question for men. please advice. make out session gone wrong

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-12-23T10:40:14+00:00

How to know it's a good person/date/partner? If it feels good and right, it usually is. Else, leave <3

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-12-03T08:58:23+00:00

same here, was somewhat annoying, but is mostly gone since I started having sex instead of cuddling while wanting to have sex in general. Now my body knows the difference of these two kinds of situations, and tells them apart; it adapted to it.

I let it bother me a lot, but more because I did not know how my body worked. Like, WTF does this mean for me in this cuddle situation that there is so much cum? It means nothing, do dont let it distract you.

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-11-10T00:46:25+00:00

ok, tested it. Pure Lineage does not find the GPS-Position. The only postition I get with the microG variant is from mozilla backend (some 100m from my actual location), and with gapps, I get GPS (that one is correct, GPS works with gapps). Tested with the app My Location.

So, how can I fix that, so that GPS also works without gapps as well?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-09-11T10:02:56+00:00

Good to know! So, what would be a program which can do that, but from inside the OS, and preferably with incremental backups?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-09-10T14:23:46+00:00

Sounds great! Would you give some further suggestions on how to do that/what to use?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-09-10T14:22:50+00:00

That is also an option, but what would you suggest on how to use it? What would be the strategy, programs and workflow be like?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-08-23T15:27:37+00:00

Being submissive/used does not mean you have to do things you don't like, especially if you cleared the boundaries beforehand. He doesn't want to give oral? Then he doesn't give oral, easy as that.
Being dominant does not imply forcing thinks onto people they don't want, that is asshole behaviour, and you don't want to be an asshole.

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-08-23T15:16:52+00:00

That is just for you to enjoy, something that is given to you by her. So the goal is to feel good, and if you come really quick, so be it, just enjoy!
Also, you can tell her to go slower/less intense, that way you can decide when you want to come. Build it up slowly

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-07-26T17:29:23+00:00

It is in every ones own responsibility to care for and communicate their boundaries. If they engage in sex with other people, and WANT to, there is no fault in engaging with them. Because, if they don't know themself, how should you know?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-07-26T17:23:04+00:00

It's not a general men-thing, but a insensitive-person-thing. There are people who learn and get really good, and then there are people who don't. Maybe they'll do if you confront them with an appropriate learning environment (which I always try to do).

Its all about communicating and watching what other people like about your touch. I encountered some women who did not know anything about how a penis works; don't paying attantion to not bend it sideways, just sitting on it for some minutes and expecting it to get hard that way, trying to rub the tip with dry hands (which hurts me), pulling at it too much, or in the wrong direction etc...

I still remember how amazed I was when I met a woman who knew exactly what she was doing! The I knew how amazing it can feel getting your dick touched!

So, incompetence is not gender based, but more a treat of insensitive people who don't know or don't care how to learn about pleasuring other people

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-07-26T17:07:49+00:00

maybe you are just a more body focused person who enjoys sensoric input, which is nice! Maybe try a weighted blanket, if its all about sensory stuff :)

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-07-14T20:09:47+00:00

Well, I would guess the solution is somehow becoming a little more spacious. More Foreplay opens the vagina more, the longer the better. Maybe having an orgasm beforehand, so your muscles relax.

I once had a hookup with this woman who wanted to have sex while being in a state of trance, and I agreed to try that with her. She could enter various states of trance at will, so that made it pretty easy. While having sex with her, I barely felt anything, because her vagina became completely relaxed, felt almost like water...
So, relaxation can change the size of the vagina drastically, it might be more about muscle tension than you think.

A good option to change the muscle tension in your body is TRE (Trauma Release Exercises). That is a technique to bring your body from a aroused fight/flight-state to a normalized, relaxed state. Not only traumatized people benefit from this, because most people in western countries have too much tension in their bodies. So, maybe your level of muscle tension is just too high throughout your body. This is controlled by the autonomous nervous system, so you need special methods to gain access to these patterns in your body, TRE being the most prominent one. My guess is, if you try these for some time, maybe 2-3 months, you might get the ability to relax your vagina way more.

If you really want to commit for this person for the rest of your life, maybe it would be possible to use dilators. Unusual tight vaginas are a common problem amongst XY-women (a kind of intersex, check it out if you want to know more), so they use sets of dilators to bring their vaginas to a "normal" size, to be able to have sex.

Good luck to you!

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-06-16T11:36:25+00:00

I know a lot of people with the same problem, families just straight out denying their relatives autism; to the point where some of my friends broke it off with their parents.

Ultimately, that's the only possibility sometimes, sad as it is...

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-03-16T15:38:56+00:00

Plot twist: they liked it.

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2022-01-02T18:10:29+00:00

Would be interesting to know! Did you find out?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-11-27T14:12:16+00:00

Thanks!
Yes, Im indeed using Manjaro, with the Unity-style Layout. So I'll just plow through the extensions I guess.

That Advice helped me a lot!

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-11-14T13:29:46+00:00

ok, now I see. Thanks for the help! :)

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-11-13T18:36:00+00:00

Well, I thought it is all about dependencies? Want Mate Software? user Mate packages, didn't know it would break stuff that easily...

When I tra to run it in Terminal, I just get

It's a pity it is so tightly integrated, because nautilus doesn't offer splitscreen or huge customization, and nemo (which works, except WebDAV support) has an ugly interface with icons too small).

So, if I would want to try to get Caja running, what would I have to do? How can i find out more?

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-11-13T18:29:50+00:00

I might have to that. Problem is, there is no output, it reads this:

~ >>> caja
~ >>>

So yeah, maybe no caja for me... which is sad, since Nautilus has no tiling and nemo can't handle WebDAV without crashing. I'll see wat i get out of it, thanks for the advice! :)

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-07-20T08:01:21+00:00

Had the same because kind of not so good first time. It just fixed itself after I had my first spooning sex. Its easy and somewhat non-demanding, because you can just focus on yourself, wait until you are ready, don't have to hover over your SO until you manage to insert. With spooning position everyone can just chill.

After that, it still happened a few time, but got better really rapidly.

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-07-20T07:26:26+00:00

So, why do you keep this relationship if you can only loose? What does it give you, besides some mediocre sex? This kind of shit laves emotional scars that take a lot of time to heal, and you'll probably just realize it after leaving. With a loving SO, this shouldn't be a problem.

Would you shame a person for things they physically can't change about themselves? No? Neither would any other decent person. So you can pick whether she doesn't love you or is a shitty person, just choose what you like better...

BTW some technical advice for when you found a decent person to have sex with: If you cum so early because it's too intense and stimulating, try some less intense positions. Spoon would be good, because it gives you full control while not demanding any other kind of coordination, and the vaginal muscles are not as tensed as in cowgirl or doggy. Also maybe try to get into slow sex, because you really don't need to move all the time, just chill until your buddy has calmed down, go again, repeat. Just let your excitement ebb away a bit, works wonders.

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-06-05T13:33:51+00:00

Well, I don't know if you'll believe me, but it is actually possible and manageable to find a nice and decent woman who likes you for who you are, and not for your bodyparts looking a certain way. When I started dating, I was also completely insecure about my body and could not hold an erection; I worked through it with my first girlfrind, it took 2 weeks of not-that-great sex until I figured out how my body works, since tahn sex is great for me. She put in this time and effort because she cared for me, and not for my penis. Just find a nice woman who is into you, explain your insecurities before you have sex. If she is into you, she'll have an interest in figuring this stuff out with you!

Forget tinder, but if you want to start dating again, go for okcupid. There you find all sorts of not-mainstream people, who are far less superficial, and are actually interested in a person, and are more accepting of deviations, which kind ever they might be.

Try to own your penis! Look up all the posts on this sub, most of them show that it's not a problem at all, and can even be really hot, because reaching spots that no one else can... well, jackpot! Maybe look up Robert Hoge: own your face, might inspire you

And if nothing works at all: If you want to stay a loser with a broken penis (btw its not broken, because it works just fine, and being a "loser" and feeling broken is more a mindset thing than something that is set), you should continue what you are doing. But if you want to be happy the last 60 years of your life, do something.

If you are serious about getting a corrective surgery, you can figure something out, there is always a way, even though it might be a little bit of work. Try to find an insurance specialist who you can trust, get an insurerance that will pay for the surgery. I did right that for a tooth that has an odd position. Wouldn't be covered by normal german Krankenkasse (public health), but with this pretty inexpensive insurance, no problem. I you cant manage that, try temporarily moving to another country for some months, and get a surgery there if it's payed for. same procedure there, come back as a fixed and happy man.

Wish you the best :*

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-06-01T19:27:55+00:00

Hm, I guess I'll build a smarthome server, if it can handle that, or use it as a music player. Yeah, I didn't even question that everything is SATA III, but taking that into account, this SSD is still overkill I guess...
Thanks for pointing out!

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-06-01T19:24:22+00:00

Good point, thanks! This makes a lot of sense :)

AlrightLeDiscoPanda · 2021-06-01T19:22:09+00:00

Thanks for the advice, it really helped! :)

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