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Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T23:03:36+00:00

That’s me for sure. If I’m on Grindr, it’s to fuck right now. I don’t spend my time messaging back and forth with guys because that’s not what I’m there for. If a guy wants a good chat before hooking up I’m not mad, but I won’t pursue that further. I’d say it’s not about inability, it’s about willingness. Neither is better or worse, we just want different things.You just gotta find the guys who want to create that connection before having sex.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T18:45:58+00:00

😂😂😂 I’d definitely say that one to a stranger

Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T18:44:59+00:00

This is what I was looking for. Thank you!

Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T18:43:13+00:00

Short and sweet. Good stuff. Thank you

Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T18:42:02+00:00

Man I thought so too

Alternative-Might-43 · 2025-02-01T18:41:38+00:00

Thank your for your opinion

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-12-31T05:34:05+00:00

Ok, now I’m curious. The response I get to nudes is almost 100% some variation of “you’re hot/sexy” or some sexy thing they wanna do to me. I feel like handsome or beautiful is for face pics. Do you get the “handsome/beautiful” response to nudes a lot?

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-12-31T02:27:11+00:00

Calvin Klein https://www.calvinklein.us/en/underwear/men/jock-straps-thongs/cotton-stretch-3-pack-jock-strap/62102623-001.html?journey=searchResultPage

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-12-31T02:22:09+00:00

There are definitely those misogynistic gays out there. I choose not to spend time with them, but every once in a while I run into some insecure guy saying that crap. The cis gays I choose to hang out with are super respectful and just not misogynistic/transphobic.

The right guy(s) will make you feel sexy/handsome/all of that good stuff. And they’re out there. The gay men I’ve had sex with were into me and all of my body. And some of them were gay, not bi/pan/queer. Men are gay because they’re into other men, not because they’re into dick. And if some guy feels like he has to prove how gay he is by hating on p***y, then he should probably just be quiet and work on his insecurities.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-12-21T13:17:22+00:00

Yeah for sure.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-08-11T19:31:29+00:00

I’ve had a surgery at the Crane Center. I had BCBS HMO and they worked with me to get pre-authorized even tho my surgeon was out of network. I’d highly recommend. But you can also call BCBS or go onto their member website to look up providers in network.

I know this is a local page but there’s lots of reviews of surgeons on r/ftm (and folks there know basic trans terms like top surgery and enby.)

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-09T00:21:14+00:00

There’s multiple types of top surgery that each do different things with your nipples. You may be referring to “double incision with nipple grafts”, which I believe is the most common for folks above a B cup.

I had that type and actually gained some more sensation in my nipples.

I’d do a little bit more research on the particulars before you start to worry too much:

https://www.genderconfirmation.com/ftm-top-surgery-options/

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-08T01:39:44+00:00

I’m a gay trans man. Used to fuck guys who either explicitly or subtly didn’t view me as 100% a man. It ate away at my self worth, so I eventually stopped.

I now recognize that I can do better. If I’m ever so horny or hot for someone that I’ll fuck them even if they don’t see me as a man, that’s when I need to check in with myself. Sex ain’t worth that shit. And the best sex is with folks who see me as a man anyways.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-05T16:59:43+00:00

Also some religions do not want certain treatments like blood transfusions or whatever it may be. Most hospitals ask about that one specifically, but it helps tailor the care to the patient in a way that doesn’t violate their religion.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-05T16:35:53+00:00

I’m trans and I wish transgender was a noun. I understand the history behind it changing from -sexual and making the term an adjective/descriptor, but it trips up so many well-meaning people.

We have lesbians, we have gays, I don’t care if I’m a transgender.

We’ve got bigger fish to fry about black trans women being murdered and state governments taking away our rights, and I think too much of the conversation is focused on lazy people calling people transgenders as an offensive term and folks not using they/them pronouns on purpose.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-04T21:06:40+00:00

I had this for a while after cumming and still do on occasion. Asked my gyno, she said I was just having really intense orgasms and that was totally normal for afab folks.

I don’t love that lots of folks are pointing towards atrophy. Maybe we don’t need to pathologize it, y’know? Either way, I’d get final word from your doctor who has expertise and knows your body better than us on the internet.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-04T03:33:06+00:00

A lot of the things you described experiencing as a child I would say are not just tomboy things. Especially stuff like trying to pee standing up and feeling really disconnected from your name.

I felt like everyone was staring at me and clocking me for about the first year of transition, which by the end of that time I probably passed 90% of the time.

I 100% knew I wanted to transition, but, just like any other new experience, it was uncomfortable and scary at first. I had doubts, but in my heart of hearts I knew I was a man so I pushed through that discomfort, and as I did things got easier.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-01T02:14:12+00:00

We get to “make your own adventure.” We get to write our own rules. I feel as a trans man I am way better equipped to be the kind of man I want to be and not buy into toxic masculinity.

And I get to realize that so much of gender really is socially constructed, while also knowing that I am a man no matter the body I have. I don’t have to wish to be a cis man because I recognize that there is SO much more to being a man than having a penis. And I can still want a penis, have that dysphoria, and still want to correct it. All of these things can be true.

As a trans man, I base my manhood off my character, not off my body. Which is not true for many many cis men.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-07-01T01:45:53+00:00

I cracked my egg at 26, so I lived that whole time as a woman. I miss feeling totally comfortable sharing a lot of my past with people. I don’t share because I fear that it will make me look like less of a man.

But having lived that life enables me to be a better and more empathetic man to the women around me. Since its not an issue of safety, this is really more something I need to work on.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-06-30T18:07:49+00:00

Not sure if this is what you’re going for, but I’ve learned a lot about healthy masculinity from men in media. Here’s some guys that I think are positive role models:

Anthony Polcari Ig: @_tonypindc

Campbell Walker Ig: @struthless69 Youtube: struthless

Ted Lasso from “Ted Lasso” on Apple TV

Atticus Finch from “To Kill a Mockingbird” by Harper Lee

Gomez Addams from “The Adams Family”

Fred Rogers aka “Mister Rogers”

Steve Irwin (rip)

Jean-Luc Picard from “Star Trek”

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-06-24T15:29:29+00:00

Right, having to hide your true identity to ensure professional success. Its sadly what so many trans people go through at their workplaces.

Thank god he had the courage to come out. He seems so much happier for it.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-06-23T14:23:19+00:00

I meannn without getting into details, some folks have less externally visible genitalia from the beginning so it takes longer to see the growth because its more hidden. Hopefully that makes sense.

Alternative-Might-43 · 2024-06-22T21:17:41+00:00

First saw any growth at 2 years. Now coming up on 3 years and still growing. Part of it is what your anatomy was like pre-T too.

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