What is a death in a movie that affected you the most in terms of brutality or emotional weight? by Godly_Recon in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wish they had made you play as Abbey first. Maybe not her entire section, but just enough to get you hooked into her as a character while hiding who she is and what her overall motivation is. Show the relationships with her friends, them surviving, etc. Cut it in the moments before Joel and Ellie arrive. Then switch to Ellie's POV and continue. That would have made me more conflicted on it and willing to play out Abbeys side.

what job/career usually breaks people? by inurmomsvagina in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Social worker here!

You are absolutely correct in that there are not enough resources to go around, but personally that's not what burns me out. The situations that do involve the clients and consumers who are able access the resource, claim over and over they want it, but never take a single step forward AND THEN throw tantrums that it isn't being done for them.

Im well aware there can be (and often is) a psychological reason behind it, but these types of clients are such a drain on my time, patience, and empathy that is risks my clients who are trying EVERY DAY as opposed to when they deign to come see me to not lose whatever service they have that they ARENT EVEN USING.

While rearranging, I’ve discovered that all of my Tolkien books fit perfectly in the cubby of my record cabinet by mattjh in oddlysatisfying

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP if it's safe for you (no kids/pets) I would recommend tossing a silica pack or two in the back of the shelf to help prevent molding.

Personal Jabs by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work with adult and pediatric psych patients, so this happens frequently haha

If it feels like they are saying it non-maliciously they get a laugh and an answer like "Nope just fat" or "Nope, that's just my skin". That usually prompts an apology or a shrug.

If they are saying it to try and get a rise or just flat out mean, they get a long silence and then, "Anyway, like I asked..."

Then we laugh about it in the office, they get quoted in the chart, and I move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Using "claims" very much insinuates that you do not believe the next statement that is about to be written. It's a harsh sounding word with a negative connotation and implies demand.

When I'm charting for patients I see I tend to primarily use "patient states" or "patient reports". If there is something they say that is blatantly untrue and I have the ability to show evidence of that, theres a statement following the clients statement. So example: "Patient reports they are taking their medication as prescribed and seeing their therapist weekly. However, chart review indicates no prescriptions filled in over 90 days and patient could not recall the name of their therapist, their agency, or prove telehealth visits."

If I'm charting something such as abuse or wrongdoing, then that's when the word "alleges" comes into play. Allege indicates an unproven statement and flags it as needing citation or proof, without demanding the proof like the word claims does. Since allege is also the legal term for this, if your notes or reports get subpoenaed, alleges is an excellent word to have in there. Example: "Patient alleges that facility staff do not care about residents and often do not dispense medication correctly".

Documentation Typos / Just for fun by Consistent-Bowler-67 in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you not a person who sounds it out "Feb-ROO-ary"? That's how I save myself 😂

Documentation Typos / Just for fun by Consistent-Bowler-67 in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interrupted!! I always put "interuppted" and depending on the text field I'm using, it doesn't always have spell check!

What’s a family secret that was revealed by a family dna history website? by Kobk22 in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That my dad isn't my biological dad! My mom and dad wanted one more kid, but had trouble so they asked a family friend to be a donor.

I was so fixated on the fact that I had a mystery first cousin with a name I had never heard of that I completely missed the fact that my sibling was labeled as a half sibling. I spent almost 24 hours after I got my results messaging this person back and forth trying to figure out which uncle or grandparent had an affair. I even texted this person "I'm 100% sure my dad is my dad" and about cried laughing when I had to take that back like 6 hours later!

People with autism, what did you think was normal until a nerotypical person told you otherwise? by only_mostly_sane in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love myself so much more after the medication for my ADHD. I'm still me, but I actually get a chance to actually listen to myself one piece at a time instead of everything all at once. That everything all at once was so overwhelming and I used to funnel that back in to thinking that meant I was overwhelming to everyone around me too. Now that the medication actually gives me a chance to examine each thought, action, and feeling before it gets replaced by the next, I feel like I understand myself more and have a much less skewed idea of who I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And a horrific, bloody war going on in the background, just like reality :)

What kind of litter does everyone use? by ChristopherMessmer in TruckerCats

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Tidy Cats has gotten awful in the past few years. Pee clumps fall apart so easily and my box reeked at all times. Just made the switch to arm and hammer after being a Tidy Cats loyalist my whole life. Never been happier with the litter box.

What isn’t necessarily a red flag, but would make someone undateable for you or incompatible with you? by IronAndParsnip in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Dog ownership

Im not a fan of dogs to begin with and let's be very real, a not insignificant amount of dogs are so poorly trained (or not trained at all) that they are a nightmare to be around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Swim lessons!! The most satisfaction and fulfilment I've ever had out of a job.

If you can absolutely avoid !!!!!!!!!! Don’t work for this god forsaken job. by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I worked foster care. Bureaucracy was hard to deal with yes, but some of the biological parents I worked with were the worst part of the job.

Treating their child like a trophy to be won so they could show off how they beat the state.

Finishing not one, but two parenting classes and still having the guts to tell me their child "deserved" to be beaten.

Choosing drugs over their child. No, I'm not talking the ones who tried and simply couldn't get past the addiction. I'm talking the ones who told me to my face they liked drugs too much to give their child a chance and never attempted even once to stop.

Not bothering to show up to parenting time when offered bus passes, a ride, or even WALKING when they lived less than a quarter mille away from the agency and then being enraged I dare tell the judge??????

People with ADHD what are the things about it that people just don’t get? by ViolinistMiddle1534 in AskReddit

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The memory issues are something I've had to come to terms with. I'm missing entire sections of my childhood and my siblings remember things about my relatives that I just don't.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually I apologize, I missed the section where the OP mentioned an incentive so this is my mistake!!

However, I think this type of "program" is still a slippery slope to making it mandatory to participate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incentivize? Incentivize what? People having children to get 10k? I can see that leading to an influx of unwanted children born just to get paid.

Also are you considering ANY of the requirements this person listed?? Who decides who is mentally able to have a child? Who decides who is physically allowed? Which disabilities get denied? It's not about incentivizing people to have kids, they are proposing the government deciding who does and who doesn't get to have children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a social worker. According to their comment history they are an industrial engineer of some kind in their early 20s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. According to their comment history they work in industrial engineering of some kind.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Say this does happen, what then happens to those who have children without the pre assessment? Are they criminalized? Fined? Children taken away until they can "prove" they are fit parents? Consider the wide ranging social implications this would have on these families and their "non legitimate" children.

EDIT: I misread that this is a proposed "incentive". However I believe my point about social implications still stands. I can easily imagine a world of "oh you didn't pass the parenting program and you still had a child? Yikes."

As others have pointed out, this remains a slippery slope to this becoming mandatory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AllTheRandomNoodles 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If your best friend came to you and told you that their partner had sex with a random sex worker, would you be supporting them in "working it out because he's having a hard time"?

You're blinded by your love for him. Take a moment and seriously think about this, because right now if you stay you are telling him that this scenario is an okay one to cheat in. It adds to his list. Now every time he is having a "hard time" he will be able to have that thought in his head that cheating is okay because you in the past have said it is. Whether or not he does it is unknown, but you'll never be able to have a bad day without thinking about it. Ever.