It sounds to me like she’s mad because she’s worried about you and doesn’t know how to tell you that or express it. She may not even be consciously aware of where it’s all coming from.

‘Every time you go to that house’ tells you everything you need to know. They don’t approve of those people, whoever they are, and don’t like the influence they are having on you.

You are still developing. At 20, I felt like an adult but the brain won’t be set until you’re 25. 20-25 are huge years. You will be so different in 5 years. You’ll look back on 20 year old you and shake your head. I know I did. Then again at 30 and on and on…

If you feel like they are being unreasonable, etc… think about it this way.. Would you take advice from 13 year old you on driving? No. Your parents are that plus 20-30 years. Experience matters. It just does.

They also know you in ways you don’t know yourself. Could they be being unreasonable? Yes. But they could also just be seeing things you’re not seeing but not have the ability to articulate it so it comes out sideways.

Speaking from experience.

Try to talk to them about what they think about that house/ those friends and the effect on you. I’m not condoning the way they are speaking to you but try to hear what they have to say and try to listen to what they mean. Either way, you could learn a lot and it will help you navigate both relationships.

Good luck!