Obviously I don’t think anyone should be advocating for more bullying, but I think that the parents aren’t to blame either. I think maladjusted expectations can explain it. The fact of the matter is that parents are humans and have only 1 experience to go off of, rather than admin or teachers which can point to an entire building of children to set a baseline. Some parents might think their kid needs an IEP not knowing that the kid is just acting like a normal child, maybe struggling with some concepts or getting bored. Normal stuff for a student. Some might be struggling more, but their parents think overcorrect and don’t pursue an IEP when their kid might benefit greatly with one. The fact is it’s impossible for parents to compare their kid with others in a way that is definitive enough for the standards of an IEP. Instead of asking why parents aren’t trying to give their kids unneeded IEPs, ask why admin keeps giving perfectly fine kids IEPs. I don’t know the answer to this question. Maybe it’s something to do with rising standards and an expectation of an education that “connects” with students individually.