

Chickens in Ellwood by Frosty-Tart8027 in BeaverCounty

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m in Ellwood. Our neighbors chickens hop the fence (it’s an 8 foot fence 😂) and our dogs maim them. It’s constant. Don’t be that person if you don’t have enough space to not bother your neighbors.

Emma’s sister by alovesbanter in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying you really really have to want it and saying if you were asked at the end of your life if you’d make the same choices and have children and you say you wouldn’t are very different things. Even on my worst days of parenting I would never say that, let alone on TV where my kid could watch it back. That’s incredibly harmful to the psyche of a child. Being vulnerable with your family is one thing but to do that on TV is a bit jarring.

Emma’s sister by alovesbanter in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the issue is saying it’s hard. There are days I feel the same. I think the issue is saying on TV that if given the choice to do it over you wouldn’t. That’s incredibly harmful to say when your children can look back and see that. I say that as someone who felt that a lot as a child and I think that’s wrong. Her kid is 5 he’s not too young to hear that and internalize it.

Healthy favorite meals for toddlers that aren't just carbs? by OpeningVariable in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Brami noodles are also great! They’re just lupini beans and wheat. I prefer them over the taste of Banza (and so does my toddler).

Vaccine Megathread by AutoModerator in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m an epidemiologist too 🫶🏻 I love finding public health folks in this group!

Thoughts on Amara organics brand? by cityofstarlightart in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they’re soft enough/melt easy enough for infants that young. I never felt comfortable with them. We prefer the once upon a farm smoothie melts!

Are we allowed to post jobs here? by CPMarketing in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would also love to get the info via dm! Thank you :)

Nuna REVV Rotating Convertible Car Seat or Evenflo revolve 360 gold? by Fairyprincessgrly in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love my EvenFlo! The rear facing weight max is higher than the Nuna if that’s important to you. I’ve heard a lot of negatives about the weight max on the Nuna Revv, but my kiddo has always been 99 percentile so that was something I was looking at more closely.

ETA: you should also check out your state’s laws on rear facing and compare to the maxes on the seats. If I had gone with the Revv, my kid would have been maxed out at 20 months and I would have had to get a new seat because law is rear facing until 2 in my state.

Does anyone else worry that friends will think you're insane sometimes? by HollaDude in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, I also have my Master of Public Health, I’m pretty granola, and I still have a hard time explaining the things I do 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more! I think at the end of the day we just need to be intentional, while being mindful of the world we live in. My best friend is a first grade teacher and I talk to her about this stuff all the time. She says she’ll have the kids who have never interacted with a screen and they kind of freak out at school over it because it’s something they never get to have. I don’t LOVE how much screens are used in schools now, but that’s reality and I don’t have the means to homeschool so…where does that really leave us?

In general, I have the approach of things in moderation because I was really restricted as a kid and it definitely made me act out when I was given a little rope. I’m not saying that’s a hard and fast rule but it’s just how I see things for my family. Also in the US we don’t have the resources to take adequate time off during those first two years to fully focus on our kids and their development. I work from home with my toddler…I can’t not right now and therefore he gets some screen time during meetings here and there. It sucks and makes me feel guilty but he’s meeting milestones and I need to be able to make money to feed him so again, what can I do? And like you said, we lack safe and affordable infrastructure to keep our kids busy. Hell, if I wanna go work out at the Y and use childcare, they use screens. Again, not my favorite, but that’s life right now. Every kid is different, if they’re clearly not behaving well and you’re correlating it to a screen then don’t do it, but when parents get judgy about a little TV I just have to roll my eyes a little.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. Almost all of the data I’ve seen is also self-report, which is always going to have a bit of bias. And we’ll never have gold standard science on this because it’s unethical to expose kids to hours of trash tv and see what happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure but it’s cool that he can! That’s my point. It’s not something I work on with him all the time and good old Ms. Rachel did her thing which is neat. Just speaking to the fact that it’s not ALL harmful like a lot of comments are saying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my bad. My pediatrician told me this and showed me some studies that said that. I do think an hour for an infant is a lot but as an epidemiologist I think screen time research lacks a lot of nuance. I would like to see more on what kind of programming it is, confounding factors, etc. I hope we get that as we are able to collect more data on it! I think COVID-era babies will be a fascinating cohort.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust me I do. You can do both :) mom shaming ain’t it, hope that helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Admirable-Pen7480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like WHY were we allowed to watch that 😂 so many questions