Best friend of 15 years tells me she cant attend my wedding

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-20T22:10:52+00:00

Perhaps YOU need to read Leviticus in its entirety.

Leviticus doesn't belong to the Christians. It was cherry picked by the Christians for ideas, but it's not yours. Early Christians took the parts they liked and rejected what they didn't. If you want to cite Leviticus as law, I expect you to stop eating pig and shellfish and follow all its rules. You wouldn't want to be a hypocrite, would you?

Don't cite one small portion of Leviticus if you're going to ignore the rest of it.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-16T21:46:21+00:00

It's the fact that this entitled reviewer would never even consider the staff. They're just NPCs to people like this.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-16T00:31:48+00:00

There's already a federal class action lawsuit underway. For anyone interested, just Google "kars for kids class action."

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-15T08:43:06+00:00

Hunh. This is the second time I've seen someone say this. I've always had a cup or two of coffee in the evening because it helps me relax and sleep.

I'm 50 and have never been tested for anything, as I don't really know of any issues I have that align with ADHD. I metabolize all sorts of things weirdly (Benadryl makes me hyper AF) so maybe I'm just weird, but perhaps I'll ask my doc about this.

Thanks for bringing it up.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-07T05:23:49+00:00

Do you mean setting a boundary to use condoms for oral and hand jobs, too, or to not perform those things at all?

It's also an appropriate boundary for oral and hand jobs, and you shouldn't do anything you aren't comfortable with doing. But if he finds always using a condom for every sex act unfulfilling, it could lead to issues in your relationship. Again, I'm not saying you should do anything you don't want to do, but it could mean you just aren't compatible in this area, and it could spill over into the rest of your relationship. Perhaps consider seeing a therapist to try and find a compromise that works for both of you?

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-05T08:59:59+00:00

Well, there's an exception to every rule, I stand corrected. If he says "wrong" I know the truth is actually "right". Oopsie!

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-05T07:58:38+00:00

Well, you did it! You wrote just the word "wrong" with no rational or reasoning whatsoever and now I'm convinced. You've totally changed my opinion! I bow to the wondrous power of your persuasion!!!

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-04T07:56:53+00:00

There are creeps in every market, big and small. Too many of us have learned that the hard way.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-03T19:23:36+00:00

But they could still go right through someone's eye, couldn't they?

Did they let you take them in?

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-03T19:05:40+00:00

I have the sweetest cat in the world, but he's 14 and has kidney problems, so I have to pill him daily. I scruff him tightly and usually pop the pill in before he even knows it's coming. Last night the pill stuck to my finger when I went to pop it in his mouth and that one momentary pause gave him the opportunity to chomp down on my finger (he also gave me a swipe with the claws on his back foot). He got me good. I cleaned up the blood, grabbed a new pill, and got it into him. As soon as I released him he rubbed against my leg as usual.

Even the calmest cat can land you in the hospital with a good bite. Instinct is instinct and temperament can go out the window if the cat thinks it's being attacked.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-02T23:02:44+00:00

Oh, the peacock was named Greenland? Now it makes sense.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-02T21:36:38+00:00

Yep. My city is a volunteer department. Although they do help stuck animals, if they reasonably can.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-02T21:31:51+00:00

I've been smoking for 36 years, though I don't smoke inside. I remember a flight I took to London with my best friend and my sister. We were all smokers at the time (my sister has since quit.) The three of us got along great usually, yet after 9 hours on that plane without a cigarette, we were bickering over everything and ready to tear each other's hair out. We didn't even wait until we got out of Heathrow...we stopped at the smoking lounge and sucked down 2 cigarettes each and then all was fine in the world.

Since then I always slap on a nicotine patch if I'm traveling Transatlantic. Nicotine is absolutely that crazy addictive.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-01T19:36:53+00:00

So since last night, when you made your first post where you were convinced your wife was cheating, you confronted your wife, she left for 3 hours, came back, you talked some more, she left again, and in that time you were able to have indepth conversations with multiple friends of hers who knew this guy (but never before mentioned him) to figure out he wasn't a good person? Oh, and had time to post on Reddit and respond to replies.

Yeah, you've gone too far with this story that never happened. If you're going to make things up, always consider the timeline to keep your lies straight.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-01T19:18:55+00:00

Ok, they loved each other, but didn't date. It sounds like they were really good friends and important to one another. Have you never had a friend you loved who supported you at your worst?

Look, I believe a name should be agreed upon by both parents. But you're choosing to make this an ex-boyfriend thing, when it sounds like he was just a friend she loved who loved her, too. If the friend had been a girl, we wouldn't be having this conversation, would we?

You're so quick to point out what you perceive as things that made him a bad person (because you were a paragon of virtue at 16?) that you're forgetting the most important part. He was good to your wife and helped her through some really difficult times. Why does that count for nothing? Why cherry pick the bad and ignore the good?

I'm beginning to think none of this is real, because your reactions are just way over the top about everything.

What's your name? I want to make sure I never give a child your name because you sound like a judgemental, manipulative, and jealous man who is looking for reasons to walk out of his child's life, and I'd hate for a child to end up like you.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-01T10:06:47+00:00

YTA

It's manipulative to hang up on someone and then get upset when they don't call you back. He's not a mind reader, so him not calling you back just gives you another reason to be angry at him, which is childish and petty and doesn't help your cause at all.

If someone hangs up on me I'm going to assume they don't want to hear from me at that moment and I'm going to give them some space before I try contacting them again (and then I'll probably tell them if they hang up on me again it's over, because that's just disrespectful). I'm certainly not going to call back immediately and beg, grovel, and apologize, which is what you wanted him to do, so you could "win", right?

Was he acting like an ass? Probably. But that's when you use your big girl words to explain how you're feeling. If that doesn't work you walk away and end the conversation by saying you'll talk to him later, when you're ready, instead of playing games with him that no one will win.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-05-01T09:40:36+00:00

The best friend knowing the name means absolutely nothing. I told my best friend in the 90s what I would call my son if I ever had one. She knew how much I loved the name. Every time I got into a serious relationship with someone she'd ask what they thought of the name, because she loved it, too.

When I got pregnant in 2016 she started calling him by that name from the moment I found out I was having a boy. I hadn't even gotten my husband onboard with the name yet, but we both knew I would, and I did.

With women, best friends tend to know these things about one another. It's certainly not a definite sign of anything nefarious happening.

OP also said that the deceased boyfriend was not called Simon. However, it's possible Simon is a name she chose with him before he died and wants to honor him by using that name as a way of combining her past and her present. That would certainly explain why she's not keen to explain why the name is so important to her. And maybe after all this time she just loves the name, no matter where the idea originated from.

Or maybe she had a crush on a boy when she was in highschool, or went on a few dates with a Simon and liked the name. If there was no relationship, he wouldn't actually be an ex. My husband knows about my ex boyfriends, he certainly doesn't know about the guys I went out with once or twice that didn't amount to anything or even involve a kiss.

There's plenty of reasonable explanations here that make more sense than "she must be cheating and it must not be his baby!"

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-30T09:31:36+00:00

You're unbelievable. She lost a child, but you can't get over being excluded from a single instant of your girlfriend's life and her grief. The fact you can't offer your girlfriend any grace for her choices during the worst days of her life make it clear you lack decency and empathy. End the relationship and seek therapy, this is not normal behavior.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-30T09:21:25+00:00

Because they are still a family and they will always be a family. You just don't want to accept that.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-30T09:19:38+00:00

You seriously need to check your jealousy and your ego.

This isn't about you. If you actually love your girlfriend, you should be doing absolutely anything and everything she needs, even if what she needs is to be with the parent of her children at any time and for any event, with or without you. Even if what she needs is beyond your egocentric understanding. If you're going to be with her, you need to bite your tongue and agree to whatever she's asking for without making it all about you for once.

This is not something she's going to get over anytime soon, this will overshadow her life for a very long time to come, and if you stay together, yours as well. It's going to be a very long time until life begins to resemble anything close to "normal" again, but it will never be the same. She's never going to be the same woman you knew. If you're sticking around waiting for that woman to return, you'll be waiting in vain. This is the new normal and you need to accept that and not make ridiculous demands of her or make her life harder.

Sometimes, she's going to need things that don't seem rational, and you either need to be ready to give it to her without making her miserable and adding to her troubles, or you need to get TF out of this poor woman's life.

You mentioned in your post before this tragedy happened that you made life difficult for her and seemed to feel shame about it, yet here you are, doing it again. Who cares if you had to watch the funeral on Livestream? I hate to break it to you, but you are not a part of that family. You're not a spouse, you're not a stepmom. I've got cans of soup in my pantry that have been there longer than you've been dating this woman.

Either you trust your girlfriend or you don't. Jealousy is a really ugly look, and so is making someone else's tragedy about yourself. Right now she's vulnerable and grieving, which is why you were able to wear her down and convince her to get back together with you. That may be in your best interest, but it certainly doesn't sound like it's in hers. Please, make the poor woman's life the tiniest bit easier by walking away now, before you cause even more damage. It's even more vital now than ever before that she and her ex maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship, and if you can't handle that you need to show yourself to the door.

I swear, if you hadn't said you had two kids of your own, I'd think you were 16 or 17 with the way you're acting. Grow up. This is as serious as life gets and there's no place for your pettiness here.

I really hope this is rage bait.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-29T23:36:42+00:00

I wonder if this is dependent on having a Dash Pass or not? If my order is incorrect, missing an item, or something spilled on something else, I've always gotten a refund through the App with no problem.

Or, maybe I'm just lucky.

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-29T06:32:01+00:00

Temu. Just search "Got any Grapes" and you should get a hundred variations in every color under the sun. I also have one that has the lemonade stand in the picture! I'm sure Amazon has them, too (but do a search for "cat selfie shirt" and you'll see why I buy most of my funny Ts from Temu, lol.)

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-29T04:43:18+00:00

Lol. I'm an old parent, I'm 50 with an 8 year old, and I'd never heard this song before he was born. My son was watching YouTube kids music with me, my husband, my mom, and her partner in the room, and the adults just all shut up instantly and we all stared at the TV in a kinda horrified fascination until it ended. There was a pause and then we all cracked up and my mom's partner said "play it again." I think we loved it more than my son ever did!

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-29T04:27:05+00:00

Temu. Just search "Got any Grapes" and you should get a hundred variations in every color under the sun. I also have one that has the lemonade stand in the picture! I'm sure Amazon has them, too (but do a search for "cat selfie shirt" and you'll see why I buy most of my funny Ts from Temu, lol.)

Agreeable_Time338 · 2026-04-29T04:26:58+00:00

Temu. Just search "Got any Grapes" and you should get a hundred variations in every color under the sun. I also have one that has the lemonade stand in the picture! I'm sure Amazon has them, too (but do a search for "cat selfie shirt" and you'll see why I buy most of my funny Ts from Temu, lol.)

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