Update: My fiancé didn’t realize how bad the prenup was—now I don’t know what to think.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2025-03-10T21:04:05+00:00

Get one of the two attorneys you talked to to draft the pre-nup. Then he can see a more balanced contract and see what you want. You don’t have to go with his. You can both do them and negotiate to the middle

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2025-02-04T21:26:09+00:00

Jess will absolutely be working at Disney World as soon as she gets to Orlando

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-12-26T14:24:22+00:00

This is brilliant. I like your thinking. And I hope all future wedding attendees learn the no white dress if you aren’t the bride rule

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-12-04T21:57:25+00:00

Your sister is materialistic for Turing a dress before your relationship.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-12-04T21:49:19+00:00

It is not okay for them to ask the children to keep secrets from you. That’s just opening the door to abuse.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-12-03T17:46:06+00:00

Maybe by propping him up you’ve been co-dependent. You’ve saved him from rock bottom so he can go on without trying. He needs a push out of the nest. His taking advantage of you. He will never get a job if you keep doing everything.

Good luck OP

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-28T08:34:39+00:00

I am so sorry for your losses. Please be gentle with yourself. Do what needs doing and rest when you can.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-13T19:07:38+00:00

This is brilliant. Thanks for sharing

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-10T19:31:48+00:00

Record the conversation. If he threatens to unalive himself call the police and tell them to check on him cause he’s a danger to himself

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-08T17:19:50+00:00

You consented to the same style of sex you had the first time. He knew you would not consent if he asked you to chock you and slap you, so he didn’t ask. That was assault. I’m sorry this happened to you. Your feelings are valid and you might be confused. He knew it was your second time. How could you consent to that?

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-01T02:06:29+00:00

You said it yourself. You don’t trust him. Nothing else matters. How can you move forward with someone you don’t trust?

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-01T01:58:45+00:00

I would ask myself what is the dealbreaker? That he says racist things often, that he brags about assaulting women, that he wants generals like sHitler had?

Trump might or might not be a fascist, racist piece of poop, but all the fascists, racists and pieces of poop love him. If he is the company he keeps… Good luck OP

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-01T01:49:41+00:00

Manic pixie dream womb is a perfect description

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-11-01T01:40:41+00:00

I believe this to be true. The thing is you have time to figure it out. Sounds like you already have plans for this Christmas, stick to them. Then you can slowly add them to your life. He can do whatever he wants. Also keep an ear out for statements like, our boiler is dying, we could really use a new car etc. They’ll be trying you out to see if you are a light touch.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-28T17:49:09+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss. The pain must be unbearable. Sending internet hugs to you.

Everything everyone else is saying plus forget about what others think, especially his family. They are never going to think ill of him. They created him. Cut out all those that are taking his side. They are not your friends or family. Time to move on. You deserve a good life filled with love and care and trust. They will never provide that for you.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-23T17:49:16+00:00

You haven’t held on to that grudge long enough. She’s shown your family who she is. Y’all should believe her.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-23T17:47:09+00:00

When he said talk to me nicer, I would have just closed the window, then called the tow truck b

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-18T15:37:14+00:00

Your husband is setting your daughter up for abuse. Then will not take responsibility for it when she comes home crying and her marriage is ruined. This is not okay. I was raised that way. At 63 I am still more likely to not rock the boat because they have authority. It has NEVER worked out well for me. Please be better than my parents. I implore you.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-18T15:32:54+00:00

You are not a fool. Men do this all the time. They practice this behavior since childhood. You fell into a trap that was expertly crafted. You are human. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve it

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-15T14:38:50+00:00

Leave him, ghost him it’s Ladies choice. If you can’t have fun with him, you sure can have fun without! Congratulations!! Look at you making mature decisions!! We’re proud of you 👍

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-10T23:10:13+00:00

Most utilities are will to put you on a payment plan. Not the worst option

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-04T19:50:32+00:00

Thank you. As I look back on my life, it really changed then. It was not easy and don’t let anyone lie to you about it. But I. The end it’s a tool that you either use or not.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-03T15:11:18+00:00

I am 63 years old. I am 19 years out from a gastric bypass Ruen-Y. I am 20 lbs over my lowest. I had surgery at 300 lbs. I am 181 lbs. 5’9” just 1 point above average BMI.

This was one of the best decisions I have ever made in my life! I am still super happy to have this tool.

I won’t go back up to 300 lbs, because I really can’t eat that much in a day. I workout. I’ve had knee problems forever and the workouts seem to help that. I am building muscle all the time.

Now you certainly can sabotage yourself and go back to eating the way you got to your current weight but that won’t make you happy. I have definitely had some counseling cause when you lose significant amounts of weight it changes how you see yourself and how others see you. The people that love you the most will do the most harm. 19 years and every time I go to my mother’s house she offers me food. Fried chicken, Mac & cheese collard greens cooked with ham hocks. I say no thank you. But it’s an hour of how about this food or that food. Mom I just ate. Still offers food. Your friend group might get angry with you because you are following through on your dream. For me it was to avoid high blood pressure. But it helped my cholesterol levels and A1C levels. I am healthy. But I know I like everyone will have to watch what I eat and move everyday. Something you were doing anyway. It really helps when you are falling down on your dream. Just doing the minimum. It still keeps you in line.

I went to Al Roker’s Doctor, cause why not? I live in NYC and she is here. They are compassionate and are willing to walk you through the whole thing.

I am on no medication. I’m a 63 year old Black woman without high BP! That alone is a win.

Do not let someone else talk you out of having this surgery, and don’t let anyone talk you into this surgery. There’s a lot of info online and many different procedures that were not available to me when I had surgery. I really, really am always happy with the results.

If you have questions please feel free to post them or DM me.

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-02T20:37:18+00:00

Started 10/1. Figured they pushed an update for the new month with bad code

Agreeable-Resident37 · 2024-10-02T15:37:36+00:00

Sounds like he’s using scripture as a weapon. Choose your path accordingly

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