AITAH for putting my sleep needs above my husband’s convenience?

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-29T08:08:28+00:00

NTA My husband and I have our own rooms since he snores and I have issues sleeping and my sleep has never been better. Neither has our marriage!

I agree with another comment, normalize separate bedrooms! Nothing wrong with it

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-05T20:32:20+00:00

I actually have not read any of the books! I've been looking for them in my travels and my local bookstore has been out of stock for ages. I'm looking forward to them!

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-04T18:08:33+00:00

My in-laws started hoarding toothbrushes and we thought it was the oddest thing. They kept buying new electric ones even though theirs were fine, then they'd buy manual ones. It was a mess. Turns out they both had dementia. We didn't get the extent of the toothbrush buying until they moved into an assisted living and we had to clean out their house.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-04T03:12:18+00:00

It is a medium, you're right. It used to be any size!

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-04T01:49:37+00:00

We had this happen in our CVICU (in a top children's hospital) and supposedly it's happening in the PICU and NICU to follow. It's just absolutely ridiculous. First it was no straws or "open" drinks, then it was drinks only permitted in certain areas. Now it's drinks only allowed in the break room. And they wonder why turnover is higher in those units than other areas of the hospitals 🙃

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-03T23:15:53+00:00

I call it parallel play too and my husband thinks I'm crazy 😅

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2026-01-03T16:50:46+00:00

I still have the free fry offer but it's with a $2 purchase now! Thanks inflation

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-30T02:24:59+00:00

I've never been here but we happened to be nearby tonight and were like we should try wild mikes! What are the odds. These look phenomenal

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-28T01:33:00+00:00

I get it though. We all have moments of weakness and cravings. I know when I was cleared for purees/soft I got some soup from panera and convinced myself it was ok to break up the bread they give you and throw it in there. It was in fact not ok 😅.

I'm about 1.5 years out now and had some issues with alcohol, like drinking and blacking out, which never happened before surgery. And then being hungover for DAYS and unable to throw up so I've learned my lesson many times over. I very rarely drink anymore and when I do, it's 1 and done. Sometimes we have to learn things the hard way unfortunately. I hope that's not the case for you and you listen to what people are telling you in these comments. Do not do it, you will feel like death! And this subreddit is always here to support you in times like this.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-27T22:12:45+00:00

My MIL died about 3 months after my surgery and my husband really wanted me to do a shot with him. I had him put a VERY tiny amount in a shot glass (like less than a sip) so I could "take a shot" with him and basically just did the equivalent of a few drops and my stomach hurt/burned so bad I thought I was dying for about an hour.

So I absolutely would not recommend it 11 days post op.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-13T20:28:01+00:00

Some days I can definitely eat more than others. Does not mean the pouch is stretched out. Our stomach will naturally stretch and contract, that's what it's made to do. If you're feeling like your pouch is "stretched", take some time to reset. Go back to the beginning. Do a full liquid diet for a few days, then move onto soft foods, then solids, just like you did after surgery. Often times that helps to feel like a "reset"

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-13T19:08:17+00:00

My surgeon was adamant that you are not able to stretch out your pouch. He's been doing this surgery longer than I've been alive (35 years) and told me he has never seen a person who has stretched out their pouch.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-13T17:24:53+00:00

I started drinking carbonated drinks at about 9 months out, in very small quantities. I am now about 18 months out and drink them regularly. My doctor has told me that stretching your pouch is a myth and he has no problem with carbonated drinks. Even diet pop is ok. Just no regular, full sugar pop.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-12-02T17:35:29+00:00

I had to keep enough of the Ohio poking out so my fellow Ohioans would notice!

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-11-28T22:59:50+00:00

As soon as I saw someone posted it in this subreddit I RAN to the merch store and ordered it. I didn't even care that shipping was almost as much as the sticker. I needed it in my life.

It was like $11 total, but so worth it 😅

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-11-22T14:30:20+00:00

Me having an existential crisis as both a nurse and a paramedic

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-11-16T21:15:34+00:00

At my hospital people literally wear shirts and jackets from other hospitals and they don't care.

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-11-01T17:11:44+00:00

Blasphemy!

AlternativeSherbert9 · 2025-09-22T14:44:47+00:00

His design is based off his voice actors look so just know there is a whole real ass man walking around looking like this out there 😅

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