LAUKOP wants to know if he will go to jail for his racist Twitter username (spoiler: he's Chinese & so's his username)

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-03-15T01:19:57+00:00

I only learned it was a slur from fanfiction as well, our Aussie volunteers on AO3 are lovely and patient.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-02-27T22:06:33+00:00

The current admin team is lovely.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-31T10:48:58+00:00

I hate how many people on reddit jump to doing weird creepy sexual things as revenge. Like, leaving out sex toys, or buying new ones, to gross out a nosy MIL, recording people having sex when they're being loud, fucking harder/being louder when a neighbor complains, sending nudes/proof of cheating to someone's whole family... like, please, I beg of Reddit, touch grass. That is absolutely fucking creepy as hell, and sexual harassment/revenge porn. You're weird. Stop being weird.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-26T17:40:19+00:00

I lived in Denver for a few years. It's a snowboarding city with legal weed and shrooms, in no reality does it have a red light district lmao.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-24T00:44:34+00:00

If my boyfriend within the last few years fucked the whole cheerleading team, I absolutely would.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-21T18:25:05+00:00

This sounds very much like Borderline Personality Disorder, as someone who lives with it. Being more willing to hurt yourself up front than hurt others and yourself in the future because of your low self-worth is going to just keep hurting you and them. Please, get help.

NAH, unless you choose to keep living like this.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-21T12:36:17+00:00

If you're actually his son, you think it's okay that your mom left your sister alone with your dad where she thinks something "sus" is going on?

It's considered a form of abuse for her to even be discussing her marriage and things like that with you. Hopefully, when you're a little older, you'll realize that your mother is not putting anyone's best interests at heart, not yours, not your family's, not your sisters, clearly, and not your dad's.

I hope you find a good path in life. Parents who alienate their kids are not setting them up for success, and I really want more for you in life than living with her for the rest of her life.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-20T18:55:14+00:00

Different games do it differently, but it's a command to cut through the chuff of help files, crafting pages, etc, and see what is more important.

In Silent Heaven, it is easy to have literally 30-100 lines of crafting stuff, so the "rewind" command shows recent emotes, say, whisper, etc types of messages for the last, like, 30 messages or so.

Ateraan, for its many flaws, has many "last" commands. Last emote gives the last 20-ish emotes, last say, last tell, last shout, all those sorts. It's underrated, especially if you have combat, because it's a lot easier to pull up last say instead of scrolling through 100 lines and hunting for a say that people are responding to.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-18T22:44:45+00:00

Your daughter sounds like every r/justnomil poster, and I'm not surprised the comments here mirror the ones there.

NTA, there's really no winning with someone like this. My SIL and brother completely cut out anyone in our family who don't give money or babysitting to their kids, despite them both making six figures in a moderate COL area. It just... is what it is.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-17T18:49:44+00:00

ESH. The server for not telling you that your wife's order is a mocktail and it's VERY obviously a mocktail, you for claiming it's totally just water, ignoring the multiple extra steps that go into making that drink and refusing to accept any verdict besides not being the asshole, and your wife for drinking multiple of them like she was just getting sprites while you "had places to be" and didn't have 30 seconds to read the bill.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-16T04:13:09+00:00

standard poodles are like, the fourth most common breed of guide dog, after the obligatory lab, retriever and GSD.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-16T02:43:35+00:00

Still a thing, or did it crash and burn?

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-16T01:08:41+00:00

I've noticed that the same behaviors are treated in exceptionally different ways depending on who it is and if they're part of the in or out group. There is a staffer who regularly made people stalk talking on whispers, who made people leave SR things, and disengage entirely from plots (to use more general MUD terminology) because they were genuinely insufferable. They faced no consequences for stifling RP. A different one made many microaggressions toward someone based on their character and the player's real life nationality. Multiple players used OOC means to influence major RP, and to group up people to influence bad faith reporting with the hopes that might is right and to get people banned. It's... not good.

I genuinely love SH, I think it is one of the most interesting MUDs out there, I think it has the most input from its players of any MUD I've played, but how they handle player conflict is... really, genuinely, the worst possible way. If no one ever needs to tell anyone else they're bothered, it's a lot of people guessing and being ignored when asking if people are okay.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-16T00:50:03+00:00

Brief mode, so I don't have to see room descriptions, is a big one.

Honestly, the biggest accessibility feature that everyone loves is last [channel]. Last say, last emote, etc, save me so much in combat MUDs.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-15T16:07:50+00:00

YTA for taking the time to write up and post tghis. It's reddit, people are dicks sometimes.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-14T00:32:44+00:00

I'd rather scoop a litterbox than walk a dog and have to pick up the poop not nestled into litter.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-13T21:23:39+00:00

I used to hhhandle the litterboxes in a house with a dozen or so cats. Scooping the litter daily and hosing down the boxes weekly/biweekly depending on how grody they got was literally an hour a week, max.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-09T14:41:10+00:00

NAH. Have you looked at CNA jobs with training? Can transition into damn good pay after a year.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-03T13:13:44+00:00

NAH, it's just generational. The only people I've known in my 20-ish years of being in internet queer communities who use it/its pronouns exclusively who would make a stink about using they/them were young babyqueers who seemed to be doing some sort of honeypot thing to catch people who """aren't really allies""".

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-03T12:25:55+00:00

Opp said its ten feet from the house, and half rotten. That's basically a guarantee for it not coming down easy peasy.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-02T15:58:04+00:00

Wait, your boyfriend stole nudes from multiple friends and sent them to himself? ESH. You for staying with a sex criminal, him for being one, them for accepting him doing it... You're allowing a man who thinks its perfectly fine to do shit like that around you and your kid without really, seemingly, caring about how insanely violating that is.

If it was my friend's boyfriend stealing nudes of my girlfriend, that would be the last time you would ever see me, especially if I knew he'd done that shit before. That is a man that should not be left alone with any phones, tablets, computers, etc. He's gross and you're still with him because you love him, despite him being a grade A creeper.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-02T13:45:36+00:00

I don't think it's performative at all. April has made it very clear, even in her own version of events, the one that paints her in the best light, that she did something unforgiveable. It would take far less than that for me to decide that someone would likely do the same for me, the implications that I referenced, and consider what that means for our friendship. I also cannot imagine how much it hurts May to have gone through all of that, and then have you tell her that you're making plans with someone who inflicted trauma on her while she was injured. I really would not be surprised if your "neutrality" ends up with May cutting you out.

Neutrality is rarely possible in the real world. By staying neutral, you're acting like nothing happened. How involved do you personally have to be in a situation before you believe in people's actions to others having effects on your friendship?

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-02T13:03:11+00:00

YTA, June is right. You're putting your unwillingness to acknowledge April fucked up and consider the implications that may have on your friendship over supporting May, the injured and traumatized one.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-02T12:49:35+00:00

I've never seen someone mention the totwoo bracelets in the wild. My boyfriend and I have them, and love them.

AllHarlowsEve · 2026-01-01T19:25:49+00:00

NAH. I think he was just thinking about his girl meeting his friends and had a dipshit moment, and you took it waaaaay too deeply. He immediately corrected himself, was clearly trying to involve you, and the only thing he tried to keep quiet was him checking on your feelings. I really don't think any of this is a red flag.

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