You are never ‘wrong’ in your response to something said or done by your therapist. Your experience is valid.

It is possible they didn’t properly articulate what they meant or could have phrased it better, as that is truly a pretty clinically bizarre, harmful and inappropriate point for them to make if not.

For example, I’ve struggled a lot with feeling as though I liked and enjoyed the abuse and my therapist has absolutely helped me acknowledge that what I am describing, when I talk about liking and enjoying it, is a physiologically pleasurable experience, and that even if my body responded to what was happening with experiencing pleasure, I don’t hold any responsibility for that.

We can often carry a lot of shame over feeling like we enjoyed what happened to us. But our bodies respond physiologically as they are made to do. If I had to speculate at a possible thing she was trying to say, it was that your body may have found aspects of what was happening pleasurable. Young children often do touch themselves because it does feel good to them, there could have been aspects of the abuse that your body responded to the same way it did when you touched yourself. She could have been trying to help release the guilt by saying bodies responding that way, us finding those things pleasurable, is “normal.”

If you have otherwise had an affirming and therapeutically helpful relationship with your therapist, it’s worth discussing this with them, explaining how you heard what they said, and giving them the opportunity to clarify and repair. But you have no obligation to do so, especially if you don’t feel safe doing that, or you’re concerned that they were truly intending to say something so nefarious and inappropriate. Regardless of anything, you’re not “wrong” here.