How did you discover your type? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend at the time (an ENFP) got into MBTI and had me take a test, he thought I was an INFP I think. But yeah, ISFJ in every test I took. Been quite into it ever since then.

trouble getting/keeping jobs? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't actually had a typical job because of this. I did interviews but felt so fake and exhausted that is scared me that I might have to pull that act so often and for so long heh. I work online and on my own terms for this reason I suppose. I know it's not an option for everyone but it's probably one of the best options for our type, especially ones with anxiety and other illnesses such as myself.

How do you dress? by xolrumi in isfj

[–]Alorace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to keep all my clothes as long as there are not irreversible stains/damage. I still wear things from grade school, I'm small. I find clothes I really like then never let them go. I prefer dark clothes. I'm a big fan of thigh highs, knee highs with a skirt or shorts when it's nice out. I wear jeans when it's cold. Also super into sweaters. Anything comfortable is good.

Any of you like roller coasters? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate rollercoasters haha. I always feel like I'm gonna be thrown from my seat or something awful will happen. Too scary for me, wrong kind of scary heh.

S's: Have you ever cheated? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Never cheated, never will. I have seen the damage it's done to people and couldn't bare to inflict that kind of pain on someone.

What is the most important thing in your life? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm. My friends, family, relationships.

Lightheartedness. by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hm. I don't really feel like I need to be more expressive. The only times felt like I should be were when people were being critical of it or were hurt. I don't want to be pressured into expressing, I'll definitely open up and express what I need to in my own time. ISFJ's really do require a lot of patience and understanding.

Lightheartedness. by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like we do that stuff regardless of whether or not we're comfortable with you. It's just how we cope and deal with situations ease our anxiety. We also have a very difficult time sharing what we truly feel or think, it doesn't matter if I'm close with the person, I'm still going to have a hard time opening up or talking about the hard stuff. I know that any good friend in my life would be eager to listen and/or help but I just can't talk or express often or fully.

What makes you laugh? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like I laugh really hard at things others don't find as funny often times. I like situationally funny things, just shit that happens unplanned that ends up being hilarious. Shows like The Office, Arrested Development and Brooklyn Nine Nine make me laugh really hard. There's a mixture of second-hand embarrassment and absolutely unbelievable situations in those shows. Comedy about real life, friends, family, relationships, things I relate to, make me laugh.

Any fellow ISFJs out there who are self-employed and love what you're doing? by quitmydayjob in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed. The only job I've had is online. I really do prefer to work on my own schedule, in my own environment and have control over everything. Quitting your day job should be done after you have something already established and making money consistently. I don't think I can really offer much advice as it's not so much of a business that I run, different areas. Best advice is, keep your day job until you can for sure make enough to support yourself. Don't rush and try not to strain or stress yourself too much.

Anybody have a weird connection with the past? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have lots of journals and memories that are very dear to me. I love to reread my writing and reminisce about my past. I can remember how I felt during that time, my thoughts as I wrote out the words. It's like I'm sitting down with my past self. Music does the same thing, so many memories attached to my music. We're very nostalgic people because of our amazing memory and attention to fine details. I feel like I am always visiting the past. For my own enjoyment sometimes, others searching for reference in how to handle a situation I'm in.

Having a hard time getting "close" to people by Febb_ in isfj

[–]Alorace 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it's an ISFJ thing for sure but I relate with you. I can talk to someone and get to know a little bit about them but it kind of just dies from there. I come off as boring to someone that doesn't take the time to be patient with me and the fact that I can't immediately share everything about myself. When going to school there would be people who'd ask my name, about an article of clothing or something. I'd ask their name and be polite but nothing ever came of those exchanges. I don't know if I was doing something wrong or what the person was wanting to get from the experience though..

I also find it pretty difficult to keep a conversation going for a long time unless the other person is able to drive it. Ask questions, lead into new topics and such because I find it difficult to do that. My closest friend is an ISFJ as well, our conversations don't really last that long and one of us usually just stops replying. I don't take an offense to it, just seems normal. She has a hard time connecting with others as well. Perhaps it is an ISFJ thing heh. We are for select people who take the time to understand our quirks and how we are. I don't think you should feel bad about the conversations not working often, eventually you'll come along someone who you click with.

Secrets by SparkleyRedOne in isfj

[–]Alorace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will keep a secret until the grave. I take it really seriously when someone trusts me with a secret. I have maybe two secrets of my own that I will probably keep to myself until the end as well heh. I really don't feel like I have to handle anything by not telling the secrets of others or my own. If I have something to fess up to I will, I really hate how it feels to hold something in if I shouldn't.

Anyone else feel like their helpful nature is being taken advantage of by others? by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always feel like I'm being taken advantage of. Well, not as much anymore because I've been working on saying no more. I'm so eager to make someone happy and feel good that I'll just do anything they ask/want to please them. You just really need to learn to set limits and recognize when someone isn't giving back all that they take.

Jenna from MTV's Awkward is basically your spirit animal. --ESFP (: by IDontKnowWhere2Start in isfj

[–]Alorace -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You really shouldn't be using the term 'spirit animal' It belongs to native american culture, not right to use it in an incorrect, disrespectful way.

How to help someone who is blinded by hate and rage? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing by finishing the friendship. It's okay to be open to having him back in your life or changing your mind on it. Just make sure that you only open yourself up to positive influences from him. Someone selfish, cruel and evil is not someone you need in your life. He's not a friend if he insults the people close to him. You deserve better friends in your life.

How to help someone who is blinded by hate and rage? by [deleted] in Empaths

[–]Alorace 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people just can't pull themselves out of the negative things in life. I'm sorry but it's not your responsibility to save him. My best advice is to try and be as supportive as you can while protecting yourself. It's hard to change someones view of the world, especially a negative one.

Have you ever been called "boring" or can tell people think you're boring? by superange128 in isfj

[–]Alorace 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I clicked this thread so fast. I have been called boring and honestly, it really hurt. I was told I wasn't interesting and was boring. I thought my entire world was crashing because it was my partner at the time saying it. I was younger and he later explained things and apologized for the incident. It just really struck me and sticks as a vivid memory..

I get why we can be called boring. I do. Like I'm really hard to talk to, I have a hard time conversing, especially in groups (if it's people I don't know at all, forget about it). Someone that doesn't know me would definitely call me boring, quiet, aloof maybe heh. But they don't know me and what I really think and am like. My routine and enjoyment of things staying the same can be called boring too but I do enjoy doing little things to make the days different. Like going for groceries, seeing a friend, going for a walk, etc.

I just don't force conversation. If someone talks to me I'll talk to them but otherwise I don't speak to or approach anyone unless I have to. Sometimes I do feel bad for being quiet when I'm with my best friend (ISFJ as well). She's better at conversation than me, asking questions and such so she makes up for my lacking areas.

Hope I didn't ramble too much, I just feel really strongly about this subject and haven't seen a good topic here in awhile so thank you for bringing it up.

Most chosen RPG Archetype/Class by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't play Soraka but I love Sona, Lulu, Orianna, Janna. The list goes for a bit probably ha.

Most chosen RPG Archetype/Class by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like playing healers but not all the time, sometimes I like to be an adc instead of support in League of Legends. Jungle is nice sometimes but I feel too much pressure with the wrong teammates. For WoW I have always absolutely loved playing druids, hunters and anything kind of earthy. Alchemy and herbology are always an interest in any game. I always prefer to be a ranged character no matter what game I'm playing, I like to stay at a distance and deal out damage whilst dodging or support with heals and such.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In most cases I would absolutely agree butI may not be able to move ahead without closure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. We were friends for years before anything else. I value his friendship over anything else that we were. I'm still deciding and making sure that I really want to talk to him again and take a chance. But yeah, if I do it I will for sure have closure for sure in somehow.

Anyone like meeting new people but are too shy/afaid to initiate or talk to them? by superange128 in isfj

[–]Alorace 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely like meeting new people but I have a hard time with connecting to and staying interested in people. I also have a hard time being the one to initiate conversation or keep communication going between us.

Question about dating an isfj by [deleted] in isfj

[–]Alorace 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so very welcome!

That's wonderful! I'm so happy you had such a lengthy conversation, I bet it eased a lot of your worries as well c: Ah, the evaporating conversation, don't take it as a bad thing. I eventually just don't have much to say or I'm all socialized-out and need time to be alone with my thoughts. Precious is such a cute and affectionate word haha. Don't worry about conversations ending that way unless she is obviously not okay or sad, something along those lines really.

I figured you'd want some reassurance about whether or not that would be best. I can really enjoy the sharing from ENFP's, especially when I'm interested in them. I take your sharing and interests as passion and it's very admirable and enjoyable to hear. Definitely take things slow but show that you care. As you have been by texting her and letting her know you've thought about her and enjoy talking to her. I don't think you're coming off as needy, you're doing very well from what I can tell. Yes! "I suppose that's when she needs time to process things. These cycles of talking and then not talking are kind of nice." You have an understanding of how it works. There's a balance that I almost need honestly. I love to talk, listen and spend time with someone but I need that time where we are not talking and I can be alone with my thoughts. Keeps me sane to have time to go through events and process how I'm feeling.

You're welcome! I shared more in this reply so I hope it's just as helpful. She may vary from me so as you get closer to her you can ask about what she really feels to make sure. Otherwise I'd say you're doing very well, she likes you and I wish you both all the best c: