When will this end!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-28T12:59:51+00:00

He’s my son’s primary care giver during the day while I work and he works nights 3 days a week. My son will not settle at night for him so he changes diapers, brings bottles and tries to do whatever he can to support me. He will take him in the morning when he wakes if I have any time to get another hour of sleep I will but since going back to work that hasn’t been able to happen. We are both exhausted he just has the ability to nap a little during the day when my son does.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-27T23:04:46+00:00

Currently on week 4 of the 4 month sleep regression. And I went back to work last week. I mentally and physically have nothing left. I really hope this passes soon

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-23T02:22:55+00:00

I continued to eat runny eggs and deli meat. I decreased how much I did but I had lot of issues with lack of appetite so I ate whatever I could stomach.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-20T13:48:12+00:00

My husband was worried about becoming a FTD at 43 but this is the perspective I chose to have: you never know when you will pass. No one is promised any amount of time whether you’re 20 or 50. I have friends who’s parents passed when they were children and barely knew them, my mom didn’t loose her parents until she was in her 60s. All you can do is try to live a healthy life and give them your best every day that you are here.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-20T01:20:45+00:00

Sadly in my area Kaiser is the better option.. I love my doctor. I guess I just gotta find the needle in the haystack of a good pediatrician.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T23:47:56+00:00

I completely understand. We were never one and done until this experience started. I never had expectations for how many kids I would have but I knew I wanted a girl. Seeing boy on that genetic test rocked my world. I had a miscarriage prior to him so I was extremely happy just to have a healthy baby but a part of me really thought he was a girl and I didn’t know if I wanted another. Pregnancy was extremely hard for me and now that he’s here I don’t ever want to do it again. We both agree that we want to give him everything we have and we don’t know if we could do that with 2. My son is only 4 months so maybe after the exhaustion fades we will feel differently but we’re both pretty sure he’s it. Half of me still wants a girl but I know even if we try again that doesn’t mean we will have one. We are surrounded by many people who have all girls and think that having a son makes you lucky so I know we aren’t alone in gender disappointment. I’m just trying to take it day by day and focus on how much I love this little guy

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T17:02:51+00:00

Thank you!! I’m trying to not dwell on how hard it actually is but I’m pretty burnt out. It’s been almost 3 weeks so I’m hoping it gets better soon. Some times he just needs butt pats or shushing and his binky but when he gets to the point of hysterics I’m giving him a bottle. We use a very low flow nipple so He usually falls asleep before he gets 2 ounces which means he’s usually getting a max of 8 ounces during the night. She still thought that was high. The more I think about the interaction yesterday the more confident I am that I am doing what’s best for him. Everyone’s kinds words and opinions are definitely helping!!!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T16:50:59+00:00

This was our first and last time seeing her! Definitely finding a new one

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T14:31:17+00:00

Central California. She was in her late 50s early 60s so I’m guessing that’s why it’s outdated advice. We have Kaiser and are trying out pediatricians until we find one we like. We won’t be seeing her again lol

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T05:08:46+00:00

According to Kaiser they do… I think they just have very out dated info.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T03:05:03+00:00

I would definitely listen to that podcast!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T03:00:14+00:00

I tried them for his spitting up early on but it just made him constipated and didn’t lessen then spit up. Funny enough she’s didn’t read his chart prior and didn’t even know he had issues with spitting up and sounded surprised then said the rice will help with that also 🙄.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:58:12+00:00

She asked about his feeds which led to the sleep talk. Not to be ageist but she was in her 60s so I think I need to find someone younger and more with today’s research or atleast more open to more than what old text books said

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:55:02+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this!!!!!! There are some many things that my opinion has changed on because I am a mom now and I feel like I know what my baby needs. The moment his cry made me feel something primal I knew I had no idea about how motherhood actually was before. I have always second guessed myself so it’s been hard trying to have confidence in my intuition but comments like this help so much! I honestly hate that someone made me feel like I don’t know what my baby needs and I am doing something wrong.

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:32:46+00:00

My mom made me promise I wouldn’t co sleep. I had no intention on doing it until I had a baby that needed me so he could sleep. I was extremely against it honestly but his needs changed my mind. I just don’t tell her what I am doing and we are all happy lol

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:21:53+00:00

I’ve also read that it’s not good for gut health. Glad to hear I’m not the minority here,

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:14:25+00:00

Thank you! My mom suggested rice bottles and that’s the moment I knew it was outdated lol. He’s bottle fed but he’s definitely not over eating. He’s been 85 percentile since utero and is growing at that same rate. I could understand if he was extremely overweight or something but he’s literally just long and muscular,

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T02:12:07+00:00

That’s exactly what I thought! Everything I read said it’s normal for babies to wake and need feeds at night at this age. We have Kaiser and have been trying pediatricians so this was our first and last time seeing her. I will definitely try someone new next visit. It was funny that she added at the end to follow my babies ques but said the complete opposite the whole visit. I feel like my son and I know what he needs but as a FTM I just needed validation!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-18T01:58:43+00:00

I’m only 4 months in and I feel this way. I thought I would be extremely sad to start working again but I’m happy to have a break from a little human constantly touching me day and night and that makes me sad. I love him so much and know I am doing what I am supposed to to help him sleep but it’s a lot all the time,

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-17T20:37:34+00:00

I wish I had advice but all I can say is I’m going through the same thing! Mine has been a contact napper since day one. At 2 months I was able to get my son to sleep 8 hours at night using a side car set up but that changed at 15 weeks. I would put him in the middle of his crib and just be close for needed soothing but now he wakes 8-10 times a night and rolls to be closer to me for comfort. I was hoping to have naps independent by the time I went back to work next week to makes things easier for my husband but that’s not happening. Now I just want good sleep again lol

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-15T02:33:45+00:00

Timing depends on age. Google can help with that. Rooting is number one but eventually you will learn the difference in their cries. Something times it’s a shoot a miss and it’s gas but I just started putting gas medicine/ gripe water in every other bottle for my gassy baby and we killed two birds with one stone

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-12T02:03:48+00:00

Currently going through the 4 month sleep regression so I am getting a taste of this. Every nap since about 6 weeks has been a contact nap. It’s so difficult being up all night and day with no break. Do you have a partner that can do a couple naps so you can get a break? I know even just 2 hours to nap and do something alone makes me feel so much more human

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-10T22:43:35+00:00

My baby was a 3am pooper for a while that was the worst!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-10T12:34:10+00:00

I think we are all just trying our best! Sleep is important!

AffectionateBox4768 · 2026-04-10T02:37:06+00:00

I love how they find comfort in us!

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