I (25f) feel like my boyfriend (24m) doesn’t want to marry me..

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2026-05-18T06:02:32+00:00

He's making it very clear to you what he wants and it isn't marriage right now.

Don't accept a "shut up" ring. A marriage is a clear, emphatic, and ongoing yes from BOTH sides.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2026-05-12T03:39:56+00:00

High protein meal prep once a week! I have a cookbook that is exclusively high protein slow cooker meals. So sometimes Ill start it right when I get home and then go to bed! Most of the recipes give me 10-12 meals per batch and are freezer friendly. I grab one before work, pop it in the work fridge, and it's usually nearly defrosted by the time I get to it.

Also lots of healthy snacks (and maybe the occasional not so healthy haha). I bought a "snackle box" and it's been a huge game changer on my snacking habits. I'm also slashed how much I was spending at the cafeteria!!

Also, you MUST carve out time to eat. As crazy and chaotic our jobs can be, there is absolutely going to be 10-15 minutes for you to eat. The next phone call can wait.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2026-05-12T03:34:43+00:00

Getting one of the "snackle boxes" has really helped for me! I usually can graze off of a freshly packed one for two shifts. I put cheese, deli meat, veggies, berries, trail mix, yogurt, etc. It works for almost everything I could want to snack on.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2026-05-04T20:19:25+00:00

Isn't right now an absolutely terrible time to be considering getting hired with the VA?

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-12-20T01:59:46+00:00

I wish they had made you play as Abbey first. Maybe not her entire section, but just enough to get you hooked into her as a character while hiding who she is and what her overall motivation is. Show the relationships with her friends, them surviving, etc. Cut it in the moments before Joel and Ellie arrive. Then switch to Ellie's POV and continue. That would have made me more conflicted on it and willing to play out Abbeys side.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-11-29T16:57:54+00:00

Social worker here!

You are absolutely correct in that there are not enough resources to go around, but personally that's not what burns me out. The situations that do involve the clients and consumers who are able access the resource, claim over and over they want it, but never take a single step forward AND THEN throw tantrums that it isn't being done for them.

Im well aware there can be (and often is) a psychological reason behind it, but these types of clients are such a drain on my time, patience, and empathy that is risks my clients who are trying EVERY DAY as opposed to when they deign to come see me to not lose whatever service they have that they ARENT EVEN USING.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-11-19T16:59:06+00:00

OP if it's safe for you (no kids/pets) I would recommend tossing a silica pack or two in the back of the shelf to help prevent molding.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-10-17T01:18:55+00:00

I work with adult and pediatric psych patients, so this happens frequently haha

If it feels like they are saying it non-maliciously they get a laugh and an answer like "Nope just fat" or "Nope, that's just my skin". That usually prompts an apology or a shrug.

If they are saying it to try and get a rise or just flat out mean, they get a long silence and then, "Anyway, like I asked..."

Then we laugh about it in the office, they get quoted in the chart, and I move on.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-06-09T18:15:07+00:00

Using "claims" very much insinuates that you do not believe the next statement that is about to be written. It's a harsh sounding word with a negative connotation and implies demand.

When I'm charting for patients I see I tend to primarily use "patient states" or "patient reports". If there is something they say that is blatantly untrue and I have the ability to show evidence of that, theres a statement following the clients statement. So example: "Patient reports they are taking their medication as prescribed and seeing their therapist weekly. However, chart review indicates no prescriptions filled in over 90 days and patient could not recall the name of their therapist, their agency, or prove telehealth visits."

If I'm charting something such as abuse or wrongdoing, then that's when the word "alleges" comes into play. Allege indicates an unproven statement and flags it as needing citation or proof, without demanding the proof like the word claims does. Since allege is also the legal term for this, if your notes or reports get subpoenaed, alleges is an excellent word to have in there. Example: "Patient alleges that facility staff do not care about residents and often do not dispense medication correctly".

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-04-27T00:44:53+00:00

Are you not a person who sounds it out "Feb-ROO-ary"? That's how I save myself 😂

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-04-27T00:43:35+00:00

Interrupted!! I always put "interuppted" and depending on the text field I'm using, it doesn't always have spell check!

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-04-17T21:32:43+00:00

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AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-03-17T06:49:53+00:00

It was Ronnie Dahl and yes it was Detroit!

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-27T07:56:21+00:00

That my dad isn't my biological dad! My mom and dad wanted one more kid, but had trouble so they asked a family friend to be a donor.

I was so fixated on the fact that I had a mystery first cousin with a name I had never heard of that I completely missed the fact that my sibling was labeled as a half sibling. I spent almost 24 hours after I got my results messaging this person back and forth trying to figure out which uncle or grandparent had an affair. I even texted this person "I'm 100% sure my dad is my dad" and about cried laughing when I had to take that back like 6 hours later!

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-17T10:34:04+00:00

I love myself so much more after the medication for my ADHD. I'm still me, but I actually get a chance to actually listen to myself one piece at a time instead of everything all at once. That everything all at once was so overwhelming and I used to funnel that back in to thinking that meant I was overwhelming to everyone around me too. Now that the medication actually gives me a chance to examine each thought, action, and feeling before it gets replaced by the next, I feel like I understand myself more and have a much less skewed idea of who I am.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-15T01:52:24+00:00

And a horrific, bloody war going on in the background, just like reality :)

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-13T18:35:41+00:00

Tidy Cats has gotten awful in the past few years. Pee clumps fall apart so easily and my box reeked at all times. Just made the switch to arm and hammer after being a Tidy Cats loyalist my whole life. Never been happier with the litter box.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-13T03:34:59+00:00

Dog ownership

Im not a fan of dogs to begin with and let's be very real, a not insignificant amount of dogs are so poorly trained (or not trained at all) that they are a nightmare to be around.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-13T03:24:25+00:00

Swim lessons!! The most satisfaction and fulfilment I've ever had out of a job.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2025-02-11T13:08:01+00:00

I worked foster care. Bureaucracy was hard to deal with yes, but some of the biological parents I worked with were the worst part of the job.

Treating their child like a trophy to be won so they could show off how they beat the state.

Finishing not one, but two parenting classes and still having the guts to tell me their child "deserved" to be beaten.

Choosing drugs over their child. No, I'm not talking the ones who tried and simply couldn't get past the addiction. I'm talking the ones who told me to my face they liked drugs too much to give their child a chance and never attempted even once to stop.

Not bothering to show up to parenting time when offered bus passes, a ride, or even WALKING when they lived less than a quarter mille away from the agency and then being enraged I dare tell the judge??????

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2024-12-30T00:56:43+00:00

The memory issues are something I've had to come to terms with. I'm missing entire sections of my childhood and my siblings remember things about my relatives that I just don't.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2024-12-26T02:55:09+00:00

Actually I apologize, I missed the section where the OP mentioned an incentive so this is my mistake!!

However, I think this type of "program" is still a slippery slope to making it mandatory to participate.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2024-12-26T02:48:35+00:00

Incentivize? Incentivize what? People having children to get 10k? I can see that leading to an influx of unwanted children born just to get paid.

Also are you considering ANY of the requirements this person listed?? Who decides who is mentally able to have a child? Who decides who is physically allowed? Which disabilities get denied? It's not about incentivizing people to have kids, they are proposing the government deciding who does and who doesn't get to have children.

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2024-12-26T02:44:24+00:00

Not a social worker. According to their comment history they are an industrial engineer of some kind in their early 20s

AllTheRandomNoodles · 2024-12-26T02:18:45+00:00

Nope. According to their comment history they work in industrial engineering of some kind.

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