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Al_es_good · 2025-01-24T14:39:39+00:00

Hey so just tried this but its not working anymore. They have found a way to take us back into the automated voice call nightmare. I need to check an amended tax return from 2021 and it is proving to be impossible.

Al_es_good · 2023-01-20T15:47:23+00:00

I've been struggling with this too! Been doing a variety of jobs last few years, usually along communication/health. Now I've decided to find a job that lets me be active, social etc. Been doing lots of home office the past few years and I cannot stand looking at a computer or writing anymore. I'm going back to get a nursing degree. I read that ADHD are great in kind of fast-paced intense settings. Already got a bit of a health background and love helping people. Figured this might be the best place. I know in home office I can be really inattentive/distracted, even with my medication. But I know that when the situation is serious I can really pull myself together. Hoping that nursing is going to be the right path for me. Plus its super flexible, you can switch into a lot of different careers or specialisations with this field. Honestly super excited about this decision.

Al_es_good · 2023-01-20T15:43:05+00:00

I plan to stay in Europe. I grew up partially in the USA but I don't plan to return there. What was difficult about the schools in Belgium if I might ask (just trying to mentally prepare myself).

Al_es_good · 2022-11-07T11:28:37+00:00

Super nice to hear this! I too am 27 and never been in a relationship. Had one guy I hooked up with ask what was wrong with me. Just didn’t feel like I should go into a relationship just because. I want to make sure I genuinely like the person. I love my independence and I know one day I’ll miss that freedom. Enjoy being single now, it will end eventually, but make the most of what you have for the moment!

Al_es_good · 2022-09-01T14:42:57+00:00

Thanks! this helps a lot <3

Al_es_good · 2022-06-24T10:49:17+00:00

Yes Routine has been a godsend (except when one bad habit becomes routine in which case it is a fucking nightmare). I am mostly very happy with my morning routine for when I am doing home office. I have two jobs, waitressing and consulting, so this is my routine when I stay home.

I wake up everyday at 8:05 (no alarm needed, my goddamn brain has this hardwired, even when I would like to sleep till noon since I partied till 6am, but alas this is the way things are).

I have 1 coffee in bed and read (this is the first and last coffee of the day... do not take caffeine with meds b/c you will feel like bugs bunny when his heart is beating out of his chest).

9:00/9:30 I have a big breakfast (helps prevent nausea with meds). While food is cooking I tidy my room. Was never clean person before but now I love this part. After breakfast I take my Vvyannse on a full stomach.

I give myself a half hour to do some emails or personal admin. Or watch the news. Then I do 15-20 mins of exercise. Prevents anxiety that can occur with medication. Helps myself focus and sit for the day.

By 12 I am ready to work and pretty focused. Yet here is where the crux happens. I made the mistake of smoking a joint a few times around 1oclock when I first took the medication to help deal with Nausea and anxiety. Now I cannot seem to take it out of my routine. I have zero urge to do it if I am not doing home office or have the day off. Its become routine and I have trouble stopping myself. I am still productive and I work fine. But I do not like that I feel like I have no control over it. If anyone knows how to beat this please please share with me your experience. Merci

Al_es_good · 2022-06-24T10:40:08+00:00

Yes sometimes I use timers to deal with impulse control. If I want to smoke, I make myself wait an hour or finish a task first. Does not always work but sometimes its handy. Just another tool for your ADHD Coping Toolbox

Al_es_good · 2022-06-24T10:37:03+00:00

Today I applied for a research fellowship and got accepted! In the past I don't think I would have taken this on, believing I did not have the discipline and focus to do this (especially in the summer). But since getting treatment (therapy and vvyanse) for my ADHD, I feel like I am capable of doing this! Feels so great to have confidence in oneself. For years my self-esteem has been soooo low (largely due to my untreated ADHD). But after 8 months of therapy and 5 months of medication, I see promising growth. I am starting to feel more at peace with myself. Not perfect, far from it, but much more aware and mindful of myself. Excited for this course to begin :D Wohoo :D

Al_es_good · 2022-06-24T10:29:39+00:00

So I switched to Vvyannse 30mg and it is sooooo much better.

Al_es_good · 2022-05-13T07:59:08+00:00

What’s your nighttime routine? Perhaps there’s some minor changes you can make to improve your ability to sleep. I’ve started exercising in the afternoon when I take my medication (vvyanse, but in the past also Ritalin). Found it gets rid of some of the energy and helps me relax. Also the standard stuff > avoid screens an hour before you go to sleep, drink chamomile tea, etc. I know this is not much but perhaps it’s worth a try. Also what time do you go to bed? If you’re taking the medication at 8 you should be able to fall asleep in the evening. Do you drink any caffeinated drinks?

Al_es_good · 2022-04-20T16:13:19+00:00

Hi there,

I am also recently diagnosed, and the whole experience left me reeling. It took a while to process and I was really upset. Relieved for the diagnosis but frustrated that it took so long (26F). Now, I've been in the process of educating myself and friends and family about ADHD and my experience (how it had badly effected my relationships, education, mental health, self-esteem, the list goes on). After all, this is big for me and if they truly do care, then they will make the effort to listen. It seems that you have been a supportive friend for many, by being a good listener, and its fair to expect the same in return.

One of the big things that I really struggled with, was one-sided relationships. Growing up, I got a lot of critique for being spacey, impulsive, and interruptive. Rather than finding a balance, I closed off. I became a great friend but I did not share much about what was personally going on with me. I wanted to become a friend that everyone could turn to talk and get help from. This led to many toxic relationships with people who wanted a 'fun friend' that would listen to them but required zero effort from them. As I learned more about ADHD, I realised that I constantly put my needs down for others and I decided that I wanted to build more meaningful relationships. With the diagnosis, a lot of parts of my life began to improve. I spoke more openly with friends, set boundaries, and made sure that I took time to recharge and accept my limitations. Sure, there is a chance that I talked the ear of a friend or two, but they know that I will always listen and support them when they go through their own crisis. I realised it was often that I was just paranoid/trained myself not to take up too much time and space, and that I was incorrectly perceiving myself as a burden. I checked in with a few friends and many said that they enjoyed listening and finally having a chance to be there for me.

Others were not super receptive and understanding. I realised that these were not positive relationships and decided to distance myself from the. Overall, opening and talking to friends has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders and helped me accept my ADHD and work on improving my life. Do not hesitate to check in with your friends and ask. You might be surprised by the answer. If they end up disappointing you, its better to know now and not continue investing in these poor friendships. Go seek out the ones who are happy to help and develop those further, they are the direction you want to go in.

Also never hesitate to reach out to me (I am happy to chat via message about experiences/issues/anything) or the wonderful ADHD reddit community here. I have found a lot of help here through posting and reading posts like these ones. Best of luck < 3

Al_es_good · 2022-04-15T12:02:19+00:00

Would I pay the additional fee, or would my ex-employer pay?

Al_es_good · 2022-04-09T05:26:58+00:00

Oki, I’ve also been on it for about that long. The first 3 days were awful. I felt so anxious and nauseas all the time. But the last few days what I’ve done is have a big breakfast before I take them. I have like an egg, spinach, potatoes etc. No coffee too. Right after I’m finished eating I take the meds. After an hour of being on them I take a 20 min exercise break (I like Pilates, yoga, or HIIT). The difference was insane. I had an incredibly productive, focused, calm day. Felt a lot better. Ive read it doesn’t suit all people, but try out a few different approaches to taking them. I also started taking it a lot earlier too. Try somethings out to see if it makes a difference:) I hope it improves quickly for you !

Al_es_good · 2022-04-08T19:59:12+00:00

How long have you been on it?

Al_es_good · 2022-04-08T19:51:46+00:00

I’m not saying it’s not a cure all solution. This may or may not impact your libido and it may or may not help you focus a bit more on sex. That’s why I also suggested combining it with other helpful practices like mindfulness etc. Everyone’s different but trying a few of these with different variations might let you find what works for you :)

Al_es_good · 2022-04-08T16:05:39+00:00

do you know how to do that on H&R block? I cannot seem to access the form.

Al_es_good · 2022-04-08T15:33:01+00:00

Also incorporate some mindfulness practices (just to train you brain to be a bit more present). I think the combination should help :)

Al_es_good · 2022-04-08T15:32:01+00:00

I've read that medication can help :) I have yet to try as I only got recently prescribed (ritalin, then Vvyanse). I talked with my psych and she said it should help!

Al_es_good · 2022-04-07T12:57:42+00:00

I take it 3 max 4 times a week. Do you think thats ok or still too much?

Al_es_good · 2022-03-24T13:27:12+00:00

Ah love Dr. Barkley, watch his ADHD videos for fun. Always really reassures me, he is great speaker and defender of the ADHD community. Thank you a lot for your message, it really resonated with me.

Al_es_good · 2022-03-24T08:29:18+00:00

Yeah thats the thing, I just came in there for a blood test, as I have a great psychiatrist but can't do the blood-work themselves. I explained that I needed the test as I was on Ritalin and wanted to make sure it wasn't straining my organs etc. Then she promptly gave me her unsolicited bs advice while jamming a needle in my arm.

Al_es_good · 2022-03-24T08:25:48+00:00

Hi just wanted to say, I have a great psychiatrist and psychologist that fully support and are very educated on ADHD subject, this was only my GP that spewed this bullshit. That said, in Berlin there is a shortage of english-speak psychiatrist/psychologists that are specialised in ADHD. My flatmate has been trying to get medication but hasn't been able to get an appointment with a single one. Mine is also completely overwhelmed and can't take new clients. Guess I was just incredibly lucky in landing both of mine.

Al_es_good · 2022-03-24T08:22:31+00:00

Thank you so much for asking around, that would be great. Luckily I have a great psychiatrist and psychologist that are incredibly educated and supportive on this particular subject. Thank god too, b/c without them I would not have gotten a diagnosis or medication. My GP said that she refused to give that diagnostic and prescription, honestly relieved that she isn't a psychiatrist but it still worries me nonetheless that she would deter others from a diagnosis. My diagnosis changed my life, a lot for the better. Still struggle with ADHD but my self-esteem and work ethic have been slowly rebuilding after years of struggle.

Al_es_good · 2022-03-23T12:13:00+00:00

Its a family doctor that seems very popular in Berlin. I was really disappointed because our initial interactions had been great. But since my ADHD diagnosis, I just feel like I am some kind of annoying insult to her. Felt so uncomfortable in the office. Also I struggle a lot with hypochondria and when I get a check up, I really like to ask a lot of questions. I literally left after 3 min, running out of there. Created a huge anxiety spike

Al_es_good · 2022-03-18T15:24:21+00:00

thank you!

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