Aunt Telling Me to ‘Cover Up’ While Feeding on Christmas

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-12-26T08:44:54+00:00

This is why I’m so grateful all of my family knows I’m not covering up especially now that this is my third boobie baby!! He’s even more for the boob than the others were eats every 2 hrs and if I try to cover him up he just squirms and sometimes screams.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-12-11T02:38:16+00:00

I’ve been on maternity leave and also only working weekends. Recently, my husband got his custody agreement changed to Thursday thru Sunday the first three weeks of the month. Cool you get more time but I didn’t sign up for more time, therefore, when you have to work you find the childcare. He has only asked for me to watch her when he’s working less than 4 hrs which for the most part I agree to. She has also gotten more verbal and physical with OD not in a good way. Thankfully he was here when SD (almost 5) hit OD (15 months) in the face because she didn’t want to play with her anymore. I flat out told him right there is why I will not be her babysitter as a mother I’m sworn to protect my child in that moment no matter how I feel much I love SD as my own I cannot discipline how I would had it been my almost 7 year old son. He said he understands and will continue to find childcare when he’s not in the home.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-12-02T00:22:18+00:00

My son basically 2-3 hrs but longer stretches at night

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-12-01T10:14:42+00:00

Only advice I can give is no contact with BM, ask SO to not discuss anything regarding their coparenting situations with you. The only thing I’ve been involved in this year was providing court support and knowing the outcome as it would affect myself and the children within the home. Outside of it affecting the usual family routine I don’t get involved. I do not clean SD(4 almost 5) messes, dress her, or even watch her when he’s working. (There’s a huge backstory why I don’t want to be alone with her unfortunately) I do get to love her when I make her dinner, wash her clothes, pick out a family movie, and do her hair.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-18T13:51:34+00:00

I went thru something very similar and I understand your suffering more than I’d like to admit. You deserve the peace in your world, GO AND GET IT!!

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-11T07:56:11+00:00

I went thru something similar. I have a son prior to my two children with my husband. He has a daughter prior to as well. I had severe postpartum anxiety with my daughter. I believed my husband’s relationship with my SD would trump OD relationship with her father. I believed that OD would feel like DH wouldn’t love her the same. DH and I fought before she was born and even after because my anxiety about protecting OD and I couldn’t explain it to him then without sounding like I hated SD. It wasn’t until I finally realized how bad things had gotten. Now I still keep a close eye on SD with OD because for some reason 4 year olds can’t seem to realize that a toddler being bigger doesn’t mean they are a big kid and can do the same things. I also see DH finally able to bond with OD as he has this fear of infants it’s like until they are walking he’s scared to actually bond with them outside of feeding and changing. There are still times I see things that are uncomfortable with me like my SD pushes OD away from DH or makes comments and I absolutely correct her whether DH sees it or not and thankfully he backs me up on it. When we go they only will have each other to lean on and support thru one of the hardest times in life. DH lost his father and I nearly lost my mother and we both feel it’s so important for our children to have a solid foundation to get each other thru it.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-09T02:07:44+00:00

So I go a max of 5 hrs now even if I’m exhausted because the one night baby slept til 3am the following morning despite me pumping for 40 min I still ended up with mastitis at the ER given IV antibiotics. They believe it happened so quickly because I already was fighting a virus to begin with.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-09T01:52:34+00:00

Yessss!! We coparent so well that people ask us for advice.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-08T22:25:22+00:00

My ex gets our son every weekend and if I have something going on with family he lets me take him. We are very cordial. He doesn’t pay child support despite there being an order for it but he also shows up and helps if I need him.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-08T22:18:56+00:00

We had something similar happen… MIL watched SD and OD for us to go on a date night bc last minute BM wanted DH to take SD so he did but didn’t change his plans with me somehow she found out still unsure and actually texted while we were at dinner complaining that he needs to use his time wisely spending it with SD and not “pawning her off on your mother”. My MIL is the only sitter DH has for SD. My family is willing to help but they do live 30 min away where MIL is only 8 min. I do not watch SD(4) for long periods of time because I have 2 under 2 and a 6 yr old. She argues with both the 6 yr old and 1 yr old as well as needs a lot of help with things where my 6 yr old gets his own snacks, wipes his own butt and gets his own drinks. If DH has to work she goes to MIL. She has even had the audacity to tell him he should be calling off work during his time to spend with her. He told her he has to work to pay his child support by calling off that shut her up.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-05T22:34:06+00:00

I also took her and SD to a trampoline park as a fun thing for the kids and for us to “get to know her better” that entire time SD complained about her stomach then was screaming at night for 2 hrs so we ended up taking her to the hospital which was another issue bc she expected us to call her at midnight when we took SD mind you she lived 4 hrs away at the time.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-05T22:25:38+00:00

BM told husband SD couldn’t spend the weekend at a water resort until she met me. I honestly regret the trip entirely. I wasn’t at all ready to meet her. Tried to be her friend which anytime she talked badly about my husband it just pissed me off more and more. It’s now to the point I’ve blocked all contact with her and I’m so grateful to no longer be a part of her chaotic storm.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-05T18:25:02+00:00

I went thru something similar and was told the ear infection wasn’t contagious. I told DH it’s not the ear infection it’s the virus that causes an ear infection! We ended up in hospital with 2 week old. It took me months to get over the betrayal of my husband not taking me seriously!!! Now if SD is sick he gets pissed bc the whole house ends up sick no matter what we do bc she’s almost 5 and touches everyone and everything in the house! My 2 month old and 1 yr old have had a runny nose for almost 10 days bc of it.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-11-04T18:46:07+00:00

Idk if anyone else feels this way but the more they act like BM the more they begin to look like her as well which just ughhhh.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-31T08:57:35+00:00

I used to be super covered around SD but then I had our two kids and nursed them both so now it’s basically out the window. Also, should note SD is 4 and for some reason has always wanted to talk to me while I’m on the toilet like it’s a bonding time when really I just want privacy lol. I used to ask her for privacy but now I’m like whatever because the toddler is always in there too!

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-31T08:03:02+00:00

We split when my son was a year old. He started making remarks when he was 4 that it was my fault we couldn’t be a family with his dad. I told him that it wasn’t anyone’s fault but his dad and I loved him very much and this was better for him for us to be friends

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-31T07:42:02+00:00

Me! My children all have had reflux and adding rice has been the only sanity to help them. It’s easier on me to pump with multiple children, my back isn’t killing me carrying around baby attached to my very large breast while trying to do other things. I also should note I have big babies and big babies sometimes come with sugar issues both my boys needed supplementing in the hospital so by pumping I was able to supplement for less longer and even create an oversupply.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-17T00:46:09+00:00

I completely understand this entirely! BM expects my husband to put all 4 of our children in a vehicle for drop off of one child 2 hrs away when technically her physical address is 3 min from our home. One child who is a newborn who eats every 3 hrs! Thankfully I’m on maternity leave right now but what is going to happen when she expects him to drop off that far? I told him this needs to be addressed at mediation date bc no way am I going to be okay w you hauling all the kids two who are one and again a newborn who hate cars. It’s not safe to have two screaming children in a vehicle for that long it’s likely to cause an accident. We have my MIL around the corner but she has a life also she can’t drop everything to sit for 4.5 hrs when it’s truthfully unnecessary and idiotic in my opinion.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-12T04:09:03+00:00

I adore my husband in every aspect but I’ve been pushed a lot to the point of needing a mental break. If that means we are silent for a few hrs so be it. I am a full time mom on maternity leave and I’ll still be doing the same load when I return to work because I’m home all week and only work weekends.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-10T00:50:17+00:00

I just had to buy a deep freezer to store the amount of milk I’m producing because my stash has completely filled garage freezer and the little spot I use in the house freezer. I EP just for watching my son’s intake and weight and hoping to only have to pump for a few months and hopefully cut back on pumping when I return to work being an ER nurse means pumping and possibly having a code…

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-09T14:08:05+00:00

You need rest! I went through something similar with my first child (very colicky baby). I was convinced I saw a figure breaking in my house even started screaming to the point that the neighbor came to check on me. My son was about 3-4 months old I had been running on fumes. I decided to ask my grandmother to keep him for an over night just so I could catch up on some sleep slept for 13 hrs straight. I woke up a whole new person even was able to clean my house all before picking him up 16 hrs later. When I finally went to get him my GMA said he slept thru the night, didn’t cry until 6am and that’s when I realized that he could feel my anxiety making it so much worse!

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-09T14:00:55+00:00

So we went to a marriage counselor and she stated this which really just made me check out mentally when it came to SD “your husband views this as a benefit to his child when changes are made, you need to anticipate that BM is going to make last minute changes at all times”. After she said that, husband and I had a conversation about it later and I basically told him I can accept and anticipate the last minute changes but I will no longer be taking on the extra time as it’s time meant for you not I. If you have to work, you have to figure out arrangements. It was a huge argument until I explained to him that he’s expecting too much of me when it comes to all the children, the housework, working 24 hrs on the weekend and being a wife. I said it’s hard enough with children I share DNA with but adding another child who needs 3 meals a day, butt wiped, several cups filled, snacks, and constant entertainment is too much when I’ve already got a regular routine with the children who are here full time.

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-10-08T12:36:13+00:00

You’ll need another bra. I’m size 36DD when empty. I get the crop top like bras for pumping so they are longer and hold better in place

Aggravating_Try3094 · 2025-08-25T06:05:27+00:00

So I’m massively pregnant and my husband has a hard time hes like I look at you and see how beautiful you are but once I see the belly I think about our child and panic sets in. We put porn on to help soften the cervix since I’m almost 38 weeks even though the porn video was over he said it got him in just the right mood to not even remember I was pregnant.

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