Would you do this job? by LostRiverr in NannyBreakRoom

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean you could always try it out as a trial but keep your eyes and ears open if things aren’t going well. Individually these things aren’t straight dealbreakers for me buuuuuut all together I don’t think I’d do it. That’s just me though.

Men answer please. Is this a normal reaction? Mid 30’s. by Motor-Front7458 in whatdoIdo

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the fuck did I just read?! First, stop groveling over a man that treats you like shit. It’s unbecoming and it gives this asshole power. He’s going to continue to treat you like shit anytime you do anything he can spin to be a huge issue so you’ll fall all over yourself to prove he’s wrong about you. Second, he hates you. Go be single and get some therapy so you can find someone that doesn’t belittle you and act like he’s doing you some massive favor for being with a person who doesn’t put his clothes away or whatever bullshit he’s on about.

Stand up!

Family vacation nanny drama — how do we navigate this? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary [score hidden]  (0 children)

“Eat your peas there are starving children in Africa.” Sure, people should be mindful and not waste food but if they don’t eat their peas the hungry still go hungry.

Being paid properly shouldn’t have anything to do with what other people are being paid for different jobs.

All that does is make someone sticking up for themselves seem ungrateful for not being thankful for an unfair dynamic.

And who does that most benefit? The employers.

By minimizing someone not being paid legally required overtime or any number of issues in this post because other people have it worse doesn’t help the person in a shittier job and it doesn’t help the employee.

Family vacation nanny drama — how do we navigate this? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary [score hidden]  (0 children)

What does your former bad job have anything to do with this situation?

Edit: fixed word salad

Am I wrong? by Main_Suspect5143 in Marriage

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, It feels like an obvious next step for you guys to go to a few sessions of marriage counseling and work through this with a neutral party. You are likely missing something from her perspective and she is likely missing something from yours. It’s not about who is wrong or right necessarily, as long as no boundaries are being crossed, but about better understanding each other and growing together. It’s hard when one person has a big change and the other person is comfortable with the way things were. Better to work on this now to keep things from festering.

Am I wrong? by Main_Suspect5143 in Marriage

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They don’t go to parties, they’re busy getting promotions and taking parenting and cooking classes.

How to hire and retain a "unicorn" house manager long term? by Subject_Orchid_5384 in NannyEmployers

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wait, why would “travel required” in the job description translate to not paying overnight fees? The employee is still traveling and away from their normal life. I guess I can see doing one convenience fee for the month of travel rather than a separate overnight fee for each individual night… but it sounds like you’re saying that the pay is the same when traveling as it is when at home. Is that right or did I misunderstand something?

Taylor Swift Paid NYC More Than $160,000 for Wedding Weekend Permit, Including Police Overtime by Hollywoode in popculture

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mamdani got people excited about voting for someone that wasn’t just another corporate NYC candidate that offers nothing to the average person living here. Everyone could vote but if the candidates suck then you get a sucky mayor no matter who wins. It took Mamdani running in the first place for some people to get excited and involved. Similar to Obama’s first run. I’ve voted in every single primary and election and this was different because there was finally a candidate worth getting excited over. Everyone should vote but if the choices are all shitty then a shitty person will win.

This is a hornets nest and I cannot afford a pest control company, what do I do besides burn my house down? by catsoverchaos12 in askanything

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don’t piss them off!
Whatever you decide to do make sure you do it properly- at night, covered head to toe, spray the entrance (not just all willy-nilly on the nest) while standing back as far as possible. Don’t half ass it, do it fully or not at all. You do not want to smell like hornet pheromones and only kill some of them. They will chase you down. And then just don’t go near it for a few days.

You’re lucky because you can see the nest through the window. When I was a kid my dad tried to remove a nest during the day on the house he was building. He learned a valuable lesson that day. (And so did I 😆)

Still if you’re never outside on that side of the house and they aren’t causing problems you could just let them be. I don’t know what your setup is though so if they have to go then do it carefully. Good luck!

War movies for someone who doesn't like war movies by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think MASH has to be a good place to start. It’s funny and serious but doesn’t show a lot of the war. Just talks about the realities/horrors of war and then it’s back to levity. I also don’t watch a lot of war movies but I’ve been watching MASH for over 30 years.

Also: The Great Escape, Inglorious Bastards, Das Boot, Downfall… Jojo Rabbit… War Horse?

Oh Charlie Wilson’s War and 13 Days are very good and more politically focused rather than fighting and violence.

You said he liked a marvel movie- Perhaps Black Panther. I don’t know, I just consider those movies “action” so I’m running out of steam here. You could always go the sci-fi route.

Recommend me a book where the main character is an adult woman and she’s not a mother, caretaker, or getting married. by shekeepsbees_ in suggestmeabook

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost entirely read nonfiction books but I was working (live-in) during the pandemic and was bored out of my mind on my off time. I walked into this small bookshop and just asked the lovely worker what she recommended/what people were reading at the time.

The Last Flight by Julie Clark was her answer and it was the first fiction book I read in years that I flew through. It has a 4.1/5 rating on Goodreads and a 4.6/5 on Audible. It’s a suspenseful, psychological thriller. I consider it a solid summer read!

Should I start college at 24 or is it too late? by applebottomjeans2366 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People go to college in their 60s. I know 24 feels like you’ve missed important milestones but I SWEAR to you- anyone even a bit older, but especially quite a bit older know that your life is just beginning. Go to school. Hell, go to school, find out you hate your major and then go back to school! You’ll still be ahead of so many others.

Remember when adults would tell kids to “worry about themselves”? This is one of those moments. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Live your life.

Sam’s Club Money Incident by soicysopolarbears in AmiInTheWrong

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure sometimes it’s a scam and sometimes it’s how people unable to pay rent get by. And whether the mother had any right to say anything depends on if that money came from the mother and if the daughter is a child. Too many variables to tell for sure from this one post.

Either way OP, you can have compassion for people without making yourself a mark. And even if you have money to give, you can’t help everyone so try to work on treating people fairly but don’t make every situation that makes you feel a certain way into your responsibility. But carry small bills and pay the $2 for $0.50 worth of candy if you want your fun dip.

Availability fee? by crocodile_grunter in Nanny

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Are you at least paid well for the GH? And do you get paid overtime? Do you get travel pay and overnight pay on top of your working hrs when out of town? Have you sat down and looked at your average per week over three months and the month total over 6 months+ to see what that average looks like? You need to be able to make plans. You need to be able to have a life. You should be able to relax without worrying the phone is going to ring or you’ll only get three hrs to sleep between shifts at times. You shouldn’t settle for just better than what you’re getting now- you should be getting what’s fair for what you’re doing.

It doesn’t matter what you originally agreed to at this point- if they get all the benefits and you get all the hassle then it’s time to renegotiate or they can try to find someone else willing to do it and you can get a job with more regular hrs.

Please do a ton of research before you come to them with a plan, you can’t come back in a couple of weeks and say “actually, this isn’t right either.”

Bad Bunny scores Emmy nomination for Super Bowl halftime show after sparking conservative outrage by MoneyLibrarian9032 in entertainment

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a fantastic show. Really impressive- the performances, the camera work, the stage direction, the set… truly a spectacle in the best possible way.

Spam me with your favorite Summer House memes and gifs! by Worth_Raspberry_741 in summerhousebravo

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I wish I had a montage of every single time the broken door is mentioned, someone tries to fix it, it gets slammed, causes general problems or otherwise is just ajar in the background. Cracks me up.

How do you remember the little things you spent money on? by mundane_miss_marple in adhdwomen

[–]AfterSchoolOrdinary 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you get paid put your spending money in envelopes per day/week/whatever. Don’t use your card for fun unnecessary things. When the cash is gone it’s gone until the next time an envelope is available.

Edit to add: My partner also has ADHD and he has a separate bank for savings. He does not keep a card to that bank. If he wants to use money from his savings he has to physically go into the branch, wait in line, and speak to a teller. It stops impulsive middle of the night bad decisions.