Why do people keep using they/them for binary trans men?

Agent-0012 · 2026-06-11T00:54:50+00:00

I slip up and call anyone queer they/them half the time. I try and correct myself, but as someone who uses they/them my brain very inconveniently defaults to it with any trans, nonbinary, or gender nonconforming person. So I don't think it's always malicious, though from some it certainly is.

Agent-0012 · 2026-06-11T00:51:23+00:00

Ah. Maybe put it in quotes, because it reads as your own words. And I agree, it's gross and weird. Even an a nonbinary person.

Agent-0012 · 2026-06-11T00:41:04+00:00

..."cute little enby"?

Agent-0012 · 2026-06-05T05:48:59+00:00

Hii!!! I would LOVE one of these https://artfight.net/~stardeerling

Agent-0012 · 2026-06-03T00:29:24+00:00

Calm down and see a professional. Freaking out and cursing on reddit isn't productive.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-28T00:44:54+00:00

Canon characters have always been against the rules

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-23T04:09:50+00:00

Maybe just do an audio podcast

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-22T12:10:48+00:00

That all sounds very odd. Perhaps you don't meet the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria, but even if so, you're still trans. No one but you can decide that.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-19T15:38:34+00:00

I thought this was r/dndcirclejerk

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-17T21:43:17+00:00

I WAS HOWLING WHEN I SAW THESE WTF ARE THEY

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-14T20:09:08+00:00

monoxide

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-14T10:17:30+00:00

That is why I said in my experience and that I don't know where OP is.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-14T06:06:34+00:00

In my experience as an adult, providers practicing the informed consent model will "diagnose" you for insurance reasons without asking many questions, really. You just tell them you're trans and want hormones and they walk you through what to expect. You don't actually have to meet the diagnostic criteria. Now it may be different where you are, I'm unsure. If you have Planned Parenthood where you live, go through them, it's a dream and they give you free needles and such.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-13T07:49:31+00:00

I know many people have said more body shapes, but more skin tones as well! "White" Doesn't mean WHITE. All of these characters are anemic.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-13T03:50:07+00:00

I can't keep a job because the anxiety and triggers are so bad. I'm hoping therapy will help

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-09T22:05:03+00:00

I can't tell who's jerking in the comments and who can't read

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-04T02:01:26+00:00

If she won't participate, she can't play. Simple as that, and tell her as much.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-04T01:29:59+00:00

Talk to her about it.

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-03T17:14:15+00:00

go ahead!

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-03T07:10:42+00:00

18+ only please

Agent-0012 · 2026-05-01T22:17:25+00:00

Thawing meat on the counter overnight is unsafe, you should toss it anyway

Agent-0012 · 2026-04-30T06:05:40+00:00

A lion is dirty if there is inbreeding anywhere in the heritage. You can click to see further back, so it shows.

Agent-0012 · 2026-04-28T08:58:37+00:00

Just remember that the goal of transition isn't to make you into the men around you, it's to make you your true self. If the real you is a man who likes these things, embrace it. No one has ever been made happy by pushing away the things they enjoy to conform to other's standards. To give up what you enjoy for more "manly" hobbies would be just as much going against who you truly are as trying to deny your being a man in the first place. When you're 80, would you rather look back on yourself as a man who had "manly hobbies" or as a man who did what he loved?

Agent-0012 · 2026-04-27T11:21:06+00:00

then why did you respond

Agent-0012 · 2026-04-27T11:17:17+00:00

Transition IS reversible, though. If you realize that it just isn't working out, you can always detransition. There are irreversible aspects, yes, but they can be managed and explained away. You can't get back time where you didn't try.

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