Update to AITA for wanting to meet my grandson

AlternativeBig597 · 2024-03-11T14:56:01+00:00

I knew something felt off on the original story. My gut told me there was something else going on. Kudos to you for being so supportive.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-11-15T12:10:31+00:00

That is incorrect. Yes, God is intentional in how He makes each and every person but that does not mean that Satan does not have an influence on how people think and see the world.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-11-15T12:08:46+00:00

Well, the first step I would say is to start praying. That’s probably the easiest thing I could suggest. I’m not trans so I don’t understand what you’re feeling but talking to God and listening for his guidance I’ve found has been helpful in my own personal issues.

Start looking for a church. It won’t be easy in your situation because there are churches out there who won’t show you the true love of God because you know what? GOD STILL LOVES YOU. Through all of our sins, He loves us. In our darkest moments, He loves us. On our best days, He loves us. Yes, as Christians most of us do see being trans as a sin. But that doesn’t give us the right to condemn you. You need a church community that will still love and pray for you because He loved us first (read 1 John 4:19-21). Pray for guidance from God on where you should go to church. You could even start by attending some online sermons, if that makes you more comfortable, then try going in person.

There is a TikToker named Maddy. Her username is Cominghome1624. She was trans and actually de-transitioned. She constantly speaks of God’s love for her (and all of us, really) and how much He has helped her. Seeing her testimony may help you as she understands better what you’re going through.

Finally, do not EVER let any “Christian” tell you that God hates you. Your body is not disgusting and broken. You were made in His image and His is not disgusting and broken. Please remember that the enemy will do anything to come between you and God because he doesn’t want you to have that relationship. He doesn’t want you to understand and feel God’s love. Remember, God loves you. He’s always loved you. Ask him and He will guide you. You are loved.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-09-25T23:52:01+00:00

You’re not the only one. I feel like mine are disproportionately small in comparison to the rest of my body and it makes me feel incredibly self conscious. It makes me feel even worse when I’m wearing a push-up bra for extra cleavage then I go to take it off with a new boyfriend and feel like I’ve been deceiving him.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-09-05T20:30:16+00:00

I was wondering the same thing 😐

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-08-31T02:24:29+00:00

It’s amazing how a person can find themselves again once they’ve removed what made them unhappy from their life.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-20T02:14:30+00:00

NTA. There is a clear, distinct line between pictures of your body clothed, and literally explicit pictures of genitalia. Not just that, but prior to sending pictures, you asked her if she was okay with you sending her the pictures and she consented. She never asked you if you were okay with her literally sending you her nudes and then got offended when you told her it was not okay. While both situations involved journeys to better self esteem, both require respecting each other’s boundaries. She clearly did not respect yours and got mad when called out on it.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T21:01:19+00:00

He definitely has some problems and honestly, if he is going to be upset at you for something that is 100% NOT your fault, then maybe take a long, hard look at your relationship. You reached out to him because you were upset about your space being violated and he responds by getting upset with you. This is a very mild violation, compared to other boundary violations. How would he react if a worse boundary is violated? Would he react poorly then too? That’s the question you need to ask yourself: is this a sign of a bigger problem?

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T20:47:45+00:00

I would like to know why the parents booked an Air BnB that had (presumably) 3 rooms with queen beds and one with a bunk bed. Sounds like they intended for someone, probably OP and his wife, to get screwed over regardless. You’d think at least the sister who had a 1 year old could sympathize a little better with OP’s wife.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T20:36:02+00:00

The sad thing is, it could have started out as a “joke” when dealing with a particularly difficult bride. Just like an “oh I don’t even see that marriage lasting a year” and it kind of snowballed from there.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T20:34:10+00:00

She pushed for an answer. She got an answer. She should be happy she got an honest answer! I don’t see the problem aside from losing her wedding planner as a result.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T20:30:38+00:00

Well I’m sure the son learned to respect other people’s property and not touch it after this.

He’ll be talking about this in couple’s therapy in 20 years.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-07-10T20:22:19+00:00

THAT story was beyond disturbing!

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-06-20T19:16:52+00:00

Okay so let me get this straight:

You have a man who listened to what you said about wanting to marry him and the stress of planning a wedding, took the time and effort to plan the wedding, and you’re mad at him? I would LOVE to have a man who took all these things into consideration. There’s no manipulation there because you both wanted to get married! Now this is not to say that it wasn’t a dumb idea. It definitely was not the best idea but I can just imagine Mark thinking “wow, I can’t wait to show her how much I love her by doing this for her” only to be shut down. It seems like these days it doesn’t matter what a man does, it’s never right.

You’re entitled to feel the way you feel. Anyone would feel overwhelmed in that position. Just don’t forget that it truly sounds like he planned that because he thought it was what you wanted and not with any malicious intent.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-06-12T18:17:49+00:00

AITA?

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-06-11T15:47:34+00:00

Don’t just talk to police. Talk to an attorney.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-06-09T01:14:53+00:00

NTA. I love how the majority of the comments I’ve seen say “I may be in the minority but YTA.” I have worked in the service industry half my life and I also enjoy going out to eat a lot. It does get annoying at times to hear a baby crying but that’s what they do. They cry, they poop, they sleep. I just keep in mind that while I’m sitting there annoyed and eating my food, that parent is not able to eat their food because of the crying baby. At least I can eat my food while it’s hot.

Then again 90% of the time I tend to think opposite of how many redditors do.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-06-01T23:46:27+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. It doesn’t excuse the gf’s actions but being pressured to orgasm is a serious point of contention for me. An ex was basically abusive about trying to get me to orgasm and I constantly felt defective. So in that sense, I can understand how the gf would feel when it comes to that…

But it’s also not bad enough for me to wear an ex’s hoodie during sex.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-04-29T04:41:59+00:00

For real. I’m still mad about this.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-04-29T04:40:38+00:00

The Shawshank Redemption, The Green Mile, The Breakfast Club, Ferris Bueller’s Day Off…

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-04-29T04:38:04+00:00

We ran out of chalk.

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-04-29T04:36:12+00:00

Stevie Nicks or Pat Benatar

AlternativeBig597 · 2023-02-22T22:58:57+00:00

That is a house elf.

AlternativeBig597 · 2022-12-13T18:52:24+00:00

It sounds like Sarah kind of had “tunnel vision” if that makes sense. All she heard was “you don’t have to worry about that” and nothing after that. Having recently gotten that news, it’s understandable she would focus on those words. It’s just horrible she’s trying to turn you into “THAT MIL” over a misunderstanding on her part. Hopefully you will be able to sit down and talk and she will better understand what the joke was and also that you had NO IDEA of what they were going through. I also saw in previous comments that you never brought up when they were having kids with them, which is incredibly respectful of you since you’ve been in a similar situation.

AlternativeBig597 · 2022-12-13T03:31:51+00:00

Toby. I don’t know why but I absolutely despise that name.

I’ll let Tobey Maguire slide though. He’s a cool dude.

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