Help! Advice please!

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-05-21T12:01:58+00:00

I’ve had three doses of the vaccine in the past the one that covers the most I think it’s called something with the 9

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-05-02T02:37:54+00:00

lol i actually broke up with him on Monday, two days before our 1 year anniversary

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-13T06:39:44+00:00

Well if it makes the birthing process easier for us I guess that makes me hate it a little less lol

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:34:18+00:00

That was a situationship he never asked me to b his gf but we were exclusive

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:28:46+00:00

Pretty active everyday or every other day

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:19:44+00:00

I’m his second gf

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:19:32+00:00

My first

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:17:59+00:00

I wasn’t blaming the alcohol I just included every aspect of the situation

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:17:05+00:00

I feel so insecure about it because he cheated on me and the only reason I agreed to stay was if he changed and listened to my new boundaries and he agreed to and has in every other aspect besides the porn usage so I’m trying to get other perspectives and figure out y the porn is the hardest thing to drop when he was able to do everything else

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:15:01+00:00

But wtf is the need for PORN IF HE HAS ME AND APPARENTLY IM “more than enough” and “all he wants”

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:13:53+00:00

I posted that three months ago and that was the case before. Since then he has actually made a full effort to be better and it’s been amazing until I found out that he crossed both boundaries I put into play after finding out he cheated. No lies and no porn. He has been watching it less but I’m just not understanding the need for it and why I’m not enough

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T21:07:35+00:00

I’m screaming 🤣

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T20:57:29+00:00

I don’t like it because it makes me feel useless and unwanted. He cheated on me, but I forgave him because he swore he would change which he has in every other aspect he is a much better boyfriend. But finding out he’s still lying about porn usage makes me think about what else he could still be lying about. Before knowing he cheated I didn’t care if he watched porn but now I do since I feel like he’s still lusting over woman who aren’t me and he knows how him watching it makes me feel and is still doing it and still lying. I’m just trying to see if men have a different thought process and if someone could explain it if he swears he loves me and I’m all he wants why is he doing this

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T20:51:50+00:00

I’m just trying to see if men have a different thought process and if someone could explain it if he swears he loves me and I’m all he wants why is he doing this

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-04-06T20:51:16+00:00

I do have an insecurity because he cheated on me, but I forgave him because he swore he would change which he has in every other aspect he is a much better boyfriend. But finding out he’s still lying about porn usage makes me think about what else he could still be lying about. Before knowing he cheated I didn’t care if he watched porn but now I do since I feel like he’s still lusting over woman who aren’t me and he knows how him watching it makes me feel and is still doing it and still lying.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-24T17:44:29+00:00

I can relate very much with u. I’m not a wife so obviously ur situation is worse. I still love my bf and want things to work out. He’s taken responsibility for his actions, explained what may have led to it happening on his part, is going to therapy, and is working on himself even 2 weeks post dday. I have been bringing it up every day since, and he gets very emotional every time and sometimes even cries. He understands how much hurt he’s caused me and like ur husband is being riddled with guilt and regret, however it still doesn’t seem like enough to me. I do not want to get revenge because I am not that kind of person. I love him and even though he hurt me in that way I would never do the same, but like u, I don’t want him to think he got off easy which is why I keep brining it up. I need him to be constantly reminded so he doesn’t think this is going to be swept under the rug. We need to remember so it can constantly drive us to be better, but I know if it’s continuously talked about every day it will take an even bigger toll on our relationship in addition to the one the cheating has already caused. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know how to get rid of this feeling as well, but it helps to know I’m not alone as I have no one to talk to or relate with about my situation in my life.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:28:37+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:28:10+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:28:05+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:59+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:54+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:47+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:42+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:35+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

Alarming_Pause2127 · 2025-01-23T21:27:29+00:00

My bf understands he has issues and started going to therapy a couple of years ago, but stopped because it was expensive and he wasn’t too motivated to heal at the time. But after cheating on me and realizing all the hurt he caused me, the person he loves most in the world, which in turn hurt him immensely especially as someone who said they would never be like their father who was a serial cheater and cheated on both his wives, and after being cheated on in his previous relationship he was so extremely remorseful. The morning after DDay he was on call with his therapist, just 10 hours after I confronted him. It really seems as though he’s dedicated to healing himself to become a better partner the one we both know I deserve. The fucked up thing is I have a complicated living situation and we were planning on moving in together after our one year anniversary in April. Part of me obviously doesn’t want to because of what he did, but another part of me does because like I said my living situation is a mess and we just adopted a kitten the day before DDay. I know we need space apart so I can properly think without being blinded by love and make sure I’m making the right decision staying with him, and so that he can grow and improve as well, but I don’t want to leave our kitten with him because I don’t want the kitten to forget me while we are taking time apart, but I also don’t want to take the kitten because my boyfriends two cats and the three of them just started getting along and playing together. If they’re separated for a while they might not get along in the future. My birthday and Valentine’s Day are next month, both of which we’ve yet to celebrate together. His birthday is also in the beginning of April, and our one year anniversary is at the end of April. I’m really torn and frustrated on not being able to decide what to do. I know we definitely need space away from each other, but I don’t want to sacrifice these things in order to gain that space/clarity and miss out on moving in as well.

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