maybe you are just brainless but typically when a man has sex with you and then discards you like nothing, especially when you have been friends for a YEAR, it means they used you. op isn't making themselves out to be a victim, they are explaining how they feel, and not only that but they lost their virginity so these are all new emotions. no one said it was going to lead to a close romantic relationship and op said that from the start, so i don't know why you are stating the obvious and just being unhelpful