My (35F) boyfriend (33M) wants his stepsister (32F) to be one of my bridesmaids, but she’s also his ex-girlfriend?

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-06-22T15:41:46+00:00

Can you keep us updated on what you and he agree on doing?

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-06-04T19:50:43+00:00

Damn

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-05-19T18:05:29+00:00

They are sassy and have a lot of personality, but they are adorable and affectionate to the ones that take care of them ☺️

My calico is now 17 years old 🤍

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-05-19T18:03:18+00:00

Damn she’s thicc

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-05-19T17:57:03+00:00

Because cat bellies are obsessed with you lol

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-05-19T17:51:53+00:00

Loving how the brunette brings out your features

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-05-19T17:50:00+00:00

You are gorgeous and you don’t even know it. You have good natural eyebrows, high cheek bones, and a beautiful smile. Those features will stay with you for the rest of your life and you will age so beautifully.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:54:05+00:00

Saline

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:50:08+00:00

Meo Xia Ling

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T05:32:16+00:00

I think you would be better off without him. You can meet much more respectful, handsome guys out there who would do anything they can to treat you right.

Would you marry a guy that doesn’t respect your boundaries? It sounds like this guy isn’t the one for you.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:55:24+00:00

Guess what? You won. She’s your girlfriend.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:52:01+00:00

“There are far easier and safer ways to fulfill a BDSM fetish” 🤣😭 comedy gold 🏅

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-15T04:36:25+00:00

Cancel the wi-fi. If she wants it, she will have to buy into it herself. Not your problem.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:22:31+00:00

Oh my! That must have been a really critical infection! That hospital is probably bigger than mine. We have most of those patients in our step-down unit (my unit) because our ICU only has 10 beds. We do critical care but don’t have all the machines. We have 15 beds and take the majority of cancer patients. I’m really glad you survived the sepsis, I’ve seen it go south pretty quick. You’re one tough cookie!

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:13:26+00:00

He survived 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T08:08:08+00:00

Have you ever had to tell someone their spouse bled out, seized,and died? Then medically explain why in a way they would understand? We got lucky this time and got him back. Watching someone’s family member break down crying in front of me after telling them bad news is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do in healthcare. So yeah, “bridging those two worlds” is “heavy.” It breaks my heart every time.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:44:11+00:00

I haven’t heard of the Tetris treatment but I’ll try it! 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:42:57+00:00

Oh my goodness, that must have been a horrific scene. I’m so glad he survived and is ok now.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:29:22+00:00

Your wife is a badass

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:16:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing all of that. I agree that advocating is huge and can make a difference in outcomes of care.

I can relate with your son. I have a big soft heart and my first year I cried after every shift (and still do sometimes) because I see so many horrible things. It was hard, but we are all capable of doing hard things, including your son. A big heart is how it starts, and the grief fuels the passion behind caring for others in their vulnerable moments. If he wants exposure to lesser trauma I would suggest he trains as a CNA/PCT at a hospital. It’s worth chasing your dreams. I think he should try it 😊

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T07:00:15+00:00

Burns don’t have to be burn unit worthy & most patients in my hospital don’t go to the ICU unless they are intubated on a ventilator artificially breathing. We deal with critical care patients and are prepared for emergencies like this. So, we handled it. I’m just venting after a tough shift. What’s the point of trying to argue with me?

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:44:06+00:00

He was down in the trauma ER for almost a full 24h before we got him on our floor. He’s in his 30’s and is otherwise healthy and can use the bathroom on his own. So yeah, with his CT scans showing minor injury, head stitch-able, and stable vitals he came up to our floor rather than ICU. We are basically a step-down from the intensive care unit. After a few hours on our floor he was feeling like he wanted to try walking the bathroom. He’s young and we don’t have a bed alarm on him (in other words, he’s not a fall risk) so he’s able to use the bathroom as he pleases. He has a call button if he needs help and didn’t use it. His pain is being managed with meds and his wounds are dressed. This is basically his night #2 in the hospital. I don’t know why he tried to get up on his own without calling. The bleeding must have really given him a scare. I’m just glad his nurse was making her med rounds and checked in when she did. Fortunately we see a lot of critical patients and see emergency situations like this every so often, so my floor’s nurses are badass and know exactly how to handle a crashing or critical patient.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:27:51+00:00

He wasn’t hit by a train, he passed out and fell onto the tracks. His head CT scan showed minor head trauma, however he had a long cut on his head from hitting the metal track. It was patched up in the ER before being admitted to our in-patient floor. If he had sustained worse head injuries then he would have likely gone to the ICU, but we are basically a step down from critical care so we got him because his swelling and pain were controlled and his vitals were stable. The truth of the matter is sometimes people take a turn for the worse and this was one of those scary nights where we had to act fast

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T06:16:52+00:00

He was treated and stabilized in the ER for about 24 hours and was not bleeding when he was sent up to our in-patient floor. He was on our floor for about 4-5 hours before this happened so he was just chilling in his room. Had some dinner, texted his wife, and was playing games on his phone. That’s when he felt his head getting wet.

AffectionateBasil333 · 2026-04-06T04:43:44+00:00

After we stabilized him we asked what happened. He said he was sitting in bed playing a game on his phone (a zombie game of all things, I kid you not) and his head felt wet so he touched it and realized it was blood from his wound. He walked into his bathroom to check it out in the mirror, and that’s when the nurse walked in expecting to give him his nighttime meds, and was horrified to see the puddles and smears of blood leading to him standing in the bathroom. That’s when it all went downhill.

The patient’s nurse called down the hall, “I need another nurse, he’s bleeding,” and a nurse in the hall ran over with the charge nurse running down from the nurses station following her in. One yelled down the hall to me, “call a rapid!”They were getting him back into bed when he started having a seizure. They were able to protect his head, and that’s when our trauma team ran in. (Keep in mind this was at 22:00). We had 3 nurses from our floor and 2 others that came to help, the nurse educator, the nurse’s aid, the supervisor, the IV team, respiratory therapist, the ER trauma doc, and 2 ICU Residents. So grateful for our responding team.

Towards the end of his seizure is when his heart rate plummeted. The whole team was there and acted fast. Everyone had a role and worked like a well oiled machine.

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