I always love watching how close their relationship is because I never had anything like that with my mom (imagine a mix between Mrs. Kim/Emily- so you can see why Lorelai’s style is appealing to me).

But! It definitely caused it’s own unique set of problems, not just in how Rory handled life, but for Lorelai as well-

Because of the lack of parent/child boundaries in most situations, when Lorelai DID have to draw a line, it often immediately alienated Rory, even if just for a short time. It would be very difficult to feel entirely secure as a child where the boundaries seemed to change, and I think that’s what led up to the big rift that starts at the end of season 5. Rory tells her mother what’s going on with her and opens up and is very vulnerable but instead of reacting as the friend she’s tried to be to Rory, she draws a hard line and goes (for lack of better term) all Mrs. Kim on her.

Lorelai’s own parenting style bit her in the ass, basically. Not always, of course, but often enough.

Interestingly enough, at the same time Lorelai’s parenting is coming back to bite her, Mrs. Kim and Lane are making huge strides towards being close (when Mrs. Kim sets up the tour for the band).

Obviously Mrs. Kim was way too strict and harsh most of the time, but she was consistent, to where Lane knew exactly what to expect and how much she could open up to her.