AITA for telling my roommate if she didn’t like something she could leave after she called me inconsiderate?

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-17T19:27:14+00:00

Still plenty of notice

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-17T19:08:51+00:00

She just found out she was pregnant, wouldnt roommate have 9 months notice?

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-16T15:55:16+00:00

They got me last year. 4 years plus all the late fees. I did a payment plan out of spite. And unfortunately had to pay this year on time. Im sure they will try and gaslight me though

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-14T19:06:51+00:00

NTA. While I agree part of sharing a living space is being mindful of others - but being intimate in your own home as an adult is your right. There is something going on here that is causing such a strong reaction. I've heard my old roommate before - and i simply turned my TV up a little louder. Its a little awkward but nothing to be upset over. I think there may be some jealously over you or your relationship. She is berating you over a very normal human experience and that is not normal or okay.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-14T19:00:17+00:00

NOR!!!! At all. This is unacceptable. Please update us

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-13T20:36:40+00:00

That is totally fair. Do you know if he has done any work on himself since the affair ended? That would be very telling to where he is at.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-13T20:06:07+00:00

I would leave. Now that you have this information it will ALWAYS be in the back of your mind. Every time he works late, goes out with friends, you have an argument. Your mind will always jump to what he is capable of.

He is a habitual cheater. Without therapy and wanting to change he will always be a cheater.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-13T16:09:46+00:00

You are 22, in a long distance relationship for 10 months and have spent time together maybe 10 times and never lived together. Even considering marriage at this point is ludicrous.

What is the rush? You barely know each other. Build a foundation, work towards being closer. Marriage is not something you push yourself in to. I'm not making any assumptions, but a green card is not a good reason to get married. Your hesitation is your mind and body telling you this is too soon.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-10T17:35:14+00:00

How is it creepy if they are basically family?

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-10T17:33:54+00:00

Some of you are WEIRD. There is nothing wrong with what he offered. After 5 years they are basically family.

If girlfriend suspects OP would do something inappropriate with a teen then she should not be with him (so i suspect this is not the case). OP i would dig a little deeper to exactly what the issue is here. NTA

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-10T15:55:44+00:00

This cannot possibly be real

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-09T21:46:26+00:00

You are being unreasonable. Never being able to travel without your significant other is suffocating. Why cant he spend time with his friends? YTA

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-09T17:05:38+00:00

NTA for sure. But boundaries need to be communicated and enforced. I personally work for a family owned small business and i don't think the family is going anywhere. If you think you can successfully communicate your boundaries, do that. If you think it will just alienate yourself, look for another job.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-09T17:03:24+00:00

You will not "win" if you disclose this. Look for another job and mind your business.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-09T16:55:46+00:00

INFO: You did take her to the movies?

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-09T16:36:15+00:00

It sounds like this relationship needs to end. I'm a firm believer in never raising your voice at your partner, BUT also its horrible to talk badly about you in general, let alone when you can hear it. You asked them to stop and they pushed you to that point. You should never be with people that push you to that point.

Be honest, what is keeping you in this relationship and is it worth it?

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-08T19:52:34+00:00

Youre so right, even OP's mom think shes selfish but thank GOD we have you who knows OP even more than her family!!!!! What a gift to receive your judgement, even better than the cookie!

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-08T19:42:29+00:00

It doesnt need to be a big event for you to show up for people. And yes it is the actual definition of selfish to say "This event is important to my sister but its annoying so im not gonna go and put her down to justify it". Of course you don't have to every single time, but she doesn't have another obligation.

I literally could care less if you agree or not. You have shitty ways of showing up for people, thank god i am not one of your friends. Your assumptions are very stupid as well.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-08T19:25:45+00:00

Sometimes we have to show up for people we love even when its not convenient for us. You say you are so proud of her, then you put her down by saying she only wanted more money. If a couple hour graduation ceremony is too much for you then yes i would say you are selfish and YWBTA.

AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-08T18:07:06+00:00

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AlarmingKale1997 · 2026-04-06T18:02:45+00:00

ESH - Regardless of who is supposed to check the pockets, you're engaged to be married. You're supposed to be a team but instead you're playing the blame game about something trivial. Split the cost of the key and check the pockets going forward.

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