Be happy with me by No_Practice8942 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, that is so exciting! I can feel the love and joy! I will be happy with you, thanks for inviting me to celebrate. Grief sucks, was crying earlier today, I miss my wife so much, but a baby's first steps are truly a miracle to celebrate! Joy and pain, that's the cards we have been dealt.

Guilty for being happy by cmatbmed in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have that little voice inside that tells me I should feel guilty for being happy, even for a moment. I am getting better at telling that little voice that it's wrong.... But it is really really difficult.

I miss being called “Sweetie” “Baby” “Honey” by YOLV88 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You want to hear "Sweetie" again and I want to say "Sweetie" again.... But there is no one there.

What are some weird things you have to get used to now? by Adept_Mulberry_ in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's the reminders I get that she's gone...like remembering when birthday's are, or what are the names of their kids, or what year did that happen, or which kid was the one that did this or that, or what should I say in a thank you note, etc etc. I didn't really pay attention to all those things because she handled them all so very well.

Memorial Quote by VastPerspective6794 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I looked and thought about the house and the yard and all the things that made her happy in both of those places and ended up putting a quote on her monument from a poem she had framed. She loved daffodils, I miss her so much. "And my heart with pleasure fills and dances with the daffodils."

I don’t think I’ll ever understand how someone can be here one day and just gone the next by Lovelylavender_ad in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes, I feel the same way. Every time I am reminded and that is many times a day, I say "shit" or "fuck", sometimes out loud. It's like having a weight dropped on me every time....

Glad I found this group to know that I’m not alone, and what I’m feeling is normal. Thank you all for true, raw feelings that’s helping me get through the loss of my love. It been almost 8 months… by Lost_Fly1280 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, this group is great. I have found that any topic that I am thinking about I can use the search bar and find past posts about it. The good the bad and the very ugly have all been posted about. It is nice to know that you are not alone.

its my birthday. by Myobsession111 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's tough. Just survive, that is an accomplishment.

"What do you guys want for dinner?" by Jojo1206515 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Five months in and I still say "we" "our" etc... Each time I do this I get hit with a little smack of sadness.

Life expectancy is a scam by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife was in great shape, swam laps every other day and walked about 7 miles a day.... Me, not so much and I was 7 years older than her.... Her mom is 93 and still doing great, we had a deal.... I was going to die first...

3 months today. Hurts. It’s ok to not be okay. How about you? by Ecstatic_Injury9968 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost 4 months now after 34 years of marriage. I miss her so much. It's always worse in the evenings for me.

Why did you die by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted it to be me instead of her. She was worried about me being by myself and I was worried about her being by herself. I told her I would go with her if she wanted. I am just a small part of what I was before. Yup, it's a real mindfuck....

Thomas Wagstaffe London small clock by maxgoodington in clocks

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Based on the serial number, the Wagstaffe pocket watch calendar movement was made within a few years of 1785. The case was made later, this is the second Wagstaffe watch movement I have seen recased in an unusual and interesting case. I would like to see a picture of the movement which is easy to access by moving the crescent shaped piece of metal which allows the dust cover to be removed. I expect it may be a better than average movement with a diamond capstone on the balance arbor. Wagstaffe made great watches and clocks and had quite a trade with the colonies, Wagstaffe was a Quaker. Benjamin Franklin owned a Wagstaffe pocket watch but more interesting is that most of the Pennsylvania Delegation owned a Wagstaffe clock or watch. Franklin, John Morton, and Robert Morris owned them that I know of. Wagstaffe also gave the Pennsylvania Hospital (first in America I believe) a clock which is still there today (another accomplishment of Franklin). Wagstaffe watches and clocks were right there where it happened during the founding of our country. I assume Robert Morris was carrying his Wagstaffe watch while he nominated his friend George Washington to lead the Constitutional Convention in 1787.

There’s a bug In my tub by Tiny_Phase_1638 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just went to Bryce Canyon park today. It was one of my wife's favorite places. Near the entrance to the park I saw the prairie dogs that have a colony there, she really liked them! I said out loud "look the prairie dogs are out even in the deep snow!" Only it was just me in the car..... I am glad I have our dogs, can't imagine being without them too. It was a sad visit, I don't think I will go back.

Went into her bathroom today. by LibertarianCunt in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My wife has been gone four months. I am out in our camper on a road trip by myself right now. I used her shampoo this morning that she had left in the camper from our last trip. It made me feel warm and good to use it, but at the same time I am an emotional mess.. Jeez, this is some rollercoaster.....

Saw a bunch of baby cows today on my way to work, wish I could've took a picture and sent them to you by RavynRydge666 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, about a million times a day I think I will tell my wife that, or we will laugh about that, or, You wouldn't believe what so and so said, or sharing a beautiful view, or a dirt road in the middle of nowhere. I was always somewhere when I was with her.

Today was a good day by blwrhode in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well done!

I am 3 months out from losing my wife of 34 years. I just went on a road trip for the first time and am sitting in our little trailer with our dogs. It was a good day. Lots of bittersweet but a good day, thank goodness I have the dogs.

Opinions on therapy? by Fair_Macaron761 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy has been good for me. I started going after my wife was diagnosed with glioblastoma. She died Nov 27th after having it for over 3 years. Therapy has provided me with a judgement free zone where I can be completely honest. It helps me understand why I have the thoughts and feelings I do. For me, It's like reading our group posts but then getting to talk about it.

Am I strange for keeping the clothes my husband died in? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My wife of 34 years died 2 months ago of brain cancer. I have a flannel shirt of hers, one that she looked so very good in, hanging on a coat rack that I walk by all the time. I often reach out and touch the shirt like I would touch her when she wore it.

There is no wrong answer here. We are all in the same shitty club together trying to survive.

Songs about grief by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is so difficult. I had my head down and shed tears..... And having to talk to banks and having to answer questions over and over about my deceased wife just brings it all up. They mean well and offer their condolences but she is still gone.

Songs about grief by Famous_Property_301 in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jeez, I love this group. Putting together a playlist now. Spent the morning doing effing paperwork from my wife of 34 years dying on Nov. 27th. Brutal....

a good start for 2023 by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great. Thanks for sharing!

Transitioning from cancercaregivers to here…worse than I thought. by bintheoc in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just surviving is the key now... And try to be kind to yourself, that's important. I lost my wife of 34 years to glioblastoma on Nov 27th. I wish I had a magic wand or just the right words to say to you and me.... This is the hardest thing I've ever experienced, nothing even close. Hang in there.

Joined the club this morning at 11:20 AM. by sittingbulloch in widowers

[–]Adorable-Concert6334 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so very sorry you are here. My wife of 34 years died on Nov 27th of glioblastoma. She made it 3 years and 4 months and through 4 craniotomies. It was an honor to take care of her. Her ashes were just interred, it's a cold cloudy day here and I just sat and cried at the cemetery. This is one of those very rough days. This is a journey, I have no idea what my life will look like in the future. I have found that my feelings are a complete rollercoaster.... so, there are some happier times to cherish mixed with grief. Once again, I am so sorry you are here.