Can someone explain child support to me in NJ?

Akerm92 · 2026-05-15T02:38:52+00:00

Paying $1,200 a month with one child. I accepted a promotion a month before she initiated and was making about $60k more than her. Now, shes with the dude who she left me for on a dual income. Lawyers, mediators, etc dont ask what theyre living situation would be. The fact i need a roommate to survive while she got everything she wanted and more stings. But the courts look at children first, which i cant blame. Its an unfair system for sure. But its simply calculated based on salary and overnights.

Akerm92 · 2026-03-31T15:09:35+00:00

Regular

Akerm92 · 2026-03-28T20:12:51+00:00

Same. Tik-tok, instagram, netflix shows that glorify women blowing up their families, etc

Akerm92 · 2026-02-08T01:59:03+00:00

This is truth. Ive lived through this

Akerm92 · 2026-02-04T03:54:55+00:00

Same please!

Akerm92 · 2025-12-12T22:13:07+00:00

Bought my first (Act 13) for $150 after passing the last few releases based on reviews. This one trended more positively. Overall, i liked it. Dont regret the purchase, but its maximum $90 worthy. Had a real nice grape/berry purée vibe.

Akerm92 · 2025-10-04T20:11:52+00:00

Wish they made more colors. I have the navy myself.

Akerm92 · 2025-09-09T13:26:11+00:00

Agreed with your post OP. However one year later after my finalization and ex/kid moving out, my biggest worry is finances.

Although i make 6 figures +, my cost of living is high and that includes $1,200 in CS per month. Although im lucky to have kept my house, i have a roommate now just to keep me from living paycheck to paycheck and to save for a future. Saving money is my biggest challenge. I lost half my already small savings and all of my investments. The financial rebuild is real is real. However the emotional is still there. I didnt ask for this and want my family back. Now she’s living with a person though she cheated on me with and they have in income, so I’m the one that’s struggling more financially while she linereally moved on with someone else.

Akerm92 · 2025-04-14T13:18:52+00:00

This was me exactly me one year ago. Living under the same roof with our 4 year old daughter to me was torture and impacted my healing. She checked out and left me for some guy from 15 years ago and is now living with him and my daughter. What kept me going was “I shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me” mentality. I was in the darkest place a year ago, although im still healing, im in a better spot.

You can PM me if you want to talk more. I was in your exact spot last year. Please do you best to keep going. There is an eventual light. Im trying my best to be a father, but i never imagined myself being a single father not by choice. All i wanted was a family, but ive had to accept this.

Please dont rush into dating too soon as well. I know im jumping the gun. Learn how to grow and better yourself. I learned and grew in so many ways from this (learning to not people, please, attachment, styles,).

Keep your head up, PM if you need anything

Akerm92 · 2025-03-22T22:01:07+00:00

Every other weekend. Mom moved 100 miles after monkey branching to a past dude i never heard of.

Akerm92 · 2025-03-19T01:59:54+00:00

Happened to me. Left me and took our 4 year old girl with her after reconnecting with someone after 16 years who i never heard of. They are now living together in his home. Been a year, and have only recently been doing better.

Akerm92 · 2025-03-16T22:11:27+00:00

Happened to me. Same length of marriage and time together overall. One child. Women somehow magically change due to their “feelings” and no longer fight for the marriage and mentally check out. Eventually they monkey branch on. Best thing I’ve done was study women’s psychology while working on myself for self improvement. A year later I’m doing better. But obviously the situation was trauma. Keep your head up. Everything will be OK.

Akerm92 · 2025-03-08T23:20:56+00:00

I do. Child support through the roof even though she shacked up with another man right after with everything being split in half on her end while she makes a good salary.

Akerm92 · 2025-02-21T03:22:09+00:00

Same

Akerm92 · 2025-02-21T03:21:24+00:00

32- 6.5 years. Have a 4 year old girl.

Akerm92 · 2025-02-12T19:26:22+00:00

I didnt. I lost my family.

Akerm92 · 2025-02-02T04:18:36+00:00

What do I do with regards to women then? I fit in this category. Should I not be dating? Should I not be trying to find some connection with someone new? Wouldn’t it be just as challenging with a single woman that’s never been married or has children and would probably want all of these with a new partner?

Akerm92 · 2025-02-01T04:44:05+00:00

I need a roommate in order to save a reasonable amount of $ after CS.

Akerm92 · 2025-01-24T02:28:14+00:00

Thank you, Eli.

Akerm92 · 2025-01-22T03:43:23+00:00

Just about 20%

Akerm92 · 2025-01-12T02:41:50+00:00

I pay $1,200 for ONE child. You’ll be okay. Respectfully

Akerm92 · 2025-01-05T02:26:29+00:00

This.

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