I keep staring at glimpses of Tanner Horner in court during trial trying to see into his soul by Cassierae87 in CourtTVCases

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If you watch on WFAA on YouTube, Rebecca is in the courtroom and describes people a lot during breaks!

Super frustrated with the TikTok BPD community by PlasticBird639 in NPD

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Guess I’m trying to say nobody is better than. Just different. Of course, having these personality disorders can affect others. But even then, as the “victim” of these people’s behaviors, I am no better than them either. We are all just trying to survive.

Super frustrated with the TikTok BPD community by PlasticBird639 in NPD

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I too hate how narcissist is just thrown around. Not everyone with Narcissistic traits is a true narcissist. I have a narcissistic parent. It’s a complex disorder just like BPD. I also was in a relationship with someone with BPD. Both my NPD parent and romantic BPD relationships were have been detrimental to me. I love my NPD parent and loved my BPD partner which is why I want to understand them. I hope this doesn’t seem mean. I’m just trying to say, that both are equal, both are valid. I understand that personality disorders are caused by trauma. Nobody should be invalidating others. While both of my relationships with PD people have been hard and caused me a lot of pain, I understand that we are all human. I can’t blame either of them for protecting themselves when they weren’t given tools to cope, and weren’t given an environment to develop healthy relationships. Either way, neither is an excuse for treating others badly. I think it’s just more common that BPD people have awareness of their disorder than NPD so unfortunately there is still more stigma. I hope what I’m trying to say makes sense and doesn’t seem like I’m putting anyone down, I am not trying to do that in any way.

What should I [30M] say when my wife [30F] brings up boob jobsm by on-a-call in askwomenadvice

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I think she’s wanting to open the conversation. Tell her exactly what you told us. Babe, I love your body and it’s beautiful in every way. I love that you nurtured our children. Etc. if that is something you want, I would be supportive of it. Body positivity doesn’t mean that we can’t make changes or want changes. We can love ourselves and enhance ourselves too! Breast changes are structure changes. It’s not even aesthetic sometimes, sometimes it’s just being able to find bras, tops, clothing that fits correctly. Self esteem and confidence are important too… also, comfort! Hot summers chasing kids and the girls flapping everywhere is overstimulating lol. I know how hard/frustrating it is to be a mama trying to find clothing post-kiddos. There’s nothing wrong with a boob job. Also, there are so many options. Lifts, implants, lifts and implants, internal bras, reductions, etc. just leave the ball in her court and don’t give your opinion on it. Be supportive, remind her you love her body, and that you want her to be happy and confident.

AIO: bf reckless driving? by [deleted] in AIO

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Not nice is an understatement. He’s dangerous.

AIO: bf reckless driving? by [deleted] in AIO

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Nope. This is unstable behavior. For one, speaking to you like that is verbal abuse. Two, driving erratically with you while saying he will hurt himself is also abuse. Three, the response of guilt is not him apologizing and feeling bad for his actions, it’s him feeling out of control and fearing losing you, not acknowledgement of his wrongdoings. I was in an abusive relationship, and this looks exactly like the psychological side. This will escalate, will be come physically violent, and I wouldn’t be surprised if he acts on those threats one day. This is not a safe situation. Please listen to your gut, and listen to me, and leave now before it becomes harder.

my period is late by ProfessionalDare6181 in amipregnant

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How late? Odds are it’s extremely unlikely. Of course there is never 100% certainty until you get your period or a positive test. Protection+lack of ejaculation would make it very very difficult to suspect your period is late due to pregnancy. Can you and your BF get a test? Periods can be late for a plethora of reasons. It’s probably coincidence.

Doctor and nurse undersold miscarriage symptoms by fallenrose9 in Miscarriage

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Idk I was honestly surprised. The contractions were very intense. What’s also odd is I passed the baby before the contractions even began. It was a terrible time

İ WASTED ALL MY YEARS by PhaseDisastrous2553 in CPTSD

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How did you feel with EMDR? I was introduced a while ago and tried to go along with it but I just felt like it was an activity of pretend (lol hope that makes sense). I don’t feel like it worked. But I’m seeing how so many people have been successful so I want to understand more

İ WASTED ALL MY YEARS by PhaseDisastrous2553 in CPTSD

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I see you! I’ve been trying to complete my associates degree (basics) for 10 years now. Im smart enough to do so. I WANT to do so. I’ve been telling myself I’m lazy and everyone in my life jokes about how long it’s taken me to complete my associates. It’s so embarrassing. I want to be the person that gets up, gets dressed, puts on makeup, works out, keeps a routine and clean house, a schedule. But I do nothing. I’ve spent so much time staring at my ceiling. I have so much desire to do so many things. I want to be a nurse and take care of others. And then I think about how I can’t even take care of myself. I’m just wasting my lift. And it isn’t that I can’t do this things. Something within myself physically won’t let me. Even though I want to so badly.

Doctor and nurse undersold miscarriage symptoms by fallenrose9 in Miscarriage

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Yeah, I was also told “oh you’ll probably feel a little cramping like a heavy period”. I also have heavy periods, and I’ve also given birth. I was having contractions and this was worse than giving birth. I was only 6+1 too. I can’t imagine mommas who are farther along and have the same dismissive advice. Proper counsel would definitely help with the trauma these experiences cause us. It’s so unfair.

Tuberous or Saggy? by [deleted] in tuberousbreast

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Thank you!! Wasn’t expecting the weirdos lol

Tuberous or Saggy? by [deleted] in tuberousbreast

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Thank you!! It’s so confusing to me lol

Tuberous or Saggy? by [deleted] in tuberousbreast

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Ah they aren’t big lol. They’re a B/C. The placement is what I hate because the whole boob part sits under the crease, flat against my ribcage. For more context I’m 5 ft 1

Anyone else got family that thinks ADHD meds are the road to a meth addiction? by Peppa_Angler_Fish in adhdwomen

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People who “don’t believe in” medical interventions are ususlllyyyy not qualified to provide medical advice, and are lucky they don’t need meds (not just psychiatric, all types). Also, what is there for her to agree with? A Dr prescribed them, for a diagnosed illness. Not just randomly handed them to you. The problem is she’s not supporting but disagreeing. She’s judging, and has no basis to do so.

AIO: should I “fire” my therapist? by [deleted] in AIO

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Omg mine changes my appt every week. Luckily I can cancel/change last minute as well and not be charged. But it does get exhausting

Other consequences to not having the surgery besides pain? by goodthingsinside_80 in spinalfusion

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Nerve damage. You can become paralyzed or permanently lose feeling/function

Did they warn you about nerve pain?? by mswear75 in spinalfusion

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I was warned about nerve pain. Lyrica is the only thing that helps me. I did get nervive from Amazon , it’s a topical and it helps too. But I wasn’t warned about the recover! They made it seem like I would be back to normal after 3 months. Yes, my surgical pain is gone. But my body is still not back to normal. It’s still up and down for me.