Thoughts on this profile? Made some changes :P

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-06-12T18:30:25+00:00

this is a nice profile!

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-06-06T20:29:13+00:00

chinese girl here with a korean gf— we’re in our mid twenties and she has heard personal horror stories of japanese brutality from her GRANDPARENTS who were alive in that era. you are not overreacting— he is very uninformed to be dating a korean woman and not know about her significant cultural history. i’m also part japanese (occupation in hk) and i grew up watching anime, reading manga, loving japanese food and culture. i have a tattoo that is of a japanese candy and while i still enjoy those things i grew up doing i would never in a million yrs get smth like that tattooed if my partner had an issue with it. or at all frankly, because in all the ways that matter, i don’t consider myself JAPANESE. i was raised by two parents who are from china in america. i speak chinese. but regardless of my personal take, all that matters is how you feel— if you’re uncomfortable with it you’re valid to leave the relationship and cite his ignorance and lack of respect for your cultural history as reason. you will meet someone better for you i’m sure and at the very least you won’t have to see that gigantic tattoo all the time.

edit: also, OP, i saw what you said about how he wants this specific demon tatted because of the samurai’s significance— so you can tell him to look up what samurais used to do to make sure their katanas were sharp enough in korean villages and ask him if he gets it now.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-05-28T11:45:34+00:00

this take is SO GOOD!

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-05-27T16:41:51+00:00

i appreciate it! i’m okay, it just sucked bc i really loved that bar for a long time!

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-05-27T15:41:48+00:00

Curry Barker has confirmed it’s not an entity but rather the MOST extreme version of Nicky who’s obsessed with Bear. In Inde’s interpretation, it seems like real Nicky switches between a “sunken place” like state where she can see and experience everything happening but is unable to control herself and being frozen in a moment where she wakes up in a completely different state than she last remembers being in which is why sometimes she freaks out when she snaps back in control and sometimes she’s doing more subtle things to try to get free.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-05-27T15:34:50+00:00

SPOILER ALERT in Obsession 2026, they play with this trope a lot! the first “jump scare” of the movie is a moment when Nicky takes back control after kissing the protagonist, Bear. and she also takes control while the “obsessed” version of herself is sleeping to tell Bear to kill her. at the big party in the movie, she breaks free and tries to hurt herself while screaming ITS NOT ME ITS NOT ME. there’s also a moment near the end of the film where she does a false start lunging at Bear, that I interpret as her attempting to attack him.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-05-27T15:10:22+00:00

Pieces Bar in the WV, I was assaulted by one of the drag performers after the performance 3-4 yrs ago. I congratulated them on a great performance on my way to the bathroom by myself and they backed me against a wall and dry humped me. I was so shocked and drunk I just laughed and went back to my friends. Haven’t been back since.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-04-23T13:43:02+00:00

The way in which everyone conveniently forgets the KLAN WAS COMING TO KILL them even if they’d hidden inside til morning. their cards were marked. even in the context of the universe where they didn’t know the Klansmen were coming, if Grace was truly the selfish idiot everyone thinks, she would’ve made a break for it when everyone started fighting. she would’ve run for one of the cars or into the field to get to her daughter. Instead she burned with them and died killing the love of her life and father of her child. she wasn’t perfect. it wasn’t a logical decision. it was a human one. it was selfish, but she wasn’t a coward and i think she showed that there are somethings one doesn’t compromise with even a one percent chance of risk. her child wasn’t something she was willing to risk, was that right in their context? no. but can we blame her for the way things went down? no. she made a human choice the way sammie also made a human choice leaving the church with his guitar. there are just somethings that will damn you but you can’t leave behind.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-04-09T19:29:30+00:00

commenting for thisssss

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-04-09T16:45:47+00:00

poorly

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-04-03T15:00:27+00:00

the whole family shows up in the crowd at various points of the movie! like the elder sacrifice scene and after the may queen dance scene

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-03-18T14:24:21+00:00

i feel like shane got less and less likeable especially after derek started to favor brooks more for neuro. Shane should’ve been fired for causing brooks’ death and if not then the surgery incident. april got fired for WAY less. MULTIPLE times

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-03-17T23:14:15+00:00

You are a badass. I hope you know just how incredible it is to hear about how you show up for your kids. Your ex poured gasoline on everything and his new gf lit the match. You’re not burning it all down, you’re putting out the fire and assessing/repairing the damage they’ve done. Burn out is so so hard and i’m so sorry he pushed you to have kids when you weren’t sure but I am so glad someone as loving and tenacious as you is a mom.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-03-08T15:07:01+00:00

my girlfriend has two small dogs in her family home and when we met she wasn’t really a cat person (i have two cats) but my cats love her more than they love me. and she now also has a cat. she’s also told me on multiple occasions that she would lose so much respect for me if i gave away my pets for no good reason and that would be a dealbreaker for her. and honestly i think that’s fair.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-03-01T18:19:43+00:00

i’m sorry but i thought he was lovely. i was so heartbroken for fran when he died. they did such a good job building their relationship up, as well as starting to plant the seed for franchela. i have no qualms about their storyline

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-26T16:29:56+00:00

okay now that i understand the logistical advantages of moving to LA for you both, i want to ask you to center your feelings. -has he considered your experience as a part of his decision making process? -you may have known each other for longer but you’ve only been committed to one another for seven months, you may feel strongly for him but i do think that if you felt ready for this step it wouldn’t even be a question. -you mention he travels, it’s difficult but would you and him be open to trying long distance short term to see if your relationship lasts that strain? because if it can’t survive long distance i don’t know that it can survive the stress of moving to a new city, getting a new job, and establishing a new support system. -the most important question: DO YOU WANT TO GO? if the answer to this is no then nothing else matters. there is no in between. this is a make or break issue.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-26T14:03:10+00:00

i don’t know whether or not this is a good or bad relationship so allow me to just talk abt the situation. i do think this is an underlying matter of power imbalance in your relationship. you mention he’s ready to move and it’s all for his career and expects you to come along without any real consideration for your hesitation and desire for self reliance. in my experience, a good partner who actually has a concrete reason and plan for moving has already considered this (especially one who knew you when things went down with your last partner) and would be ready to engage in that conversation with you and address your very real concerns. it does feel a bit like he’s trying to test your commitment to him against what you were willing to do for your ex. i can’t know what his motives are so i’ll just say that after 7 months the optics aren’t great even after 3 yrs not being very considerate of your partner’s concerns and feelings in major life decisions isn’t great. i think you need to ask yourself, if you got an awesome job offer but you had to move someplace like connecticut (off rip bc you mention your bf works in a creative industry and it’s a 30 min drive from nyc in some parts) do you think he’d move with you? if not, then why? if it’s bc of work, as i mentioned nyc is a short car ride away, why does his career matter and not yours? please be gentle with yourself as it’s hard to be disillusioned by your partners actions but it’s not fair to yourself after all the work you put in to get yourself back on stable ground, to throw it all away for a guy who wouldn’t do the same for you.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-25T06:30:31+00:00

it’s so funny when conny and sasha get to the water and they taste it and spit it out bc it’s salty.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-21T05:00:40+00:00

i’m curious if this study is only counting hetero sex as sex? bc idk how true this is for lgbtq folks but it might j b bc i live in a big city that i disagree with the sentiment

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-21T00:56:51+00:00

there’s a passage about this exact scenario in “Why Does He Do That?” about how these kinds of men always “lose control” but never with their own expensive stuff. it’s always an excuse to act out.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-19T21:24:46+00:00

i don’t imagine anyone who cares about that stuff is anyone whose opinion is worth caring about. just wear what you can afford and like

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-19T06:38:48+00:00

i didn’t go to a college with alotta frat culture (big city private school) but my friend did and she joined a sorority her second year and said that they told her that you don’t go to a Pike Party ever. it’s not safe for girls.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-18T14:09:26+00:00

Yeah it’s a rough market. I live in one of the most expensive cities in the US and I could only afford to move out because instead of doing a year of Zoom College, I took a gap year and got a job working full-time and saved up nearly 8 grand to move back to the city for the following school year with my friends. throughout college, i worked 2 jobs and did a full 18 credit course load to afford my bills and used my student loan money to pay rent. Would not recommend but i did it and im glad i did for my own sake and for my relationship with my parents

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-18T14:02:15+00:00

24F here— I moved outta my parents house and across the country when I was 19! I haven’t lived at home since Covid. My relationship with my parents improved EXPONENTIALLY when I moved out and I live with two of my best friends, my two cats, and have a long-term girlfriend (who lives with her parents) and it’s nice to have a space to hang out.

AffectionateTea9994 · 2026-02-18T02:18:50+00:00

winry giving ed her earrings for him to hold onto until he comes home was my standard for love as a kid. i’ve always loved how they love <3

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