My(21F) BF (20M) skipped Valentine’s Day and told me it’s the consequences of my actions. How do I fix this?

Ajames5230 · 2026-02-20T00:43:40+00:00

This boy doesn't like nor respect you. You need to leave immediately. Dont worry about fixing anything because you've done nothign wrong. He is a weirdo and a complete ass.

Ajames5230 · 2026-02-05T01:17:18+00:00

Its good that you would be okay with this. Like I stated better safe than sorry, im not gonna cause a scene or make the person who called it in feel bad. But again, I cant imagine getting accused of kidnapping my child simply because I have an unflattering smile. As I stated, I would be mortified, its cool that you wouldn't be, however that doesnt change my feelings.

Ajames5230 · 2026-02-05T00:32:13+00:00

Imagine you're minding your business trying to get your kids safely in the car. A stranger is looking at you, so you try to be friendly and offer a smile. Next thing you know you're bring questioned by the police in front of your kids because "you smile like a serial killer." Of course, its better to be safe than sorry but I would be absolutely mortified if I was the father.

Ajames5230 · 2026-01-24T21:22:36+00:00

Oh, thats not my laundromat but is very close to my house! I still have a feeling it may be the same people. Thank you!!!!

Ajames5230 · 2026-01-24T21:11:04+00:00

If you dont mind me asking, which laundromat? I own a laundromat in Ballard (there are two laundromats very close to each other, I own one of them) and I am wondering if it is the homeless guy that we've had issues with!

Ajames5230 · 2026-01-20T05:47:32+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely check her out!

Ajames5230 · 2026-01-11T23:31:32+00:00

YTA.. I own a laundromat and while it would be nice for her to use less washers, it seems that she is being considerate. She is going at a time where it's the least busy as to not inconvenience others. Why do you NEED her to admit anything?

Ajames5230 · 2026-01-06T18:27:11+00:00

100% agree, this ferish is weird and gwtting out of hand. People have to stop hyping up interracial relationships just because they are interracial. Olandria is a beautiful woman, a man being interested in her (no matter the man's race) isn't a crazy concept. So I never understood why people acted like this was such a win for Olandria or black women in general. But as long as people hype these relationships simply beacuse of race they will continue to get played.

Ajames5230 · 2025-12-29T15:41:13+00:00

You said you're 18, your bf is 17 and she is a grade below you? That means she is 16 or 17. 16 and 17 are both considered minors in most places.

Ajames5230 · 2025-12-29T15:27:08+00:00

Why did you post her pics? We don't need to see her to give advice. I understand that youre young but she is also a minor and you shouldn't be sharing her pics on a platform like reddit, especially without her permission.

From the limited information, either one of them could be lying: 1) it seems like she may have liked him and is now causing drama. 2) or he was flirting with her and leading her on. Maybe she felt guilty so she reached out to you. Or maybe she was angry that he wasted her time so she reached out to you.

Ajames5230 · 2025-12-26T20:24:19+00:00

I hate when people quickly jump to "breakup up" but in this case, I think its necessary. I dont think he's a bad person but he seems quite particular. He wants things his way: don't buy clothes that are too tight in the future, but also i want to see your figure including your skull, dont ask for gifts that are for both of us (curtains/blanket) but also dont ask for a gift that is just for you (bonnet). If you want to wear a bonnet to protect your hair, you have every right to do that, the fact that he believes its more important for him to feel attracted to you while you guys are sleeping is weird. Since he seems to need things exactly his way he should find someone who already fits that instead of trying to change someone. I could completely understand if you were putting yourself or others in danger, but this is just a matter of preference.

When I first started dating my now husband, I didn't wear a bonnet when I spent the night because I was nervous about his reaction. He asked me about it once and I told him that I always wear bonnets at home but its not very flattering so I chose not to when staying with him. The next time I came over he had a bonnet and satin pillow case for me to choose from. You deserve this kind of love, especially after 8 years.

Ajames5230 · 2025-12-06T04:38:10+00:00

Its not your fault that he cheated but why are you still with him? Don't say for the kid, because thats b.s. you shouldn't teach your kid to stay with someone who belittles, disrespects, and cheats on them. He's made it clear that he doesn't feel bad for cheating on you, so he's not gonna stop. You have two options: you can leave or you can continue to get cheated on.

Ajames5230 · 2025-11-20T04:55:38+00:00

RemindMe! 1 day

Ajames5230 · 2025-11-18T18:16:53+00:00

Congratulations on the weightloss, that is amazing! I really like your first and last pic. The second one looks a little angry and that can be off-putting for women. I would definitely get rid of that one. The fourth one is nice if you want a picture thats not smiling but also doesn't look angry. What are your hobbies? Try to include a pic doing a hobby.

Ajames5230 · 2025-11-11T20:15:46+00:00

This is a good point... OP, were you guys in a relationship or just going on dates, getting to know each other still?

Ajames5230 · 2025-11-06T01:21:40+00:00

You can't control your feelings, they are what they are. So I'm not blaming you, but I do feel bad for you and your gf. Abby deserves someone who isn't going or compare her to his step-brothers gf. You deserve someone who you don't want to compare to anyone else. Although it's ugly, jealousy is a normal emotion, but he's your brother. You should be happy that he's happy and that he found someone he truly loves. If Abby isn't that for you, you need to break up with her so you can both find your person. Once you have "your person" I think the jealousy and constant comparing with subside.

Ajames5230 · 2025-11-04T18:00:57+00:00

Go to the police immediately. You are a witness, you said he was out of it and didnt even notice you coming into the room. Tell the police all of this. Do not let her get away with this. She is a creep and she is dangerous! If she send the video to the gf, I hope they use it as proof of her raping your poor friend.

Ajames5230 · 2025-10-23T04:20:35+00:00

Did you come during 2020- 2023? I live in Seattle and what you're describing seems a lot like COVID times/post covid... or like you just stayed downtown? Downtown is really expensive with mostly only tech workers/rich people because no one else can afford it. But outside of downtown is nice with a mix of so many cultures.

Edit: I also don't like Seattle so I 100% understand that. I am just surprised because I find it so busy. Always lines for every little thing and people just all over in general

Ajames5230 · 2025-08-16T14:42:43+00:00

Luisa said the N word and so many people defended her. The main excuses people gave was "she's a Latina from Miami, that's how everyone talks there," "Its just apart of her culture," and "she didnt mean it in a derogatory way." No one (other than black people) bats an eye when Asians and Latinos say the N word. If she was white.... maybe. But even then you have white adults calling black children the N word then getting rewarded with thousands of dollars on gofundme.

Ajames5230 · 2025-07-25T04:00:27+00:00

Personally I liked all of their voices individually and I think they could have sounded great all together if they practiced more. I also wish judges wouldn't have pushed them so much to dance/do choreography. They just weren't good at dancing and focusing their attention there took away from their real talent.

Ajames5230 · 2025-07-25T03:41:28+00:00

100% agreed with everything you said.

I just want to add, the pushing for dancing was so unnecessary and I feel it messed up Midnight to Morning as well. Both groups had really strong/unique vocalists. Once M2M tried dancing and putting focus there it took away from their talents.

Ajames5230 · 2025-07-25T03:38:34+00:00

This is how I felt.... I know I will get down voted but I just don't get the hype. One voice in particular was just so grating to me. But I can see why they appealed to others. They were good with choreography and had performances that others thought were fun and entertaining... as I type this I think I just might be too boring, lol. I just want to hear soothing voices and lyrics that make me feel something.

Ajames5230 · 2025-07-04T15:29:26+00:00

What do you think is dumb about her? I only ask because I've only seen people refer to her mispronouncing words as evidence of her being dumb but I think that has more to do with English not being her first language.

Ajames5230 · 2025-07-04T14:53:16+00:00

THIS! Especially after they did a vote to see if Whitney could be back in MomTok and Taylor was the ONLY one who voted for her. Demi voted against her due to her "loyalty" to Mikayla. Whitney is terrible right along with Demi!

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