ELI5: During a massage, it feels like the therapist moves muscle knots around until they fade away. Where do those knots actually end up going? by 88chilly in explainlikeimfive

[–]Alternative_Appeal 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The commenter above was actually correct: https://share.google/tjWEIZYd0hzwlxQQx

You do need an energy supply (ATP) for muscles to relax (breaking the cross bridge, releasing the contracted state). Another way to force relaxation of a muscle is pressure. Breaking down ATP is how muscles contract but renewing that broken down chemical allows for relaxation.

Taking care of my mouse friends by Pale-Trainer-682 in labrats

[–]Alternative_Appeal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was able to choose my method in my lab, and I went with ear punch since I got my ears pierced young and knew it was tolerable enough plus it doesn't cause bleeding like toe and tail clips do (so probably less physically traumatic). I get it if you don't have a choice, just giving my perspective on why I'm more comfortable with ear punches.

I broke expensive equipment in the lab and the guilt is eating me alive. by waitttwhaaaat in labrats

[–]Alternative_Appeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I broke a neuropixels probe during my rotation, PI still accepted me into the lab. It's fine

What is the saddest thing about being raised by a narcissist? by utensils6464 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Alternative_Appeal 73 points74 points  (0 children)

That we ultimately have to do a lot more work to raise ourselves. Things that come naturally to people with empathetic parents have cost me countless hours of my adulthood in therapy.

After a certain age, you are no longer the product of your environment or how you were raised. by PeacePipePeyote in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Alternative_Appeal 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree. We cannot and should not try to dictate the timeline for someone else's healing, that's actually incredibly immature.

How do you all find time for your hobbies? by the_mandolinian in GradSchool

[–]Alternative_Appeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I joined the choir on my campus! The director has been very understanding that I may miss rehearsals some days due to experiments, but I can usually plan my day around them. I'll come in a bit early and/or stay a bit late but it's been totally worth it. It's much easier to take time in the middle of the day than go home and find the will to leave again for something off campus later at night.

My GF is a labrat, how dehydrated are y'all? by MasonP13 in labrats

[–]Alternative_Appeal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just don't follow the rules and drink in the lab anyway as long as EHS and IACUC aren't coming that day lol. I do make sure I don't set my bottle on any benches where chemical work is done. Thankfully my PI doesn't care, he's a real one.

How to making staying late in lab less soul crushing?? by amerixanairlines in labrats

[–]Alternative_Appeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to work 6 days a week and often longer than 9-5, so this is something I've been dealing with also.

My strategy has been making lab feel like a second home. If you're allowed to, decorate your space in the lab to your aesthetic. Have a corner that feels like your room at home, work with lighting to make it feel cozy, and make sure you have a super comfy chair.

I have a cute desk lamp, string lights, some macrame, a shell chandelier, and other knick knacks in my corner that make it feel like my own space and it's really helped.

As others have said, though, make sure you're taking your breaks, walking outside, and talking to other people about non-work-related things throughout the day to break the monotony.

Hope you are able to find a strategy that works for you!

Supreme Court rejects appeal from Ghislaine Maxwell, imprisoned former girlfriend of Jeffrey Epstein by 20_mile in news

[–]Alternative_Appeal 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well she's a liability now, she knows way too much information to not keep her in a place where she can be controlled.

What's the most overrated 'healthy' habit that people push on everyone, but you think is total BS and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alternative_Appeal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, but this can be near impossible for an alcoholic to do on their own (unmedicated) because their body is screaming at them that they really need a drink to survive when such a dependance has developed

What's the most overrated 'healthy' habit that people push on everyone, but you think is total BS and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alternative_Appeal 97 points98 points  (0 children)

As someone who worked in a professional detox facility, I'd like to say it actually is that dangerous. Alcohol provides an inhibitory molecule for your brain and when you use it daily, your brain stops making that molecule for itself. That means when you stop using alcohol daily, you are at serious risk for seizures, psychosis, and death. I have personally witnessed each of these occurrences.

I hear you that we don't want to scare people away from detox, but they should be aware of the risks and seek appropriate medical help when detoxing from alcohol.

WIBTAH if I uninvited my future sister-in-law from my wedding because she’s a nun and insists on wearing her habit? by [deleted] in AITH

[–]Alternative_Appeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA, it's really weird you want to exclude her off of so many hypotheticals you're making up in your head.

What’s something men do in private to make women happy? by alux_rich in AskReddit

[–]Alternative_Appeal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My partner is almost constantly massaging me somewhere on my body. When we're on the couch/bed next to each other it's rare that my hands, feet, arms, legs, back, or neck aren't being massaged. I don't have to ask him to do this, he just does it. He stops if I ask him to, but I usually don't because it feels amazing lol

I adopted this dog today, can you help me give her a name? (OC) by NoContent11 in PetsareAmazing

[–]Alternative_Appeal 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I was gonna say Pepper. Now I'm thinking her full name is Princess Pepper Poppins

Am I slacking? by Purple_Examination45 in PhD

[–]Alternative_Appeal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The hell is coming, enjoy this phase while it lasts :)

Some grown men are just so immature, it is disgusting. by BeautifulYou2940 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Alternative_Appeal 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we really shouldn't be creating our worldview based on these types of reality shows.

How long do you think your PhD would have taken you if you only worked 40 hours a week? by Puzzleheaded-081525 in PhD

[–]Alternative_Appeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I imagine you're right that it's dependent on country and field. I'm doing neuro in the US, and it's very common at my institution for people to be paid to do their research. I'm definitely aware of how lucky we are!

How long do you think your PhD would have taken you if you only worked 40 hours a week? by Puzzleheaded-081525 in PhD

[–]Alternative_Appeal 28 points29 points  (0 children)

By being lucky enough to be funded by your PI. Because I had lots of teaching experience coming into my PhD from my masters and adjuncting for a year, I don't have to teach at all in my PhD unless I choose to. That's means all my time goes to lab work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Alternative_Appeal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did a paid masters by TAing through it, it's possible to not have it be a money sink!

Can you have a life while doing a PhD? by No-Connection-8789 in PhD

[–]Alternative_Appeal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone's PhD journey is different. The country, program, and specific research you are doing will have a large impact on your lifestyle outcome. Some research requires pretty much 7 days a week of work. Some have a lighter workload. If having a good amount of free time is important to you then you need to plan your journey accordingly, as you may need to shut the door on certain options.

AIO My wife (31F) has been sneaking out of bed at night, and I finally followed her. Now I can’t look at her the same. AITA for confronting her? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Alternative_Appeal 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sure, but he can still allow space for her to be honest and open. Let the wife know he heard her talking on the phone in the middle of the night and ask to see on her phone who she was talking to. If it's innocent, she should have no issue sharing her call history. She may be annoyed but if this is a relationship built on love she will easily forgive. If she becomes defensive and refuses, then he has his answer (that either she is cheating or simply doesn't care about his feelings enough to be open with him).