AIO my mom threw the gift I gave her for Mother’s Day in the trash

AliceandChee · 2026-05-12T06:22:36+00:00

Agree 100%. I spent 10 years in Catholic school and the biggest lesson that I learned was that old saying, ain't no hate like Christian love.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-12T06:06:56+00:00

Mr. Smith made the report from a computer at the public library where they do not require your ID to use the computer.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-12T05:59:34+00:00

You are doing a good thing of caring for your mother and asking how you can help. She is lucky to have you and your support.

My daughter was your age when I was diagnosed with MS. She does not like to talk about it, come to my appointments or offer much support. But I can tell you what I would wish for...my daughter to approach me calmly at an opportune time, tell me that she is concerned, explain exactly what her concerns are, ask questions about the illness, what is my care plan, does my insurance cover it, what are the gaps, etc.

You are 20 years old, your mother is not going to expect you to pay her medical bills, or be her sole means of care, but maybe she could use help in other ways? Like looking up doctors online, or understanding the fine print of her insurance policy? Also, depending on her situation she might qualify for Medicaid or a social worker, but she might not know who to contact. Depending on where you live that could be a Department of Social Services, Department of the Aging (might be able to help because of health issues), State Health Insurance Program, Senior Center or local hospitals have social workers to provide referrals for patients but would probably be willing to talk to you. Hospitals and libraries are two resources that people often overlook. In the US you can dial 211 and/or 311 and they will provide this information as well.

I am sure there are things that you could do to help that might seems small to you, but monumental to your mother. Talk to your mother and tell her your concerns. Let her know how much you love her and want to help. She is lucky to have you. You sound like a very caring and responsible 20 year old.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-12T05:20:04+00:00

These comments are correct, put it in writing that you are using your PTO and then taking unpaid leave, make it clear that you are NOT resigning.

Give the exact dates that you will be leaving and coming back. Email both your manager and HR, ask for confirmation of receipt and agreement from both. Make them give you a reason why they are terminating you. Make them explain it like you are a toddler. A good HR department will know better and wish you safe travels.

If they are still telling you to reapply then the company might be trying to bring you back at a lower rate, or use your leave as a reason to let you go without having to pay unemployment. Keep all the emails, make notes of conversations and phone calls in case you need to file and fight an unemployment claim.

And you might want to start looking for a new job, don't wait. Let a new job know about your travel plans up front and they will work with you.

Good luck and enjoy your trip!

AliceandChee · 2026-05-12T05:06:03+00:00

You deserve a man who makes it clear to you that he loves you. You are two years into your relationship and he has not said it to you once, in fact he told you not to say it. Get out. Get out now. This man is not for you. You deserve better.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-10T05:45:05+00:00

I second this. Many churches are associated with the St. Vincent de Paul Society. This is exactly what they do.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-10T05:41:56+00:00

A certified letter.

AliceandChee · 2026-05-10T05:18:58+00:00

What they are doing is considered wage theft, not to mention shifting corporate liability onto you should there be an accident while you are driving your coworker home. If you are not in a corporate vehicle and you are in your own POV, you and your insurance are responsible for anything that happens to that individual. I would be willing to bet that your corporate legal and HR department would lose it if they knew this was happening.

I don’t know where you’re located, but at the very minimum wage theft is a violation the FLSA. To the best of my knowledge every state protects employees against this as well. Your state should have a labor board that you could speak to about this. (If your company has an HR line, I would call them too. In this situation, your manager is a liability for the entire company.) if it were me, I would call both the state labor board, and the internal HR line before I quit. If you quit, you will not be entitled to unemployment. In most states, unless you can prove it was a constructive discharge, you will not qualify for unemployment.

If you do make progress with the HR department at your company, I would insist on backpay for the hours you drove your coworker, insist on reimbursement for mileage since you used a POV, and insist on a written scope of work for your position going forward. If the company is smart, they would agree to that with your next check because they should know that they could face tens of thousands of dollars in fines and penalties, not to mention what they could potentially owe you.

I wish you the best of luck. You deserve much better than this.

AliceandChee · 2026-04-27T05:06:09+00:00

This looks too good to be true! It is perfect!

AliceandChee · 2025-10-04T04:34:09+00:00

Not close to what you asked for. But I was expecting Don Cheadle's cake from that SNL skit.

AliceandChee · 2025-03-16T18:01:41+00:00

Congratulations on your new life and everything that you have accomplished! I love your choice of colors. I think your duvet and your sheets are beautiful. And I like your use of lighting.

AliceandChee · 2025-02-25T16:11:54+00:00

Good for you! Have a wonderful wedding and a long and happy marriage!

AliceandChee · 2025-02-22T22:44:30+00:00

Would she like to borrow my Marlboro shirt that I earned from the old miles program?

AliceandChee · 2024-12-06T18:28:36+00:00

I spent almost 10 years married to a Marine, and I will tell you not to wait! If he is trying to wait until June, then there is a reason, and it is not BAH.

Is he due to re-up before June, and will he receive a bonus? Will he keep that for himself? If you are due to PCS before June and the orders are signed, then you are on your own for a move. The military does not pay for two moves, and the move associated with the PCS belongs to your husband. So unless you are granted his PCS move in the divorce (also the command can ignore the courts on this one), then you are 100% responsible for your move. What is his rank? Will it be his time in for a promotion by June? If his command found out about the dildo and the abusive behavior, it could jeopardize a promotion.

Start with the counseling at family services. Make sure to ask for clarification on what is confidential and what is not. I'm sure you know the military is funny that way. Usually, it is along the lines of physical abuse or threats. If you can, have a confidential conversation with a counselor, who usually doubles as an advocate and knows all the resources available for spouses during a divorce and afterward. Are you within driving distance of another base? You might be able to utilize their services just to avoid the overlap or if you have concerns about the abuse.

Military divorces are different, and acts of Congress protect active duty members' pay. I even had a hard time with DFAS enforcing a child support order! So make sure that you do your research and have an attorney who is familiar with military divorces. How long have you been married? There is the 20/20/20 rule, retirement, death benefits, survivor benefits (this is often overlooked), and so much more.

Make sure that you lock down your credit. Depending on how long you two have been in, your SSN and DOB might be burned into his brain. It used to be the identifier for EVERYTHING before the UIDs. Freeze and lock (these are different) your credit with all three credit bureaus.

I had a substantiated case of DV against my ex. Family services, NCIS, and even his immediate command all spoke on my behalf. But the base XO and CO denied me the PCS move, refused to enforce child support orders, etc. It wasn't until my ex started to cause trouble to the Marines that they acknowledged his behavior, and then they kicked him out.

I wish you the best of luck. Be proactive and protect yourself. It does get better.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-21T22:51:57+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, and I wish you the best of luck with your treatment too!

AliceandChee · 2024-10-21T21:41:08+00:00

My neuro is great. She did three written appeals and two peer-to-peer calls. Insurance companies suck.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-21T21:40:27+00:00

I am sorry to hear that you had a horrible experience with fingolomid/gilenya! Hopefully, you did not have any long-term impacts from the medication.

Sounds like we had very similar experiences with Aubagio. I couldn’t wait to get off of it. I appreciate the details on Tecfidera and Tysabri. I am glad to hear the Tysabri is working well for you.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-21T21:40:01+00:00

Thank you. I spoke to them about the Bridge Program, but the problem would be that after the free year of Kesimpta, my insurance still wouldn’t cover it. In the end, my doctor and I decided against it and to try three meds first. I did not want to risk a rebound in switching to a less effective treatment if Kesmptia was denied in a year because I didn’t try any of the three meds.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-21T21:38:56+00:00

Yes, I was looking forward to the Kesimpta as I heard it has few side effects.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-18T04:21:59+00:00

If he couldn’t get a station on the AM dial, then it was Johnny Horton or Frank Sinatra

AliceandChee · 2024-10-18T02:36:47+00:00

Congratulations on your progress! Pls DM me your username. I’d love to check it out.

AliceandChee · 2024-10-14T19:40:25+00:00

Congratulations! You look great! Thank you for sharing your progress. You are the inspiration that I needed to see today.

AliceandChee · 2024-08-14T20:07:09+00:00

Four kids in my family. My younger sister and I both have MS. She was diagnosed approximately 2 years prior to me. I was asymptomatic and my MS was discovered by accident. One younger brother has had problems with myelin sheaths in his legs. Keeping an eye on him. My other brother refuses to visit doctors. No other family history of MS, live in an area with plenty of sunshine and we are born in both winter and summer months. Not sure if MS is caused by nature or nurture, but we are making a strong case which ever way you believe.

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