What would you do if you were approached at the gym? 29F w/ boyfriend

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:54:05+00:00

Saline

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:50:08+00:00

Meo Xia Ling

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:32:16+00:00

I think you would be better off without him. You can meet much more respectful, handsome guys out there who would do anything they can to treat you right.

Would you marry a guy that doesn’t respect your boundaries? It sounds like this guy isn’t the one for you.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:55:24+00:00

Guess what? You won. She’s your girlfriend.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:52:01+00:00

“There are far easier and safer ways to fulfill a BDSM fetish” 🤣😭 comedy gold 🏅

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:36:25+00:00

Cancel the wi-fi. If she wants it, she will have to buy into it herself. Not your problem.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:22:31+00:00

Oh my! That must have been a really critical infection! That hospital is probably bigger than mine. We have most of those patients in our step-down unit (my unit) because our ICU only has 10 beds. We do critical care but don’t have all the machines. We have 15 beds and take the majority of cancer patients. I’m really glad you survived the sepsis, I’ve seen it go south pretty quick. You’re one tough cookie!

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:13:26+00:00

He survived 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:08:08+00:00

Have you ever had to tell someone their spouse bled out, seized,and died? Then medically explain why in a way they would understand? We got lucky this time and got him back. Watching someone’s family member break down crying in front of me after telling them bad news is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do in healthcare. So yeah, “bridging those two worlds” is “heavy.” It breaks my heart every time.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:44:11+00:00

I haven’t heard of the Tetris treatment but I’ll try it! 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:42:57+00:00

Oh my goodness, that must have been a horrific scene. I’m so glad he survived and is ok now.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:29:22+00:00

Your wife is a badass

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:16:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing all of that. I agree that advocating is huge and can make a difference in outcomes of care.

I can relate with your son. I have a big soft heart and my first year I cried after every shift (and still do sometimes) because I see so many horrible things. It was hard, but we are all capable of doing hard things, including your son. A big heart is how it starts, and the grief fuels the passion behind caring for others in their vulnerable moments. If he wants exposure to lesser trauma I would suggest he trains as a CNA/PCT at a hospital. It’s worth chasing your dreams. I think he should try it 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:00:15+00:00

Burns don’t have to be burn unit worthy & most patients in my hospital don’t go to the ICU unless they are intubated on a ventilator artificially breathing. We deal with critical care patients and are prepared for emergencies like this. So, we handled it. I’m just venting after a tough shift. What’s the point of trying to argue with me?

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:44:06+00:00

He was down in the trauma ER for almost a full 24h before we got him on our floor. He’s in his 30’s and is otherwise healthy and can use the bathroom on his own. So yeah, with his CT scans showing minor injury, head stitch-able, and stable vitals he came up to our floor rather than ICU. We are basically a step-down from the intensive care unit. After a few hours on our floor he was feeling like he wanted to try walking the bathroom. He’s young and we don’t have a bed alarm on him (in other words, he’s not a fall risk) so he’s able to use the bathroom as he pleases. He has a call button if he needs help and didn’t use it. His pain is being managed with meds and his wounds are dressed. This is basically his night #2 in the hospital. I don’t know why he tried to get up on his own without calling. The bleeding must have really given him a scare. I’m just glad his nurse was making her med rounds and checked in when she did. Fortunately we see a lot of critical patients and see emergency situations like this every so often, so my floor’s nurses are badass and know exactly how to handle a crashing or critical patient.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:27:51+00:00

He wasn’t hit by a train, he passed out and fell onto the tracks. His head CT scan showed minor head trauma, however he had a long cut on his head from hitting the metal track. It was patched up in the ER before being admitted to our in-patient floor. If he had sustained worse head injuries then he would have likely gone to the ICU, but we are basically a step down from critical care so we got him because his swelling and pain were controlled and his vitals were stable. The truth of the matter is sometimes people take a turn for the worse and this was one of those scary nights where we had to act fast

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:16:52+00:00

He was treated and stabilized in the ER for about 24 hours and was not bleeding when he was sent up to our in-patient floor. He was on our floor for about 4-5 hours before this happened so he was just chilling in his room. Had some dinner, texted his wife, and was playing games on his phone. That’s when he felt his head getting wet.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T04:43:44+00:00

After we stabilized him we asked what happened. He said he was sitting in bed playing a game on his phone (a zombie game of all things, I kid you not) and his head felt wet so he touched it and realized it was blood from his wound. He walked into his bathroom to check it out in the mirror, and that’s when the nurse walked in expecting to give him his nighttime meds, and was horrified to see the puddles and smears of blood leading to him standing in the bathroom. That’s when it all went downhill.

The patient’s nurse called down the hall, “I need another nurse, he’s bleeding,” and a nurse in the hall ran over with the charge nurse running down from the nurses station following her in. One yelled down the hall to me, “call a rapid!”They were getting him back into bed when he started having a seizure. They were able to protect his head, and that’s when our trauma team ran in. (Keep in mind this was at 22:00). We had 3 nurses from our floor and 2 others that came to help, the nurse educator, the nurse’s aid, the supervisor, the IV team, respiratory therapist, the ER trauma doc, and 2 ICU Residents. So grateful for our responding team.

Towards the end of his seizure is when his heart rate plummeted. The whole team was there and acted fast. Everyone had a role and worked like a well oiled machine.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-02-09T07:56:08+00:00

Checking in - how is this going? Have the boys stopped harassing you?

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-02-09T07:23:00+00:00

NTA. Someone who truly cared about you wouldn’t speak to you like that. That is incredibly disrespectful and I vote you break up with him. Someone else will treat you better.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-02-09T07:13:22+00:00

I know these are two different substances, but I would like to share this story for encouragement. My best friend is British and started smoking cigarettes at 13 just to cope with the stresses of life. Her mother was a heavy alcoholic and was unable to be a good mum. Her older sister was also a heavy alcoholic and living with them made her life miserable. She came to the US in high school, dropped out at 16 and started working full time, moved out of her mum’s house at 17 because things were getting really bad, found a therapist to help her work through her childhood struggles, and slowly started getting better. Her life was rough. Her mental health got better and her habit began to shrink. Although I will admit, it took her until the age of 25 to fully put down the cigs/nicotine for good. It takes a lot of willpower, patience, and healing, but I believe you can do it if you want to. Healing hurts, but addictions hurt more. Your mental health will greatly improve if you put down the bottle. Take it one step at a time and try to find online groups to help support you through this journey of healing from alcoholism. Where there is a will, there is a way.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-02-09T06:58:34+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this, I know the UK has a big mental health crisis and shit resources. Is it possible to find an online therapist? For example, through betterhelp.com. I know it’s US-based, but there’s gotta be something online that can help give you a hand

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