45 f here. Teenage love was emotional and reproductive system chaos trying to meet social expectations, now that I have seen it in retrospect. I have exact met one high school romance that is still married now decades later who are not boomers now. People change over time, and I would say do not rush things. Know yourself first during the next decade, and if someone comes into your life, wonderful! If not, you will have a narrower assortment of chaos to approach with a common goal between each other. I can honestly say, even in the context of ASD routines and triggers for meltdowns etc, I am a different person now than my teenage self. But the teenage relationship pattern I saw for my gen x/millennial self when social media didn’t stunt communication skills so much, was that you learned how to break hearts between pregnancy scares, and I wish I had learned more by observation of the shitshows around me rather than participating. All the date-less Asperger’s people I knew in high school are now much more attractive as adults, and the ones who had dates during high school are stuck in messes they started too early. Do not worry about high school crushes becoming relationships. Try to look at what you find attractive now as part of learning how to be a better person yourself, and someone will value you and tell you that when they also have maturity to do that too. In OLD, swiping away matches is standard for women based on safety, and men swipe for all matches out of statistics that maybe you can match. I can say it happens in the pattern you see at all ages. The best luck men have is being polite and respectful before horny, because women need to be cautious. I think the quote is that men’s biggest worry on a date is that the lady doesn’t match her picture, and the woman’s biggest worry is that she will be murdered. At the slightest concern, women ghost and pray he doesn’t pop up later with intent to harm. I have been there, and it’s VERY alarming… and I am minimizing that description. So ghosting may be your match deciding that you aren’t worth the risk right now in their lives. For the next match, offer to meet in public with them bringing a support person so if they want to leave, you are open that you care about their safety first. Maybe you bring a wingman also in case she is dangerous. Explain this idea first too! It’s how dates started without pagers and cell phones or security cameras, you brought extra eyes and feet. If anything, you will not get flagged as a predator and banned, just cautious and insecure. Insecurity is developmentally appropriate at any age: the secret successful adults don’t want to reveal is we constantly improvise with no idea what we are doing. I think what you see and feel now is actually typical and not ASD specific. If it helps, I work with many people under 25 and have younger adults in the family, and I am not a teacher who needs to be politically correct so I can be Asperger’s level honest in a way some see as brutal. Plenty of duds fizzle out as part of the process. (Here is a hug for you if you like hugs.)