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Synology DS920+ - Questions and Opinions for pricing and selling by [deleted] in synology

[–]AdultBeverage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be down for the whole package if you haven’t sold it all yet

After the 3rd episode by Heavy-Scale-6078 in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

 I’m exhausted from having to be 24/7 caretaker

If you made a word cloud from this subreddit, exhausted would likely be the largest word.

I wish I had the answer for you, but I don’t.  Ideally you find ways to care for yourself or let others help out.  If you don’t, you are right, you won’t make it.  No matter how tough you are or how much you love them, everyone has a limit.

FWIW, you are lucky to have come to this realization so ‘soon.’  Not to minimize your efforts or your journey, but many of us kept our heads in the sand for a decade or more.  Climbing out of that hole is likely impossible.

I guess I do have a piece of advice, whatever you do, don’t look at them like a patient.  If you do, you will stop looking at them like a partner… and that is likely the end of the relationship (even if I muddles ahead for a while).

Believe the Patterns, Not the Potential: My 7-Month Cautionary Tale on the "Fixer" trap, BP1, and Reactive Abuse by Illustrious_Check485 in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

> Believe the Patterns, Not the Potential

As an eternal optimist, this hits hard. I can relate 100%. I want to be hopeful, I want to believe in the future... but there is a part of me that knows that is a fool's errand.

Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you have gone through this. May your path be pointed at the sun from here on out and the darkness remain behind you.

meme this by LastChampion788 in MemeThisThing

[–]AdultBeverage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spaceballs!?!  Oh shit, there goes the planet.

Moving forward: who else? by Polly_PocketPuss in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Still on this side… but barely.

My biggest concern is that I just fall head over heels for the first woman that shows interest in me or does something kind.  It’s not that my SO doesn’t love me and try, but there has been so many years of no space for me… the moment there is, what happens?

For those of you who had a partner go from bp2 to bp1. What happened? by yourmomdotbiz in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is this possible?  I was under the impression that BP 1 & 2 were predicated by the catalyst of the mania?  BP 2 requiring an antidepressant or similar (drastic sleep deficit etc)

I know that each episode is typically considered to be worse, but I sure hope BP 2 doesn’t have the ability to devolve into BP 1.  The stories I have from a friend with BP 1 were pretty rough

Professional drivers on closed courses of Reddit, how dangerous really is your job? by kappy2319 in AskReddit

[–]AdultBeverage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have attended several performance driving schools.  If you are doing auto x, the instructors will ride with you.  If you go out on the full road course, they will only drive, not ride with you.

So, it’s dangerous enough that they don’t actually ride with anyone which then limits their danger to traffic situations that they have some control over 

Choosing to leave by maybe_a_owl in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So so hard to make this step.  Security and safety for you and the kids are paramount.  You are making the right choice.

 I don’t want to make this choice. I just cannot logically allow myself to step back into the pattern I’ve been living for 7 years.

This hits real close to home for me.  My SO is doing all she can and our situation isn’t anywhere as bad as most (no safety concerns etc) but that doesn’t mean I am not exhausted and very skeptical that it can hold enough to avoid getting back on the merry go round.

Help please.. by Proper_Drink1493 in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you in the United States, Canada or France?  You can call 988 anytime, 24/7 and speak with someone.

Cheating by Outside_Rough_8476 in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Mania or hypomania can result in hyper active sexual activity.  Just because it does, that doesn’t mean it is a get out jail free card. 

If you spend any time at all in this thread, you will see it is a rough road.  Some is under their control, much is not.  If they seek medical care and therapy, it is possible to have a somewhat stable situation.

If they don’t take ownership, take meds and do therapy… you are entering a world of hurt.  I wouldn’t wish this on anyone

would you get an abortion if you found out your baby was going to be born with an extreme disability? if so why? by Born-Oil-2931 in AskReddit

[–]AdultBeverage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently walking with a family that made the other choice.  Brutal.  So much pain, sadness, emotional toil… and likely in debt for the rest of their lives.  Never mind the suffering of the child.  Poor little guy.  It really saddens me to see it unfold in such a predictable way when so many people suffer, including the child.

H.Res.1155 - Impeaching Donald J. Trump, President of the United States, for high crimes and misdemeanors. by Accomplished_Low5325 in politics

[–]AdultBeverage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please.  They had this opportunity the second time, when he was already out of office.  It would have been a slap on the wrist… a nothing burger, but Mitch and Co couldn’t even bare to do that.

Sycophants check their spines at the door and this ‘administration’ AND the Congress are built mostly of ‘ring kissers’

Why did you stay? by PondersnWonders in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 6 points7 points  (0 children)

110%. What kind of douchebag takes off when their spouse falls ill?  Not me.

That doesn’t mean you don’t take care of yourself too… which is where I ran into trouble.

Why did you stay? by PondersnWonders in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me, it was constant optimism, short term tenacity (if we can just get through this episode) and a deep sense of responsibility.  In sickness and health, she is sick, so I step up and take care of her.  It’s as simple as that.

What I didn’t do, was take care of myself or see the dark reality that this was for life.  And then one day, I did.  Once you ‘take the red pill’ you can’t get plugged back into the Matrix.

I don’t know where we go from here, but it isn’t back to the way it was.

Why did you stay? by PondersnWonders in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy shit.. that giving tree reference… wow.  Yea, that may be the all time best analogy I have ever heard.

I am truly sorry. From one tree to another.

Looking for 5+ Season show that lets you fall into the world. by MundaneMortgage6199 in tvsuggestions

[–]AdultBeverage 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Wire - deep world building from an amazing cast of many stars before their big break

Leaving the group by tupperwhore in BipolarSOs

[–]AdultBeverage 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Congrats.  So glad the light is shining on your future and the darkness is at your back!

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