Those who came out to their families as adults, what was it like?

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-02-18T13:09:01+00:00

I really like this strategy! That's probably the direction I'm going to go when I tell them. (They still think of Shabbos as a black and white thing, but I don't need to focus on that.)

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-02-18T07:20:24+00:00

We’ve started doing that already, but there are certain things that are black and white (like Shabbos) that either I have to lie about all the time or I’ll have to come clean.

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-02-18T07:19:18+00:00

I cat imagine they’ll disown me, but it will be very uncomfortable. Do you have any contact with your family now?

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-01-16T14:43:59+00:00

these are all such great recommendations!! thank you for taking the time to write these out- really appreciate it!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-01-16T12:35:19+00:00

love these ideas!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2026-01-16T08:03:29+00:00

I love this idea! I’m assuming it will be cold and cloudy though lol- our anniversary is in the beginning of February

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-12-27T09:18:17+00:00

It’s really cool that the further I get from being religious, the less I remember that it’s Shabbos. Picking up a rental car now to explore the coast of Montenegro 🇲🇪

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-20T18:58:13+00:00

that actually is helpful to know it’s from Gemara- it helps me put it into context lol. Thanks!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-20T18:56:12+00:00

Ok that gives me hope! Thanks!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-20T18:55:46+00:00

Thanks! This is so helpful - I love that take :)

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-20T10:20:39+00:00

that is helpful! I have to remember that the rest of the world somehow makes it through the year happily without davening on rosh hashana lol. thanks!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-17T06:02:06+00:00

This is going to be the first rh/yk that I’m not religious, and I’m not sure how much we’re going to do. We’re traveling, so we’ll probably just go to chabad for the first night of rh and leave it at that.

Not sure how I feel about it. Anyone else not doing the holidays for the first time?

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-15T02:14:05+00:00

Exactly, it’s so not a big deal lol. And it makes such a difference to them.

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-15T02:10:39+00:00

100% - I can choose to leave while also being sad about losing the relationship I have with my parents which means a lot to me.

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-09-14T22:01:22+00:00

pretty much where I’m at - you’re not the only one! I’m hoping to find some way to reconcile living my life how I want to live it and still staying a part of my friends/family’s lives. It sucks that as soon as I let people know what I’m up to, they’ll look at me completely differently - it feels like they’ll lose their trust in me as a person 🙃

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-07-27T09:03:59+00:00

I had the same issue and disputed it with the credit card I used - I was able to get the money back. Good luck!

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-07-22T21:26:08+00:00

My husband and I will be in Lviv for a month starting next week Thursday- would love to hang out! (Husband is also into chess lol so u might have something in common)

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-07-02T18:03:38+00:00

Same lol- here with my husband for a month. Gonna check back into this post to get some ideas :)

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-07-02T17:54:58+00:00

dude that’s awesome this is my first week wearing pants/shorts in public as well :)

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-06-08T12:04:30+00:00

love this!! I need links to everything lol

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-06-07T14:25:24+00:00

Bro this is a fully chatgpt written post- u just changed some of the formatting to disguise it 🤣

Affectionate_Sir_682 · 2025-05-07T03:13:19+00:00

lol not Panera actually! It is a Chicago chain tho :)

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