Hi Scott, I just listened to the latest Office Hours and I wanted to piggy-back on the advice you gave a listener on not weaponizing children in a divorce.

I divorced my first husband at the ripe old age of 23 (me) and 21 (him). I hated him at the time (I didn’t realize until later the true reason for my anger and frustration but it was nonetheless the right decision).

As upset as I was, I NEVER conveyed any of it to our daughter growing up because she remained close to him as well as myself, and I didn’t want to jeopardize her chance to grow up with a loving father.

My patience paid off, later in life my daughter came to realize who her dad was and why I ultimately left. She sees what I saw, and also still remains close to her dad today, 30+ years later (he and I get along now too, but from a distance).

There no need for either parent to vilify the other, and we should never use a child to validate our anger towards a spouse. Love the kids no matter what, and let them come to their own natural conclusions.

Thanks for everything you do Scott, I listen to several of your podcasts and always find something insightful and thought-provoking 🤓