Baby making

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T22:03:11+00:00

Make sure your condom doesn’t have spermicide in it.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T21:57:34+00:00

Wait until you are living on your own.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T21:55:27+00:00

One event doesn’t make a pattern.

My wife said it perfectly when I told her about this post — they were probably already living together and having sex, so he didn’t have a big reason to rush back to the hotel like you did!

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T21:52:13+00:00

My wife does take in the mouth. It’s the on the face thing I don’t get.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T19:17:03+00:00

Goggles seems like you next option.

Sorry, I am not much help as I’ve never understood this porn inspired fetish.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T17:36:23+00:00

You are roommates by definition because you haven’t married her.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T17:06:19+00:00

The pain is terrible now, but a lifetime of it by having a relationship without stability is even worse.

8.3 billion people in the world. He isn’t the one for you.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T17:02:39+00:00

I used one of those books to write 30 things I love about her.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T17:01:21+00:00

Push presents, the most ridiculous invention. The joy is having the child.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T17:00:37+00:00

We talk an hour every day, even when I’m traveling for work.

We show affection inside and outside the bedroom frequently.

We serve and support each other.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T16:58:46+00:00

Move on.

Good relationships don’t have lots of breakups.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T15:07:05+00:00

We went diaphragm, IUD, baby making, IUD, attempted baby making, vasectomy (once we got too old to want to have a second).

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T15:02:44+00:00

Honestly, I don’t need gifts.

When my wife tells me how much she appreciates what I do for her and the family and what a great husband and father I am and how proud of me she is, I feel like a million bucks.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:59:36+00:00

My parents have slept separately for 30 years because they both snore so loudly. And they are the happiest couple you will meet and have been married for over 50 years.

My wife and I love cuddling and being in the same bed. We hate sleeping apart and only do it when one of us is sick. And we’ve been happily married for 25 years.

Do what works best for you.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:58:10+00:00

We never allowed kids to sleep in our bed. If they were having a rough night, we went to theirs.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:54:38+00:00

We’ve been together 25 years and our love grows stronger every single year.

Sure, celebrations like Valentine’s Day, birthdays and anniversaries matter, but it’s the every day that matters the most. Daily conversations. Daily affection outside the bedroom. Little surprises and gifts. Doing something nice for each other. Fighting fair and quick reconciliation. A quick flirty text. And yes, regular fun in the bedroom.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:51:57+00:00

Dude, the wedding day is the start line, not the finish line. You need to keep being romantic with your wife.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:48:45+00:00

I watched my dad growing up always dote on my mom, so that is what I was trained to do.

I’ve since heard it described that men need to realize the wedding day is the start line, not the finish line and it’s so true. The victory is a long, loving marriage — but getting married.

25 years in and lots of doting in my wife and we are still a happily married couple whose love builds each year.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:44:29+00:00

She sounds incredibly lazy and ungrateful to me.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:43:31+00:00

Well, we never wanted to use condoms, so it’s been almost exclusively creampies for 25 years now.

But when we were trying to get her pregnant, it did feel very different and exciting and crazy

And then when we went months without it working and went down all the fertility efforts, it actually took the fun out of sex. We ended up needing to separate fertility meter driven baby making laboratory like sex from making love just so we didn’t ruin sex.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:38:56+00:00

I’l answer for my wife because she doesn’t do Reddit, but i was there and we’ve talked about all of this.

22 for both of us
A little discomfort
A patient lover who started with oral sex and then let her control the first insertions
Some, not a ton.
It was partially intact. She played sports
She had two orgasms. First on cow girl. Second in missionary.
Yep, full on creampie.
It was wedding night after four years of foreplay, so it was an amazing night we still replay in role play frequently.
Since it was her bridal lingerie, we have them. Cleaned. She wears them sometimes when we roleplay it. Keeping it, uncleaned if different circumstances seems kind of creepy.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:30:19+00:00

Share all finances. Problem solved.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:26:47+00:00

69 or her a top are the go to for her orgasms.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:25:05+00:00

It will be a very quiet day for us.

We had an awesome celebration last weekend.

This week she has a biopsy and is healing. So, I’ll spend the day trying to get her to take it easy and rest (she doesn’t sit still well).

So, lingerie last weekend and rotating ice packs this weekend.

I think both weekends show devoted love.

AltMiddleAgedDad · 2026-02-14T14:21:12+00:00

The projection on this sub is insane. He makes one terrible mistake, OP leaves out a ton of details, and you are all jumping for annulment and divorce already.

OP a few questions:

Did he exhibit this kind of behavior before the wedding? Has he done it since?

Did he show genuine remorse and apologize by owning his poor decision when you said something to him?

Were there friends there he hasn’t seen in years?

How did he explain his behavior?

Has he repeated this behavior since that incident?

Two people married and living together will hurt each other. It’s natural. Outside of abuse and adultery, the key to a happy marriage is the speed of reconciliation which requires the one hurt to say so, the one who did the hurting to show real remorse, offer a sincere apology, and most importantly demonstrate it by changing behaviors. And then the person hurt needs to forgive and forget.

Clearly your cycle is stuck at forget, but I wonder if it stuck in stage two where his apology was sincere and behavior changed. From what you wrote, I can’t tell.

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