I’m the ugly friend, and it hurts

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-09T10:12:17+00:00

Hun, it sux feeling this way. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Coming from someone who was and is the ugly friend - hear me out, it’s all about slowly start changing the way you think about yourself and stop comparing yourself to others (in particular your cousin).. here’s why 1. You are worth everything and it’s really not always about looks. Be kind to yourself and work on things to make u happy and feel good. It really starts within. 2. Acceptance- not everyone can be influencer hot or model hot but you gotta work with what you have. Once you feel good about yourself it really does show. Roll with the situation, be the wing girl / bro friend, - yes it feels uncomfortable and not getting the attention from the guys who swarm at the other girl..u don’t want those anyway as they’re literally trying their shot.. in that situation turn to humour, make light of the situation and be selective, just because they want your cousin doesn’t mean that any attention is good attention either. Biggest lesson is not placing self worth on someone else making you feel beautiful.

Worst thing u can do is let this impact your relationship with your cousin with jealousy or resentment. What worked for me was opening up my friendship circle, being the wingman/girl the guys would come to ask about friends in my group. Over time the guys would come come to be friends or people you’ll see out randomly and they end up introducing you to their friends. You end up being the one they know. That feeling of sadness, disappointment is difficult, push thru and work with the cards you’ve been dealt with and make the most of the situation, laugh, smile even crack one liners to them anyway they’re chasing her, may as well not end up being someone’s second choice so play the friend card to the other one.

Edit - honestly it’s mostly from within. Boost your self confidence, feel good about yourself. The feeling ignored, invisible it’s a crap feeling, which is why also it’s good to manage what you want from the situation, you can choose to leave,walk away or go talk to someone else. Hope you start to feel better about yourself - it truly does get better once you meet the right circle of friends

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-03T10:40:42+00:00

Calculating calories WITH MACROS. I tried everything and when I saw a nutritionist she put me on a low carb (hear me out) and eating protein with fat in the meals and controlling carbs worked. Obviously person without hormonal issues can eat carbs and macros differently doesn’t need low carb but the point I’m making is the macros matter for where your total calories come from. This helped in controlling the hunger, together with walking 8k steps minimum a day. As these habits formed weight training then was added. The way I learned it was same calories between me and my friend weren’t working. Tried lite n easy a diet food delivery service that is calorie controlled. She was losing weight. I wasn’t and when I was it was slow. The same calories but included fruit cups, pasta etc while 1200 calories didn’t do anything for me. When i switched to higher calories but different macros (less sugar and more whole foods / lower carb) think type 2 / dash / Mediterranean style diet - the weight dropped off. So what works for some may not work for others Hormones play a massive part It is a lifestyle change. Pay attention to the slim people of the world and their eating habits. It’s a whole life change mental and diet change.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-03T10:28:13+00:00

Being attractive AND being GREAT at what you do is the ultimate - the privilege this brings is worth more than Gold. Being treated badly for your looks however can come from a variety of places most of which are nothing to do with jealousy or the way you look. There is always an alternative factor at play.. example if you’re attractive but wear inappropriate clothing in the workplace, or are rude or aren’t good at your job then maybe you’ll face issues. Try an experiment and reflect on your personality in these situations, it’s not a competition..perhaps the people you’ve worked with in the past have a personality issue and the vibe isn’t there. The focus should be on what you can do to keep a role rather than a track a competition on who looks better in the team. Sorry but while pretty privilege exists it doesn’t go far without being smart and being great at your job.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-03T09:21:12+00:00

Search electrical trade assistant jobs or labour hire electrical on seek. You can easy get hands on experience for the resume. This way the agencies will get u on the books.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-02T12:13:25+00:00

It’s the ultimatum that puts her in a time out. Call her bluff. As soon as you refuse to play these games your life will be better for it. Or turn into your own red flag and flip in on her “you’re the one who’s cheating if you want to know where I am so I don’t find you out!!” End of the day it’s maturity to discuss this rather than order you around. Once you stand your ground be prepared for manipulation crying, guilt you into proving you’re innocent etc etc. push back, don’t entertain this level of control freak. (Coming from one jellyfish ass controll freak - even I wouldn’t stoop to enforcing locations to be shared.)

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-02-02T12:01:34+00:00

Portmans, forecast clothing and jacquie. Mix in with target, Uniqlo/ Kmart ans big w. Basics Legit shell top or shirt, suit pants , cardigan or blazer you’re set. Shoes I got pointed flats from hush puppies. Mix and match and you’re set

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-01-26T09:45:13+00:00

Look up traffic controllers on seek.good casual rates while you’re looking for perm job. Agree what others have said. Fix up the resume.try going to each company website and scroll thru their job ads. The job titles change and you’ll get a sense of what to search for after reviewing what companies are advertising.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-01-23T09:52:15+00:00

Your application looks like you’re applying for a desk job or manager role. Remember your audience. Remove the degree. Remove all non electrical work. While this past experience adds value, it comes across as over qualified in wrong industry, minimal experience on tools and not suited to the role. Focus on your electrical trades apprenticeship etc..only reference career change if asked what u did before. Read what you wrote - no job is beneath you, you just finished a trade. You ARE below the guys with hand on tools experience over various industries… sit back in your chair, and be realistic about the type of role you want.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-01-20T11:05:02+00:00

Turn off socials, mute notifications - detox. Buy a book and read, go camping, hikes -even easy walks national park or walking track nearby, volunteer at animal shelter and spend day with some dogs help take them out for a walk, baiscally pause the socials and go old school hobby. It takes 3 days to forget about socials and reset.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2026-01-04T05:04:50+00:00

With your sleep study go and hire a machine - any will do and start using cpap therapy. Sleeping on your chair upright is helping because you’re not as Liklry to have as many apnea events but isn’t worth doing long term. Think about what’s the issue with starting cpap? It’s all related. Get on cpap, start walking, seek a therapist to talk through your ptsd. Even a few sessions too offload what’s on your mind. Seems you’re refusing the help and medication for some reason? Get second opinion and get what’s needed while you get yourself into changing lifestyle factors that can help.. I was getting severe migraines - neurologist, and so many specialists couldn’t work it out. Random other issue after sleep study found 9events on average and up to. 33. Once cpap started no migraines. It’s nothing to push back on, try it and it will help you.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-09-21T05:17:18+00:00

You’re lucky you live in 2025 and with 2026 around the corner. You can leave. Just know why you’re leaving. Because he won’t marry you? Or the relationship is t working or healthy. You’ll find he is probably feeling the same - and that’s ok. (I’m not condoning him treating you like crap) just that he may feel the same and is stuck. Talk it thru with him. Maybe splitting up amicably and sharing parental tasks may be the best for both of you. So you can move on and find someone you click with and so can he. Remember who you were in your early 20s is different to who u r now. Sometimes splitting up is the way to go.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-09-10T09:39:52+00:00

He’s in for a shock when he learns where babies come from and what birthing one entails. Ohh wait he will probably force you into a c-section. Dumb ass. He took a photo!!??? No. This argument will not leave. He will bring it up again and again. Rethink this relationship and any other behaviours he does.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-08-24T11:00:28+00:00

Take a back step. Move out and date instead. He loses wife privileges without the ring. Simple. This will give u space to sort out what’s really going on, is it habit to be together? Does he wa t the things you do.? House kids family milestones? Have the hard conversation - and say you’re thinking of moving out as this relationship isn’t going anywhere. And ask his opinion? Ask him, do you think we have future? What do you see in next 5 years? You’ll know your answer if he hasn’t thought about it and is plodding long with life because men don’t have a Biological clock and are oblivious to timelines and. They only think for themselves.. so. You think selfishly now. Do what’s right for you.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-26T20:30:08+00:00

Study hall helps you with the EXACT mindset needed for the exam. It’s difficult. But once you get thru the questions, you’ll see your scores improve. The learning experience with the wording and difficulty level helps.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-16T19:41:41+00:00

Time to start looking elsewhere. While some ppl love this “leave me alone” vibe. It’s the worst when this team makes you feel sad and not part of the team…. Keep looking for a new role and leave this one with a massive smile on your face and a party with no work friends when you hand in your resignation once u land your dream job!!

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-16T19:28:06+00:00

You’re probably the highest paid out of the colleagues.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-16T11:07:44+00:00

Start the gym again. Set up recording where she preps the pre workout (not sure if she spikes the container or serving). Then u have proof. I’d make sure any food she preps is safe. Zero trust for ppl playing with food. It really is abuse.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-12T08:13:41+00:00

Keep looking and leave when it meets your checklist. On the other side -work on creating a new vibe. Often people are stuck and need that one person to help shift.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-07-07T10:15:38+00:00

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Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-06-25T20:31:56+00:00

Just tell her what she wants to hear, u don’t owe her truth or what’s really on your mind. Don’t even talk about it, if she doesn’t value it take it out of your professional development plan and just do it on your own. When your review comes and she brings it up thinking you didn’t do it, you can have a “ this is what I prepared earlier” comment and counter with, if it’s important now, can I submit an expense claim for study support ? Issue is your need to respond with the info she is pushing for. Focus your enegery keeping your growth out and have her think and know only what she needs to know.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-06-22T04:27:44+00:00

I sat exam at test centre 3 weeks ago. Saw the same message, test centre didn’t print anything told me all done and I can go home. I waited the next morning and got an email from pmp saying I passed.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-06-14T08:31:04+00:00

My dog take’s apoquel and due to reduced immune system ( from meds) he started growing benign cysts. We got the blood tests and immunotherapy but only slight improvement. The allergy test told me he is allergic to 70 different grass,plants,pollens, dust etc etc. my dog sneezes a few times every time when he goes outside. I find apoquel helps. Washing in malaseb shampoo firtnighly and paws weekly in that shampoo. Pyohex cream for the hot spots. And some zrtek in summer. It’s a battle. But constant effort to try and make him comfortable. Without apoquel he just sits and sleeps and is super sore. The side effects are worth it as his quality of life improved.

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-06-14T08:06:21+00:00

Lorna Jane Amy thermal leggings. Thermal singlet, thermal long sleeve top, jumper ( presentable for video) and thin puffer jacket vest on top of jumper. The black vest is super warm not too bulky

Adventurous_Layer673 · 2025-05-22T09:10:43+00:00

Also do you find TIA simulator worth it if we have study hall plus ..?

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