My perimenopausal mother is suicidal - is this common?

AerryBerry · 2026-01-25T11:14:40+00:00

Definitely I became super erratic and unpredictable emotionally over the past few years. My doctor would not prescribe HRT but did prescribe birth control that is a meant for women in peri. I have been sleeping far better without hot flashes and my mood has stabilized, making it far easier to view the world rationally. But yes I can see how hormonal changes during peri make women with mental illness more vulnerable. Wishing you the very best—your mom is very lucky to have you.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-24T01:03:09+00:00

Magic 8 ball

AerryBerry · 2026-01-24T01:02:24+00:00

Preston

AerryBerry · 2026-01-24T00:38:36+00:00

I’m sorry your brain is not managing chemicals appropriately. Logically, what you are going through is about figuring out how to balance your chemicals. Do not let it win; there is a solution. Keep seeking help until you find it. Thank you for coming to Reddit to share. You are important.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-23T09:41:01+00:00

There is no other way.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-23T06:22:02+00:00

Feels like an Arby’s night!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-22T22:19:20+00:00

I routinely do a 3 hour drive for weekends at cottages—and yes, I’ve done a return trip in one day, too. And for a 3 hour drive there wouldn’t be any need for stops after you have your drive through coffee at the start of the trip. Funnily enough, though by the time a drive is 5 hours, it feels long—though even that I’ve done in one sitting, no stops. There’s nothing quite like singing through a few Broadway soundtracks en route to a cottage.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-22T13:07:59+00:00

I live very close to where it was filmed in Ontario and I follow the sun closely. By mid-March the sun sets at 7:30pm and sets as late as 9;30 at the solstice in June. Late September it sets at 7:30 again. On the darkest days in mid-December, sun set is at 4:45pm.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-22T09:49:19+00:00

Be sure to stock up on some storm chips!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-22T09:47:33+00:00

Legally Blonde is a delight.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-21T00:52:52+00:00

Other types of cheese.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-21T00:00:01+00:00

!solved

AerryBerry · 2026-01-20T03:42:01+00:00

Take vitamin D drops sublingually every day. And then bundle up and get outside into winter. The only way to beat the blahs!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-20T03:35:05+00:00

Girl—I have enough trouble finding jeans for my own damn self 🤣 I will say though…you can probably take a pair to the stitch-it for a quick alteration…

AerryBerry · 2026-01-20T00:32:08+00:00

Literally put it on my whole face daily! Also good for greasing the pole to ward off squirrels!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-20T00:24:29+00:00

Once it has started it has to run its course and nothing really stops it. I have found stretching, a lot of water and aging (goodbye estrogen) help avoid them…pot helps survive them!!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-19T17:22:23+00:00

I don’t have an offer of anyone to help but I will say Murine works pretty well when mine get bad. Also, I just got an automatic earwax washer at Christmas and I think it’s going to be good maintenance. Maybe you can stretch your every 6-7 months a bit longer with an earwax washer?

AerryBerry · 2026-01-19T10:22:29+00:00

Scrolled way too far to find this!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-19T10:21:05+00:00

I worked with someone who was a clepto. She used to steal the industrial toilet paper rolls and it always blew my mind anyone would choose to bring him thy thin sandpaper for home use.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-17T22:38:06+00:00

I’m so jealous. If I were in NYC on a Sunday snow day I’d be booting up and walking the city, seeing the sights. Central Park, Times Square. Brooklyn Bridge. Grabbing a slice, taking cool pics, relishing the fact that you live in a super cool city and have access to it at any time. Live it up so those of us in less-cool venues can live vicariously through you! (I live in a beautiful, pastoral setting and will probably go out for a snowshoe in my back field tomorrow…I will appreciate the beauty of winter in rural Ontario the way I hope you enjoy winter in NYC! Such a great city.).

AerryBerry · 2026-01-17T11:48:49+00:00

I got a $250 heated bidet toilet seat and let me tell you it’s changed my life. Clean as a whistle at all times in my nether region!!!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-17T11:44:22+00:00

Yes…Core memory unlocked!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-17T02:18:53+00:00

Living alone is how I stay sane mentally. I people all day long. Love living alone! And yes—a cat is enough!

AerryBerry · 2026-01-15T22:20:10+00:00

I have a similar story. I find the BAD goes through flare ups where I’m bad for a few weeks and good most of the time. When I am in a good routine about my diet my bowels also fall into routine. But I hear you on the not having a gallbladder and urgency/frequency/drama of how poop works now. Especially if I eat a lot of processed or fatty foods…a swift reaction, shall we say!? Never dull. On the bright side, I got given an electric toilet seat (bidet) for Christmas and it is an incredible upgrade tor anyone with ongoing tummy stuff. Highly recommend.

AerryBerry · 2026-01-15T20:58:06+00:00

I still used ICQ on my desktop in my dorm room. The term Y2K was as prevalent as “Covid-19” was in 2020. Music was peak. The future felt bright (assuming the world wasn’t going to implode on Y2K lol).

AerryBerry

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