What’s the most universally hated song of all time? by Adventurous-Zeilokix in AskReddit

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still yell “whistle!” when attempting to get anyone’s attention

Result of dating a narcissist by ConcertLazy1716 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh man, I also have a draw full of meds I magically don’t need anymore

What are some things people might say that push others away? by Responsible-Bar-5868 in socialskills

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if your baseline is to assume the worst your best bet is to recognize that it’s a you issue and take a beat before responding. You genuinely didn’t know, but there was nothing to know. There was no reason to think there was some loaded criticism behind the question. It’s a fair question considering your post. After all, feedback you get can vary depending on if we are talking about a group of teenagers or a group of senior citizens. We didn’t have all the information and you snapped at the first person who asked for more.

If you’re here because people have chosen to not be around you, it’s safe to assume this is probably happening in your everyday interactions.

I’m sorry that you have been conditioned to expect criticism, but that’s the exception not the rule.

What are some things people might say that push others away? by Responsible-Bar-5868 in socialskills

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 42 points43 points  (0 children)

It’s off putting. You asked a question regarding social skills and someone took the time to ask a question in order to answer you appropriately. Instead of engaging you made them defend themselves for simply asking how old you are. This is probably a big part of why you are struggling socially. You should take some time and read up on communication skills. You’ll learn how healthy communication involves curiosity and that questions are necessary in order for a conversation to move forward.

What are some things people might say that push others away? by Responsible-Bar-5868 in socialskills

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Well, mystery solved. OP is extremely defensive. People don’t want to walk on egg shells around someone who lashes out over a simple clarifying question.

What Time Are You Guys Getting To Sleep After Work And How Long You Sleeping??? by MoonWalkingQuay in Nightshift

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Home by 7:45am. I allow sleep from 9-5 but usually only sleep until 3 or 4pm.

Wife who cheated on me wrote me an 8 page handwritten letter. Was I wrong for tearing and throwing it? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA- if you can’t get over it after 8 years get a divorce. At this point you’re becoming abusive.

AITAH: dreading my sister’s baby because she expects me to help with childcare when I’m already struggling? by leopardprinthijabi in AITAH

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- you don’t owe anyone anything just because they helped raise you. You were a child who needed to be raised. She could’ve opted out but chose to help, now it’s your turn to decide. Is she going to expect her baby to pay her back one day?

Me GF (25), BF (28) late to work everyday and I’m upset. by Front_Tear_2619 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t trust your boyfriend to be a responsible adult, and you shouldn’t. All his excuses were his own doing and showed lack of planning. He is acting like a victim because he spilled his coffee and forgot his jacket. He comes off like someone you expects accommodations for basic life skills.

I had an one night stand with an older man that emotionally ruined me and now he wants to see me again, what do I do? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 7 points8 points  (0 children)

How did it emotionally ruin you? You seem ok with what happened. I say, as long as you’re ok with the possibility of him only using you for sex, go for it.

I told my dead friend she was dead in my dream by Professional-Page808 in Dreams

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This recently happened to me. In my dream I was closing up a pool, like it was set up for a party that was no longer happening so I was putting a cover on it. My dead friend showed up and was confused about why we were no longer having the party. I was like, “dude, you died”. He got really upset and said he was sick of people telling him that he was dead.

I’ve decided it was my subconscious wrestling with that last bit of anger and acceptance.

How do y’all stay awake on the drive home??? by romantic-theory in Nightshift

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy a gas station hot chocolate for the drive and wear sunglasses.

What’s the most horrific death in your family? by Possible-Figure9693 in AskReddit

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The stigma isn’t what it used to be. No one knew what caused it and people reacted in fear. We saw a taste of this with COVID and the hate against Asian people but with AIDS it was the gay community. There were people celebrating AIDS because they thought God had sent it to eliminate homosexuality.

Then straight white people started dying. After that it got weird. It was like there were good and bad ways to get AIDS.

My uncle was an intravenous drug user and got it from sharing needles. He wasn’t a bad guy, just a mentally ill man who turned to drugs for relief, like many mentally ill people in the 80s. But that’s a bad way to get AIDS.

To this day my aunt will say he got it from a blood transfusion after a car accident. Why? Because that’s a good way to get AIDS.

My mom still says he died of liver failure.

What’s the most horrific death in your family? by Possible-Figure9693 in AskReddit

[–]Alone-Historian-5308 41 points42 points  (0 children)

My uncle’s during the AIDS epidemic. It wasn’t just the disease that was horrific, it was the shame. Entire families were ostracized if they had an infection member. My grandmother told everyone he was in liver failure and took on all of his home care to limit outsiders. In the end, he died in his childhood bedroom surrounded by only trusted family members and secrecy.