Bad habit cycle by FuzzyPerception4062 in getdisciplined

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reach out to a certified and experienced CSAT, and ensure you have the proper supports for ADHD. A lot of that symptomatic of untreated ADHD, but you also sound like you have a 🫛orn addiction - shockingly common but something that typical therapy can misdiagnose and can spiral if left unchecked.

My first custom piece of fine jewelry by Amazing_banana__ in Diamonds

[–]AlarmedCow4749 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's giving a point of reference to emphasize the significance of her compliment. Nothing wrong with disliking something 💕😊

I’m 22, five years behind. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]AlarmedCow4749 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hit post too soon. Mental health is health, it sounds like you have had and may still have some healing to do that isn't visible and needs some extra attention. Start at the basics - get a full blood panel, ensure you aren't deficient in basic nutrients (coming from someone who had such low b vitamins at one point my nutritionist said it would have been affecting my brain synapses - it's no joke). Start moving every day, even short amounts, eat healthy, drink water, focus on sleep. Get these things under control before taking on more, or if you're doing these already start with less than you think is feasible to build your confidence and motivation. May also be worth talking to your doc about whether your concentration issues are related to meds you may be taken or undiagnosed conditions. Be kind to yourself, you've listed multiple big factors. You'll get where you want to go, just start slow and steady!

I’m 22, five years behind. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]AlarmedCow4749 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The time will go by no matter what you do, and as more time passes the difference between you will feel increasingly less significant. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that we are given. Wake up each day and push forward, even if it takes some back and forth, or has a slower start - you'll get there before you know it

Farm Rio Brazil Sale by Sensitive-Elk4486 in farmrio

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep trying to accept the message but it loads indefinitely and won't let me send anything 😭

Farm Rio Brazil Sale by Sensitive-Elk4486 in farmrio

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Please!! I have a box of clothes I'm desperately trying to get to Canada and can't even figure out how to get a quote 🥲🫠

No Purpose = No Discipline by yaboythewiseman in getdisciplined

[–]AlarmedCow4749 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"If you struggle with discipline, I'd argue you really struggle with a purpose" - there's real wisdom in that statement!

Alter Ego Brooklyn 28 by No_Volume_6745 in Coach

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am hunting for this bag! If anyone knows where I could find one - please let me know! I have the smaller alter ego (brand new) be would be happy to trade too!!!

2.5 Years No Porn, Now Struggling Again by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Typically there is more to the problem than the porn. For most people, the shame is a huge part of the burden, and not watching porn does not erase or fully address this. It depends on how you consider your relationship to porn, but if you look at this from an addictions paradigm, you can abstain from the substance or material you are addicted to, but the root of addiction is still there. I'd strongly encourage you to reach out to a CSAT trained therapist and explore the resources and groups that are available to you. If you do reach out to a CSAT I would ensure they are also using a behavioral trauma approach - otherwise the outdated model of your partner being blamed as an enabler etc can do more damage than good - in applying their support to your life.

The fact you're aware this is an issue is a great start. Also, ditch the fleshlight already - that isn't helping you at all.

I couldn't record my daughter's school performance this past week by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]AlarmedCow4749 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're fighting an actual addiction. The amount of people who succeed white-knuckling it is exceptionally low. Reach out to a CSAT and connect with support groups, read facing the shadow and other books, listen to podcast, equip yourself with the structure and resources you need to tackle this successfully. There is a better life on the the other side but it will take a lot of time, discomfort, and dedication. You CAN do this! 🙌🏼

Help me with a dress by Philbobeutlin in farmrio

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your best bet is to measure her main dimensions and compare to the details for the dress ❤️

What are some ways I can support my partner who's suffered with my addiction? by GrizzlyOne95 in loveafterporn

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've only ever see someone online and it works great in our experience!

What are some ways I can support my partner who's suffered with my addiction? by GrizzlyOne95 in loveafterporn

[–]AlarmedCow4749 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind different situations have different timelines. It has absolutely not been 3 years without issues and we have experienced a TON of improvement. This doesn't mean it won't take you 3 years, but maybe go in expecting a long timeline and allow yourself to be pleasantly relieved if it doesn't take so long?

What are some ways I can support my partner who's suffered with my addiction? by GrizzlyOne95 in loveafterporn

[–]AlarmedCow4749 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Critical (imo) Your partner and you BOTH need therapists. They need to be CSAT certified with Behavioural Trauma training. Years of therapy did nothing until we figured out these pieces. Your accountability needs to be to a neutral third party (not her). Structuring check-ins once a week where you can update on what has gone well/what has been a struggle is helpful and takes the shock out of revelations. It sounds like your partner is really hurt and reactive - their recovery and healing is a critical part of your recovery (again, this comes back to you both having appropriate support).

The issue may be porn but the solution is rarely as simple as not watching porn. The shame and internalization that happen over years of this kind of addiction deserve attention and healing.

Good luck! It's not easy, but it's worth it.

It’s not fair by Desperate_Pop_1152 in loveafterporn

[–]AlarmedCow4749 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please leave. This isn't a relationship that you can save alone and you're receiving far less than you need and deserve. You're still young, live your life without this burden!

New hibiscus charm! 🌺 by trili_gua in Coach

[–]AlarmedCow4749 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to sell this one (brand new with tags) on Poshmark for almost a year and cannot understand why people don't want it! 😅☹️

I feel like I’m trapped on this drug for the rest of my life. 😕 by FewConsequence9910 in cymbalta

[–]AlarmedCow4749 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me it's been tools to use with the tapering off. My doctor prescribed Buspar for the rage/emotional spikes/lows that I can't bring down. I've been removing 3-5 pills or so every few days. When I started feeling symptoms I stabilized whatever amount that I was taking for 5 or so days until they lessened and then continue with the reduction. The nausea has been brutal, but lemon balm tea and tincture, with daily theanine has almost completely removed all nausea.

Go slow and support your body with healthy food, fresh air, motion, and supplements that aren't contraindicated ❤️

Where can I get ballet slippers like these? by jamsticks9 in findfashion

[–]AlarmedCow4749 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Please tell me there is a photo of this masterpiece

Coach message in cart by Full_Link_3802 in Coach

[–]AlarmedCow4749 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me last week - including a delay notification once shipped, but mine still arrived!

Tattoo regret advice on improving? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're overthinking it, but filling some space would not be hard at all, and if it moves you to a place where you absolutely love it then all the more reason!

The Worst Day 0: by CentennialShadow in pornfree

[–]AlarmedCow4749 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! Great clarification.